Comments on: Wherein A Young Anti-Choicer Explains Abortion

By: Marian

Marian — Sun, 29 Jan 2006 05:09:00 +0000

Amba–Most likely, you’re right. Indian-American folks our age are getting married and having kids in similar patterns to other racial groups here–e.g., marriage/kids in the 30′s and returning to work sooner (nothing wrong with that btw). The folks I was referring to (my in-laws and aunties and uncles-in-law etc.) are more in the over-40 set.

I’d imagine the patterns are similar in Canada and the US.

By: Amba

Amba — Sun, 29 Jan 2006 02:47:06 +0000

I’m from Toronto, Marian. I suspect that my desi relatives and aquaintances are younger than yours, so maybe that’s where the difference comes in. In my social circle, it’s praiseworthy to be a SAHM, but it’s not normative the way getting married in your twenties and producing kids fairly rapidly is.

By: Marian

Marian — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 16:18:49 +0000

It’s especially perplexing considering he’s the reincarnation of Brigham Young.

Seriously. I mean, he’s a senior, so he should be engaged this year, married in May or June, then by next June I expect little Blakes running around…..or I hope not. :P

By: Eleanor

Eleanor — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 10:11:09 +0000

He’s a microbio major

*speechless*

By: gswift

gswift — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 08:30:34 +0000

Marian Says: Also, if he’s so pro-family, why is he single? Why hasn’t he exerted more effort in finding a wife to procreate with?

It's especially perplexing considering he's the reincarnation of Brigham Young.

By: gswift

gswift — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 08:27:37 +0000

Eleanor Says:
an animal is but atoms assembled by random chance

Someone please buy this boy even the most basic science textbook before he embarrasses himself any further.

He’s a microbio major, so apparently he’s a bald faced liar.

By: Marian

Marian — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 02:53:25 +0000

Also, Amba, just FYI–since we haven’t met….my husband’s family is Indian, and I didn’t grow up in this area. So, he is my main contact here and I know more Indian families in this area (NJ) than any other group, ironically. Of course, friends and anecdotal cases don’t indicate a statistical trend, so again it could just be Philadelphia and its parking lots (hehe) that are like this. But a lot also live in the NY/CT/MA areas as well.

By: Marian

Marian — Sat, 28 Jan 2006 02:48:51 +0000

Amba–Where are you from? The ones I know are mainly in New Jersey/Pennsylvania, and actually most have stayed home longer than I ever would. For instance, 1 kid, 16 years old, and they’re still home; no plans to work again till the kid hits college.

By: Amba

Amba — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 22:21:50 +0000

Quite a few members of my Indo-Canadian family have avoided being pushed into marriages that they weren’t ready for by going the grad school route: by the time they were finished with school, their parents were so desperate for them to marry that they’d accept any potential suitor, even one from outside the community.

Marian, I don’t actually know that many Indian SAHMs: the professional couples I know usually have their parents and other relatives on hand to help with childcare, and the wife usually keeps working. Even the ones that have given up work plan to return once the kids start school.

By: Txfeminist

Txfeminist — Fri, 27 Jan 2006 21:44:02 +0000

Pepper, I was thinking the same thing. LOL!