Because you can’t get enough of the oral sex discussion.
Actually, this isn’t really about the blowjob wars. But an idea has bubbled to the surface during the discussion of blowjobs and oral sex in general, that of quid pro quo.
Specifically, that blowjobs are quid pro quo for cunnilingus.
Perhaps I’m in the minority, but I do not consider those acts equivalent. The only thing that makes them similar for me is that they both involve oral-genital contact.
But in terms of equivalences — and I do have to say that I dislike the very idea of quid pro quo or tit for tat — I see the proper analogue for cunnilingus to be PIV intercourse. A blow job is an appetizer, or perhaps more properly, the tapas of sex. Sometimes it’s just a precursor to a meal, sometimes it’s the meal itself. But by and large, a guy wants an entree.
Cunnilingus, for me, is the entree. Oh, sometimes I’ll mix it up a bit and get off on manual stimulation, but if there is no attention paid to my orgasm, I’m going to go away hungry. If the attention paid is reluctant or perfunctory, while my companion fully expects both appetizer and entree for himself, I’m going to find another restaurant.
Now, it’s true that I want to have my entree before he is served his, but there’s a good reason for that — the sauce for his entree will not be ready until I have my entree.