So I followed zuzu’s link to McBoing’s takedown of Hugo’s advice to the self-centered pseudo-feminist. Hugo, with a nom du fil of “Apologist Tool,” commented on her post:
I agree that the way I wrote the post left it open to misinterpretation. The key thing I would like to stress is that unlike a great many folks who commented, I do the pro-feminist thing FOR A LIVING. I work, in the trenches, to try and bring young men who are profoundly hostile to anything that smells of feminism to a greater accountabilty in their lives. If I confront these guys, they’ll walk away with nothing at all but an even bigger chip on their shoulders; an incremental approach that encourages small changes is the one way that I have found that really works.
No. You know who lives in the trenches? You know’s who’s really on the front lines? Women. They’re the ones who get to date these losers you see fit to coddle. They’re the ones with intimate knowledge of the results of this kind of incremental approach. They’re the ones who have had to employ their own feminist strategies simply in order to date safely. It’s not a matter of their living–you know, the job you perform of your own free will for money–but their lives. (How many fucked-over young women is that, anyway? Are we hoping for an eighty-percent reduction in misogynist entitlement by the start of Spring semester, or what?)
No wonder Hugo’s so soft on entitlement.