You can imagine how my jaw hit the floor when mom told me she reads TBD. It’s been popular in the circles I follow in the blogosphere to hash out a set of “things you might want to know” when you read my blog. Almost to the very last one, there’s b…

I struggle a bit from time to time trying to figure out what I should put on here. Part of that is trying to figure out who my audience is. I like being able to share my life with others without barriers. But there are interesting things that happen…

Make tea, not war. :) hehe!! ;)

BTW: Do we have the same hosting service? Both your site and mine have been down a lot today.

I mean, at least some of the people you’re probably talking at with this post. Like there are some people who are just not right. Either emotionally stunted, immature, or just plain unwell mentally. Or people who seem to think social mores are suspended on the internet. So they just don’t “get it”. They may actually LIKE the sandbox that you might find distasteful.

And that’s what’s problematic about the whole get out. You’re talking to people who don’t hear you, I’m afraid. haha. Those of us who do understand, and do behave in a mannerly courteous way, wouldn’t be harrassing you or bothering you. Those that don’t get it, don’t get it because they won’t.

That was another thing I found RIDICULOUS about that README… “Don’t be a psycho stalker.” Yeah, that’s going to stop someone who’s psycho. haha.

You simply can’t tell other people what to do or think. You can just either accept their behaviour or reject it.

And this IS the real world. The same rules can & do apply.

What I’m shocked at is that you don’t seem to be aware of your own power. You have the power to delete any comment on this blog that you choose. If you don’t like it, think it’s inappropriate, or whatever – you just poof, and it’s gone.

I treat my blog like my home. Guests are to behave like guests. My home, my rules.

And anyone who tries to tell me how they should be allowed to behave in my home, can stuff it where the sun doesn’t shine. Nobody’s going to manipulate me into compromising my own standards, my own ethics, my own limits. I get to say how people treat me.

If someone wants to think ill of me, they’re free to do so.
But they can take their rude expressions elsewhere.
If someone complains about having their comments deleted – I tell them – go get your own blog and you can say whatever you like about mine there – but I don’t have to read it, and I don’t have to host one kb of someone else’s rudeness towards me any more than I would allow them to carry on that way in my own home.

I’ve learned that you can make rules right out of Emily Post’s Blue Book of Social Etiquette until you’re blue in the face. Rules just give some people incentive to beat the system or argue, sadly.
I’ve found I’ve had much better results with these people by simply deleting & ignoring their comments, rather than responding to them. If they don’t get any response at all, and their comments get deleted, they don’t bother to come back. Because they didn’t get a rise.

I guess what I’m saying is, “Don’t throw pearls to swine.” :)

But I’ll tell ya what, I’ll write something for y’all that explains how I protect my pearls and keep out the swine. ;)

What is relevant from the rest of the statements is that this space is, in some ways, sacred to me, as I can express myself here in ways I can’t otherwise in the real world. I’m a bad speaker and often lose myself in thoughts and ideas – the ADD at work. If anything begins to impede my expression, I would leave here and start again even more anonymously (I’m not that anonymous here) with some regret. But if that’s what it takes, so be it.

And Kim, I had started this post a long time ago and never finished it. I figured it was about time as I seem to be getting exponentially more hits each month. Nothing personal to anyone.

But anyway, it sucks that this has to be said AGAIN. I’ve heard you say this in various incarnations in the past.

Here’s hoping for fewer trolls, and more rewarding ideas. :)