This New York Times article about MomsRising is a good one. It profiles a feminist organization that is pushing for gender equality in the workplace, and specifically mobilizing for the rights of working mothers. My major quibble is that the article is in the Fashion & Styles section, when it should be in Politics, and that the title is pretty condescending. But that aside (and those are probably editorial decisions, and not the fault of the reporter), the article is decent.
What aren’t quite so decent are the follow-up comments. The very first one says:
Maybe women should stop griping about gender inequity and start fulfilling the roles in life for which God uniquely intended them, i.e., staying home and being mothers! There is no more important work than being a good mother and most women are failing because they’ve been brainwashed into thinking they need to do everything but be a good mother to feel fulfilled.
Society is a disaster because several generations of children have been sent into the world unraised because of these foolish notions. Our culture today says men need to support women as they run society off the proverbial cliff. I daresay sewer rats raise better offspring these days than humans.
I absolutely adore the “there’s no more important work than being a good mother,” because it usually comes from men who work. Motherhood is important, and should be more socially valued. But let’s not underestimate the intellect of mothers. Most women know perfectly well that when a wealthy, hard-working CEO says that his wife does “the most important work in the world,” he’s full of shit. Of course he thinks his work is more important than hers. He’s paid for it. He gets some amount of prestige from it. He’s “accomplished.” She’s a mommy.
That isn’t to say that this is how it should be. It’s complete crap that motherhood is as undervalued as it is. But let’s not fool ourselves: it is. And if the “motherhood is more important than the presidency” folks actually believed a damn word of it, they would be going out of their way to increase the social value of mothers by financially compensating them for their time, or providing for childcare for the mothers who don’t have the choice to stay home (and there are a whole lot of those mothers), or making sure that all women had full reproductive freedom so that motherhood would be a wanted and valued choice. Or, you know, they’d stay home themselves.
No, they’d rather deride women who don’t stay home, give those “superior” stay-at-home moms a nice pat on the head, and then continue on with their merry professional careers. And if, god forbid, divorce ever enters into the picture, he will have decades of work under his belt, while she will have been “doing nothing” by staying home with the kids. Men who work are exercising their basic rights as penis-owning human beings to be remunerated for their efforts, and to choose from a wide range of occupations the one which best suits them. Women, on the other hand, are totally selfish if we don’t dedicate our entire lives to baby-making and child-raising.
The biggest issue facing mothers today is whether they can set aside the personal selfishness and feminism relentlessly promotes to properly mother their children.
In the emotionally sterile babysitter and daycare environment children do not fully develop for empathy and love skill sets crucial to make successful marriages and effective parenting when their turn comes.
— Posted by MARK KLEIN, M.D.
I wonder how much time Dr. Klein puts in with his kids? And it gets better…
The biggest issue mothers face today is diminishing of their superior contribution to society: being mothers of the next generation.
The greatest tragedy of the feminist movement is the embrace of male-chauvinistic ideals and the insistence that those ideals be shared equally with women. The role (gasp!) of women is far superior, and genuinely rewarding, though more challenging, than that of men. The role of a father is to enable the mother to make her children her life’s work.
As a father, no career will bring more reward than the satisfaction of being a parent to my children. While I envy the opportunity to focus entirely on our children, my wife is much more capable of providing them with the proper care and upbringing.
Society simply needs to recognize (sincerely, not just lip service) the superior contribution of women as mothers and enable them in that role.
— Posted by Michael Peterson
See, ladies? You’re actually superior in your ability to stay home with kids. And that’s not lip service! I mean it so sincerely that I make my own wife do it, too!
The moral decline which is aggravated by so-called women’s rights advocates which puts the self ahead of everything else, including children and husbands.
— Posted by Michael Greene
Don’t you hate it when feminism reminds women that we’re people, too?
Lack of family support.
If grandmother could help take care of the offspring everything would be easier.
— Posted by JP
Motherhood, then, should just never end.
Woman have sold themselves into the world market.
They have aborted their babies, or stashed them in day care centers and with the encouragement of their husbands, bought into materialism.
What a shame.
I don’t think their happy and certainly their children are suffering as their stupid husbands watch it all to happen before their eyes.
Divorce is just around the corner.
It is not only the family that pays for the quest for materialism but society suffers as the schools, courts and prisions demand more of our resourses to put a bandage on the hemorage of suffering.
Ladies, do yourself a favor. Find something productive to do at home and take care of your children and husband.
As usual, the world is falling apart, and it’s women’s fault.
There are also quite a few comments about how women make a choice to become mothers and shouldn’t expect to “have it all.” And no one dares to suggest that men have been “having it all” for centuries without anyone telling them that they’re selfish or unreasonable.
- Mother’s time: diary study by Flute February 6, 2005
- This week’s social ill caused by feminism is? by SassyWho July 23, 2007
- Rick Santorum and Pitting the Working Mothers Against the “Non-Losers” by Lauren July 29, 2005
- Tag-Team Parenting by Jill September 6, 2006
- The Opt-Out Revolution by Jill December 6, 2005