Comments on: I think you just redeemed yourself.

By: Helen

Helen — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 19:00:08 +0000

“I actually find the casual female-on-male violence in anime really disturbing.”

I find the casual male-on-female violence in real life disturbing. I’m all for images that help break down the indoctrination that “good girls don’t fight back”.

By: Alara Rogers

Alara Rogers — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 02:40:40 +0000

so he turns his anger outward at the women who won’t be what Japanese cartoons tell him they should be

Actually, Japanese cartoons tell people that women should beat men senseless for catching a glimpse of them naked, so I’m not actually sure that this guy is using anime as his guideline.

I actually find the casual female-on-male violence in anime really disturbing.

By: Suz

Suz — Fri, 16 Nov 2007 15:56:15 +0000

I’ve often had my hand crushed by guys during a handshake. It wasn’t because they were so STRONG. I was because they didn’t shake properly. Instead of meeting my hand palm to palm, they would close their hand around my fingers and knuckles and squeeze.

By: SPotted and Herbaceous Backson

SPotted and Herbaceous Backson — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 01:07:50 +0000

It’s been some 30 years, but way back when, someone introduced me to a fellow who took my nice firm grip for a challenge. Wasn’t he surprised when I braced my hand in some way–and I am still not sure how–and he just could not collapse it. He said, “You’re mighty strong for a girl,” and I said “Gee, You’re mighty smart for a guy,” and he was quiet after that. He should have just been glad he was behind a counter or I just might have tried out the old you-know-where kick.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 00:15:24 +0000

“There are things which women and men can do with each other that female persons never do with male persons.”

“…the only women in my life were encoded in JPEG.”

I think those two bits sum this “man’s” neural nightmare of a mind up quite well. Pathetic.

By: maatnofret

maatnofret — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 00:10:20 +0000

Jae: I also like Izzard’s solution to the overly-firm handshake: Yelling, “Ow! Owwww! You Bastard!” really loudly. Alternately, I try to crush them back (thanks to all that knitting and piano, my hands are quite strong.)

Jeff Fecke: That is the second comment you’ve made today that made me laugh out loud.

By: alsojill

alsojill — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 22:20:17 +0000

This shifts the position of the bones in your hand and most people can withstand a lot of pressure with a smile.

Ooh, good to know! As I said, my hands are too small to return a death grip, simply b/c I can’t get them around most men’s hands, though I do try to grip firmly no matter whose hand I’m shaking. I’ll keep this one in mind next time someone tries to break my hand that way.

By: Vir Modestus

Vir Modestus — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:49:38 +0000

For those of you who encounter “handshake of death” type jerks, one thing you can do to make them whimper in abject horror at their failure to master you, is to change your grip slightly. When some jerk puts the squeeze on your hand, simply extend your index finger (or both index and middle if you want) to align it along their wrist. This shifts the position of the bones in your hand and most people can withstand a lot of pressure with a smile.

Saves you pain and gives the one-up-man-ship jerk a nasty sense of failure.

By: tcupnewt

tcupnewt — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 19:17:23 +0000

I believe this is the relevant one:

By: Tapetum

Tapetum — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 18:57:42 +0000

England Expects – perhaps I should clarify. I’m not actually making an idle and/or childish threat. What money I make, I make with my hands. I write (typing), play piano/organ, knit for money, teach self-defense and karate. Somebody actively trying to injure my hands is threatening my income. If they’re merely playing big-guy, I’ll just crush back as necessary. If they’re actually trying to injure me, then yes, I think an injurious response is not out of line. I quite literally can’t afford to nurse a sore hand for a week.

Fortunately, as noted above, I have huge strong hands, and I’ve never needed to give that particular lesson. The experience of other orange’s mother (and my MIL) does show, however, that some men are more than willing to truly hurt their “opponent” in a handshake in order to prove their dominance.