Maybe it’s my lack of imagination, but it’s difficult for me to come up with examples of men in popular culture who are confident-but-not-dominant, and most of the ones I can come up with are, strangely, comedians, like Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert…
I can come up with a few. Keep in mind, a lot of my TV watching is limited to various Discovery-owned channels and I haven’t been to the movies in about a year.
My Other Boyfriend™, Mike Rowe, Dirty Jobs (not afraid to admit that he doesn’t know what he’s doing and perfectly willing to act a fool, yet so very, very hot);
Jamie Hyneman, Mythbusters (the very definition of low-key, yet very much the boss and the authority figure);
Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer (his whole thing is that dogs who are aggressive are out of balance and that the pack leader — whether male or female — must be calm and assertive, not aggressive);
Jill’s Other Boyfriend™, Anderson Cooper (not a shouter like so many other cable-news types);
Commander Adama, Battlestar Galactica (at least once he got over his resistance to accepting civilian authority over the fleet).
Add your own in the comments.