Because We Need It: Timoclea

Politically, things seem to be getting worse, not better. There’s been a deadly earthquake in Mexico, a deadly hurricane in the Caribbean — no, not that one, the other one. No, not that one, the other other one. And in the middle of it all, Congress has decided to take another swing at destroying healthcare, and as one might expect, this verse is worse than the first. But when things get hard, we can always think about Timoclea of Thebes.

How to help with Texas — and what doesn’t help

Watching Hurricane (now Tropical Storm) Harvey ravage the western Gulf Coast, with no apparent intention of leaving before the entire region is under water, and feeling helpless? Reasonable. When what people need is to be literally boatlifted from their flooded homes, it’s hard to sit hundreds of miles away and feel like there’s nothing you can do to make anything better. But you can! There are things you can do to help.

Four non-Confederate-general ways to not forget history

Confederate statue enthusiasts have argued that removal of such statues amounts to an erasure of history, and that they have to remain to remind us of how bad slavery is. But believe it or not, there are ways to memorialize difficult, painful, and contentious parts of history without glorifying, for instance, generals who led the wrong side of a war to perpetuate slavery. Birmingham’s Kelly Ingram Park provides several examples of different ways to do this with statues and sculptures memorializing the Civil Rights movement. Individually and collectively, they send the message that bigotry is bad, and equality is good, and fighting for freedom is noble, all without putting a single Confederate general on a literal pedestal.

Yes, this is America.

This isn’t how we want America to be. This doesn’t fit into the ideals we have for America. This isn’t how we see America when we squint at it like we’re looking at a Magic Eye painting whenever reality gets scary or disappointing. But it’s America.

Because We Need It: YOU DON’T.

You know how the world sucks, and everything is bad, and the U.S. president seems to be really trying to start a nuclear war, like a kid in middle school who talks big to show off to his friends but doesn’t realize that the other kid he’s messing with is dead serious when he talks about beating the crap out of the first kid? And the tech community is all “but what if women really are genetically bad at software” and women in said community are all “but no” and the community is all “hush woman, [DEATH THREAT]?” Well, here’s a guy on Twitter asking how to hit on a woman in the gym whose headphones should be an obvious sign that she DOES NOT WANT YOU TO DO THAT.

Notes From My Boner: Man Courageously Finds Wife Attractive

So this dude posted on Instagram with a photo of him and his wife at the beach and a lengthy note about his love for her “thick” thighs, ass, and waistline. And I know he’s gotten a lot of positive attention and that a lot of women (his wife included, thank God) see it as the most romantic thing in the world. But a dude getting infinite back pats because he finds his own wife attractive? The post is mostly about his love for big butts.