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  1. Sirkowski
    Sirkowski December 19, 2006 at 6:22 pm |

    Don’t create a conservative; wear a condom!

  2. Christen
    Christen December 19, 2006 at 7:10 pm |

    Of course, for the right wing their own so-called “morality” is more important than actually saving lives.

  3. Adnan Y.
    Adnan Y. December 19, 2006 at 8:25 pm |

    I worked with the National AIDS Control Programme in Pakistan for a couple of years before coming back to the UK. We would talk with our Indian counterparts, and they’d stressed the “HIV/AIDS via Husband” problem.

    The women in India, as in Pakistan, had trouble convincing their husbands of the need for condoms, or any form of protection for that matter, after marriage. Since they weren’t dating, there was no need to ‘play safe’ right?

    In Pakistan and India, men who contract HIV/AIDS do so for the most part via unprotected intercourse with hijras (‘transvestites’/transsexuals could be the nearest translation), usually if the men were long-haul truck drivers, married or not. An American example could be the cases of ‘Down Low’ sexual intercourse about African-American males. Prostitutes in Hera Mundi (Diamond Market, a well-known Red Light District in Lahore, Pakistan) are trying to get their clients to wear condoms, but it’s difficult not just when the johns get violent and say that it “ruins the feeling” but also when the Pakistan Government says that prostitution doesn’t exist. the NACP I worked with worked with UNAIDS, and we were greatly hampered in our awareness projects.

    Getting back to the women, though: when their husbands would come back and be intimate with them and thus infect them, the husband would die, and the woman would be blamed by the families of both; they would act as if it were her that infected and killed him, rather than the man being the one at fault.

  4. Matt Browner-Hamlin
    Matt Browner-Hamlin December 19, 2006 at 10:34 pm |

    Kristof’s piece is one of the clearest I’ve ever read at elucidating how condoms succeed in keeping people safe (sidebar — god damn Sulzberger and his Wall).

    The thing that this article makes most clear is that contraception is not some abstract concept only understandable to rich, liberal Westerners. We’re leading the way while obstructing it. We have the ability to ensure that our aid saves lives and we’re pissing this power to do good away on the backs of a minority’s version of morality. Sometimes our policies just make me sick with disgust.

  5. Christopher
    Christopher December 20, 2006 at 5:55 am |

    This is one of those things that makes veins pop out of my head.

    The scum who rule our country actually think that fucking is worth then dying.

    It’s a profoundly perverse kind of morality, but there’s just no other way to read it; Abstinence-only programs don’t work as well as condom education. More and more data comes in bearing this out, and yet we keep with the anti-condom rhetoric.

    Hey, how about we get the AIDS rate down, and THEN we can address infedelity?

    This whole “pre-marital sex is worse then dying” attitude is so alien to me I can’t wrap my head around it.

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  7. Sara
    Sara December 20, 2006 at 11:38 am |

    Just another reason to want to punch the conservative advice book authors that tell women that God says you’re a bad wife for ever turning down your husband’s sexual advances. Does anyone else see those Christian book carrels full of “be the woman of his dreams” stuff in grocery stores and want to sob?

  8. elyzabethe
    elyzabethe December 20, 2006 at 3:43 pm |

    There’s a wonderful play about this issue called In the Continuum that deals with a married women with AIDS in Zimbabwe..

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