I kind of knew it would happen. Type the words “baby” “have” and “I” on any blog and it’s just a matter of time.
There will be a mommy drive-by. To wit:
October 23rd, 2006 at 6:41 am
she’s a cutie pie!!!!! Awwww….!
But aren’t you afraid to let her grow up without your presence? I mean, you work and study and all…
My feminist choice was to turn stay -at-home mom because I believe that a mother’s presence is vital for healthy development of a baby. That’s what I call a career! And I wont let anybody claim I’m less of a feminist because of that choice (since some ppl try)…
So maybe it’s something you’ll like to consider although it’s being labeled as unfeminist and maybe that’s why many women opt to go to work and leave their baby in daycare….
Now it’s mildly mean to gang up on Momma2babies as she does make some excellent points. She’s not less of a feminist because she stays at home (and that is a very cute baby).
And Jill, Leslie, piny, belledame, pretty much everyone has already covered the stupidity of this statement in the thread, i.e. women often work because they have to, a working mom isn’t any less “present,” no one is claiming stay-at-home moms violate feminism (well, nobody crazy, in my opinion).
But what really gets me about this is the assumption that I haven’t considered staying at home. Like all I needed is to have some random Internet commenter to say, “You know, you could just stay at home,” and a new world would open for me.
Really? I can be a stay-at-home mom? I had no idea! I’ve never even thought of that before!
Tsch. Thank you for saving me with your knowledge. And thank you for assuming that because I’ve come to a different conclusion than you I just haven’t thought about it hard enough. It’s like telling a lesbian she just hasn’t met the right man.
I ran into this same type of person a while back with the femme-y clothing issue. I’m much more physically comfortable in a skirt than a pair of jeans because jeans are always either too narrow for my ass, have too short a rise, or are too big in the waist. And along came a woman who suggested that I just try to find a pair that fit better.
Like I haven’t been looking. For all of my adult life.
I’d like to think it’s the safety of the internet (as in, you don’t have to look someone in the eye while claiming they’re not as self-aware as you are) that affords people such brashness, but I’m sure its not. It just seems to bring it out in people more.
**ADDED** Yes, I edited this post about 50 times after publishing. I promise to use the ‘preview’ feature in WordPress next time.
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