Because of the recent Supreme Court decision banning “partial birth abortions,” which politicizes a personal, medical decision. Because of the newest ban on abortions in North Dakota. Because pro-choice activists are now forced to say that abortions are terrible things in order to defend a woman’s right to one. Because we still have freedom of speech in this country, and I’m so afraid that we won’t always have that freedom.
Because we need to keep a human face on abortion, let me tell you about mine.
Abortion is not just the woman who will suffer a stroke — or die — unless her deeply wanted pregnancy is terminated. Not just the rape victim. Not just the 15-year-old girl whose father haunts her bedroom at night. Yes, these women desperately need safe, legal abortions, but six years ago so did I, and so do the thousands of other “normal” women who have straightforward D&C or chemical abortions every year.
Yes, I too am the face of abortion: I, the married mother, the step-grandmother, the internationally-published writer whose books on parenting have sold tens of thousands of copies. I am a mother by choice. I have done the reproduction Trifecta — miscarriage, childbirth, abortion — in that order, and I had my abortion because I didn’t want another child. And I have never felt a moment of regret or guilt. Regret implies self-blame, and I didn’t do anything wrong.
My abortion was a good thing.
Go read it. It will make you smile, it will make you cry, and it will make you glad that women like Erika are generous enough to share their stories with us. A very big thanks to her for leaving a link to this in the comments.