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  1. belledame222
    belledame222 February 12, 2008 at 7:44 pm |

    and of course, if women and/or LGBTQ folk were ever to attack straight dudes in the same manner for, you know, being a cunt-tease? or not being what we thought they were? or *koff* made -unwanted propositions-? we wouldn’t be able to walk for the bodies.

  2. Mold
    Mold February 12, 2008 at 7:55 pm |

    Sympathy wishes for Sanesha and her family.

  3. louise
    louise February 12, 2008 at 7:59 pm |

    The comments- GAH. My heart goes out to her family and friends.

    My sister’s death made front page headlines in her large city’s papers for 3 days and the comments numbered over 100- it was hell.

    All the family can do is wait for the next terrible tragedy to hit the news so her story gets shoved to back burner status. And with the murder/trial/sensational aspects, it’s gonna take awhile.

    RIP, Sanesha…

  4. Astraea
    Astraea February 12, 2008 at 8:38 pm |

    belledame, you’re so right.

    holly, thanks for this post. This just makes me sick and I can imagine having a connection with the victim just makes it that much harder to deal with.

    It seems like transsexuals have to deal with being at the epicenter of a convergence of so many fears, prejudices and hatred. All of our society’s irrationality about sex, the need to put people in neat little categories, the extreme investment in a binary definition of gender and sex converge with entitlement of so-called “normal” people, fear of the unknown, the other, homophobia, sexism – all of these things seem to contribute to transphobia.

  5. Lisa Harney
    Lisa Harney February 12, 2008 at 9:18 pm |

    Yes, transsexual people catch a lot of really extreme prejudice.

  6. Lauren
    Lauren February 12, 2008 at 9:31 pm |

    With deep respect for Sanesha, it never fails to profoundly disappoint me how collectively willing we are to debase a human being, especially in death.

  7. bushfire
    bushfire February 12, 2008 at 9:35 pm |

    I’m just speechless. What a horrible tragedy.

  8. Astraea
    Astraea February 12, 2008 at 9:43 pm |

    If that was a correction of my comment, I apologize.

  9. Jill
    Jill February 12, 2008 at 9:46 pm | *

    This is a painful, heart-wrenching post, Holly. I wish I had something substantive to add, but I think you said it all — sometimes, tears and frustration are all there is.

  10. Falyne
    Falyne February 12, 2008 at 10:23 pm |


    Oh, and reading comments on an article like this? Not a good idea. Not a good idea at all. I hate humans, some days….

  11. katlyn
    katlyn February 12, 2008 at 10:24 pm |

    It’s just horrible how so many murders of transgender people go unnoticed, and the few that get recognition just end up being completely insulting.

    And how dare anyone try to take the “tranny panic” defense. I’m pretty sure any murderer could somehow come up with a panic defense to make excuses for their actions, yet this seems to be the one time people think it’s acceptable.

    Well, it’s fucking NOT.

  12. Mold
    Mold February 12, 2008 at 10:42 pm |

    Think of a 3 year old who is standing next to a broken item. Ask them who did it and you’ll hear, “nobody”.

  13. EG
    EG February 12, 2008 at 11:07 pm |

    Yeah, but that’s a three-year-old, and as the adult in the situation, you shouldn’t be asking such a dumb question anyway. I mean, what do you expect her to say?

    Adult murderers are in nowhere near the same league or mind-set.

  14. belledame222
    belledame222 February 12, 2008 at 11:14 pm |

    that’s what that is though. three year old moral/emotional development in an adult body and sometimes even intellect.

  15. EG
    EG February 12, 2008 at 11:28 pm |

    I don’t think it is. We don’t like it, but the overwhelming majority of horrific acts of violence like these are committed by adults; children who do such things to living beings they can overpower (smaller children, small animals) are very, very rare. The kind of moral/emotional development that results in violent misogynist transphobic murder and then justifies it is something we find in adults. Kids’ll say “nobody did it” or “I don’t know”; they almost never say some version of “it was right that I did it” or “the vase wanted me to break it” or “the vase made me angry.” This kind of justification is adult territory.

  16. RenegadeEvolution
    RenegadeEvolution February 12, 2008 at 11:37 pm |

    There is no other word for this than VILE. And yeah, some of those comments? Urgh. Humans sure know how to suck. And of course the typical media frenzy…she was trans! she was a WoC! She might have been a hooker!

    SHE’S DEAD you assholes. Some prick murdered her! THAT is the news. He is the one who should be getting all the gory headlines.

  17. Detransitioning? « Galling Galla
    Detransitioning? « Galling Galla February 13, 2008 at 12:00 am |

    […] first was the murder of another trans woman of color, Sanesha Stewart. And, as always, the “news” coverage […]

  18. nexyjo
    nexyjo February 13, 2008 at 12:43 am |

    what kind of world would have us accused of engaging in deception for simply being ourselves? and people wonder why i hold an affinity for pink pistols. i, for one, will not go quietly into the night.

  19. robin ruse
    robin ruse February 13, 2008 at 12:59 am |

    The murder of Sanesha Stewart is more than an individual atrocity and personal desecration, it is a crime of collective malice and cowardice. Her homicide and subsequent debasement by the The Daily News indicate the abhorrent ignorance embraced by many of the general public, and the joy with which it is cherished.

    Casting aside even nominal standards of decency and empathy, the killer becomes kindred in the eyes of onlookers; a pitiable victim ensnared by the web of fraud, overcome by a revulsion to act in an understandable fashion. Mindless fear and a craven aversion to those beyond their feeble ken lead the mob to gawk and snicker while mumbling incoherently about “retribution”; righteous outrage is reserved only for “real” people.

    In asserting the right to kill, Sanesha’s slayer lays claim to the most incorrigible vice; an ignorance that supposes it knows everything. The hubris in proclaiming to know the “true” identity of another, and thus invoking the right to exact the ultimate penalty from anyone transgressing such an immutable state bespeaks a blindness fetid with profanity.

    Yet, such excremental views are spread across the tabloid press, and consumed with relish by those spineless individuals who cower at the thought of personal realization. Embracing such filth, besmeared by the putrefaction of moral responsibility, they seek to stifle the stench by burying the desecrated beneath mounds of derision and defamation; as if belittling the corpse would render the crime less heinous.

    The exultations of the great unwashed may today drown out cries for justice; it will not always be so. Blindness, even one so cherished, leads into a ditch; leaving the road available for clear sighted to travel with goodness and love.

  20. bushfire
    bushfire February 13, 2008 at 1:15 am |

    “what kind of world would have us accused of engaging in deception for simply being ourselves?”

    This is a wonderful comment. It stopped me in my tracks. I think you’ve just summed up a whole bunch of gender/trans issues!

  21. RSkye
    RSkye February 13, 2008 at 1:16 am |

    “Sure, you can grow up to be anything you want! As long as it conforms to society’s ideals, of course…”

    I’m starting the think that by the time I’m old enough to make a change, it’ll be too late.

  22. Gina
    Gina February 13, 2008 at 2:32 am |

    That article is unbelievable–like everyone said, they treat this like tabloid fodder:” “So there was this guy who liked to play dress-up–he even wore *huge* high heels, the works!–and everyone thought it was *so* cute, until one night…” What disgusting tripe. That someone could write like this about a murder victim…there are no words. How awful for the family.

  23. Patricia Beninato
    Patricia Beninato February 13, 2008 at 7:34 am |

    It pisses me off that people think that transgendered people do this for FUN, like every day is Halloween. There is a HUGE difference between a “drag queen” and a truly transgendered person, the vast majority of whom just want to live normal lives and be at peace. People don’t realize that in order to undergo sex reassignment surgery one has to undergo a long period of psychoanalysis, although it’s true that many transgendered people don’t undergo surgery, particularly female-to-male, due to the physical issues that can come up. But just to go out there and try to live one’s life as the gender they should be takes more courage that I bet most of us have, and it’s a shame that so many people die because of it. My thoughts are with Sanesha and her family.

  24. Dented Blue Mercedes
    Dented Blue Mercedes February 13, 2008 at 8:57 am |

    […] Recommended reading: Holly, at Feministe’s “Sanesha Stewart is dead and I have only tears and frustration for her” […]

  25. Nick Kiddle
    Nick Kiddle February 13, 2008 at 10:40 am |

    There is a HUGE difference between a “drag queen” and a truly transgendered person,

    I’ve said things like this myself before, but I’m not convinced it’s true: sometimes the only difference is how far they’ve gone along the road of discovering themselves. And then there’s the implication that it would be OK if a drag queen was murdered and this sort of crud said about them – which I’m not saying you mean, but it sort of lurks in the background when you start drawing these kinds of distinction.

  26. Holly
    Holly February 13, 2008 at 11:30 am |

    Not only that, but there’s simply no clear line and there never has been. There are many women who live their lives as women, have transitioned medically in one way or another, but who also perform in drag shows as drag queens. There are other drag performers who only perform a certain gender on stage, and never anywhere else. And there are a lot of people in between.

    This is a sidetrack from Sanesha Stewart’s story, since I have no idea if she was involved in New York’s ball community or other drag events… this stuff can be discussed in another thread that’s not about a dead woman.

    I’d suggest one general guideline, though. If you want to draw a distinction between people with a daily life experience of being trans (or being a certain gender) and performers who are only doing wearing that gender momentarily for entertainment purposes… draw that line without using a shortcut like “drag queen,” which is incorrect, a little dismissive, and cuts right across a lot of people’s lives.

  27. On the murder of Sanesha Stewart : The Curvature

    […] the difficulty of living as a trans woman in a dangerously and deeply transphobic society. Holly at Feministe explains why it is a problem to assume that a person is not trans. GLAAD is still asking people to […]

  28. La Chola » Blog Archive » Links and more
    La Chola » Blog Archive » Links and more February 13, 2008 at 12:02 pm |

    […] points out that it is the most vulnerable in the trans community who are most suseptable to violence: In the past, I have been known to complain that far too little attention has been paid to the […]

  29. Natalia
    Natalia February 13, 2008 at 12:58 pm |

    I’ve got tears in my eyes. Rest in peace, Sanesha.

  30. Patricia Beninato
    Patricia Beninato February 13, 2008 at 1:16 pm |

    I put “drag queen” in quote marks for precisely that reason, but I don’t want this very important issue clouded by arguments over semantics and political correctness. I had a very close friend who was transgendered and committed suicide over it so this hits very close to home for me.

  31. no, it’s not ever ok to murder, even if she’s “not really” a woman « mmm, brains!

    […] also links to an article at Feministe about Sanesha Stewart’s murder: We still live in a place and time where people think it’s […]

  32. David
    David February 13, 2008 at 3:22 pm |

    I would hope it’s not okay to kill drag queens either….

  33. meggygurl
    meggygurl February 13, 2008 at 3:22 pm |

    Oh god… I read the comments for the article. My eyes, they burn.

    People really… make me sick. Like, deep inside, I just feel dirty from reading the comments.

    How can anyone really believe that someone deserves to die just because of the gender they feel most comfortable in?

  34. Trixie23
    Trixie23 February 13, 2008 at 7:18 pm |

    I don’t know why I continue to be stunned at the heartlessness of humans.
    Much sympathy for Sanesha’s family, and also for your loss Louise.

  35. Yolanda C.
    Yolanda C. February 13, 2008 at 7:28 pm |

    The question nobody ever seems to ask is, why would you automatically assume that the person you’re on a date with isn’t trans?

    The answer is horribly easy: because you’re a transphobic bigot who doesn’t find out how bigoted you are until you meet a transperson. The “I’m not prejudiced” crowd is filled with people who’ve never had their assumptions about personhood and human existence challenged. The moment they’re confronted with an oppressed person is the moment when the bigot inside spews out.

    May Sanesha rest in peace.

  36. louise
    louise February 13, 2008 at 7:40 pm |

    Thank you, Trixie. Time helps somewhat.

    I do wish that people would consider, before they comment in the media on stories like this, that a real person lost her life senselessly. She died painfully and terrified; how can that be excused in any way, in any light? She was murdered; her life was stolen from her. She was so young and should have had so many more years to enjoy her life. This is just a tragedy.

  37. Dana
    Dana February 13, 2008 at 8:30 pm |

    Oh god… That is just unbelievably disgusting. I feel like crying.

    This doesn’t seem at all relevant but it is in my head: a client at work borrowed our phone to call the bank about an out of order ATM. She got off the phone and said “I got a bloody Asian.” I just stared at her, awkward as hell and not sure what to say to that. She then said how stupid they were for not knowing the street and suburb… When the call centre is probably in Auckland.

    It’s relevant to me because it sometimes really hurts having people’s prejudices exposed to me because they presume I’ll be OK with it. Calling a male dog licking another dog’s penis “gay” in a derisive tone is not OK. Complaining about those bloody Asian drivers is not OK. Totally buying into the idea that a transsexual was a hooker… And that both labels minimise their violent murder is just beyond fucked up. Yes I’m white, educated and have a decent amount of money. That doesn’t mean I want to hear exactly how uncomfortable those “other” people make you

  38. celticdragon
    celticdragon February 13, 2008 at 10:07 pm |

    Another one of my sisters is dead, and I don’t know what to say. The hate and the rage seem to spill on us, and the urge to vent and strike back seems overpowering. I felt it when I was fired from a high paying aircraft job just last week after I was harassed for being trans

    I feel it now, as yet another sister is victemized in life, then slandered and reviled in death.

  39. ouyangdan
    ouyangdan February 14, 2008 at 5:02 am |

    admittedly, until holly did her 101 thread, i knew very little about trans people…since then i have been trying to learn more. i have read this post three times, and have tears in my eyes now. reading that article was painful…in my limited experience, even i know that it is respectful to refer to a trans person by their preferred pronoun, by their preferred name…this doesn’t even begin to cover the that these heartless ass hats are talking about an actual person! someone’s family, someone’s loved one. the complete lack of respect for the deceased appalls me. i am working hard to change my perspective of assumed “normalcy”…and i admit i haven’t gotten there yet…but i recognize that this is my problem…not the problem of a trans man or woman…they are not ours to blame for our shallow and narrow views…

    my heart goes out to sanesha’s family, and may she rest in peace…i desperately hope that the disrespect and horrors you must be going through will be over quickly…so that you may continue to mourn her in peace.

    holly, thank-you for sharing your feelings on this tragedy. i hate hate hate that lessons for some of us come from horrors like this. it is not our place to learn here from this…but i hope for a day when we stop worrying about if a person is or is not trans or cis, and just start caring that we are w/ a person.

    when i can think of something sensitive and intelligent to say, i may write more. i don’t want to inadvertently say something insensitive at a tragic time like this.

    peace and blessings to the family…

  40. Adele
    Adele February 14, 2008 at 11:19 am |

    I said it before and I’ll say it again:

    These guys who kill trans women are sociopaths. I’m generally convinced that the vast majority of the guys who use the “trans panic” defense would have killed somebody else “living on the margins” (to quote Holly) regardless of their gender. These are the kind of guys who light homeless people on fire for kicks, who tortured animals in their youth, and who rape children too young to understand what’s going on.

    The trans panic defense is a manipulative bogus justification that these sickos use to cover their ass, elicit sympathy, or get a lighter sentence when something like this comes to a court of law — if it makes it that far, which in far too many cases it doesn’t (RIP Erica Keels). More often than not, the case in actuality is not “…but I didn’t know she was trans!”; in fact, it’s more like, “I knew she was trans, and that’s why I knew I could get away with it.”

  41. Rosehiptea
    Rosehiptea February 14, 2008 at 12:08 pm |

    The trans panic defense is a manipulative bogus justification that these sickos use to cover their ass, elicit sympathy, or get a lighter sentence when something like this comes to a court of law — if it makes it that far, which in far too many cases it doesn’t (RIP Erica Keels). More often than not, the case in actuality is not “…but I didn’t know she was trans!”; in fact, it’s more like, “I knew she was trans, and that’s why I knew I could get away with it.”

    I totally agree. And judging from one of the links megan_julca rounded up, it’s very likely that he did in fact that he knew she was trans.

    Not that there can even be any excuse, but in this case it looks like he’s literally lying anyway, which doesn’t surprise me.

  42. belledame222
    belledame222 February 14, 2008 at 12:19 pm |

    Adele is wise.

  43. JVoices » Blog Archive » Putting Lantos’ Support In Focus: The Murder of Sanesha Stewart

    […] including Megan Julca, Lisa Harney, The Curvature, Belledame, GallingGalla, and Holly over at Feministe, who gives a good overview, which I’m including below: A man named Steve McMillian apparently […]

  44. jspot » Blog Archive » Putting Lantos’ Support In Focus: The Murder of Sanesha Stewart

    […] including Megan Julca, Lisa Harney, The Curvature, Belledame, GallingGalla, and Holly over at Feministe, who gives a good overview, which I’m including below: A man named Steve McMillian apparently […]

  45. Abby
    Abby February 14, 2008 at 4:45 pm |

    I can’t tell you how heartwarming it is for me, as a trans woman, to read this post and all of your comments and see so many non-trans people that understand that all any of us, including trans people, wants is just a little love and respect. Thanks for doing your part in affirming my right to exist.

  46. When Will The Hate Stop? « Galling Galla

    […] as I’ve been reading the comments to Holly’s article on Sanesha Stewart, I came across this comment (emphasis in original): Another one of my sisters is dead, and I […]

  47. Josie Moon
    Josie Moon February 14, 2008 at 10:37 pm |

    Thank you Holly for telling this story the way it should be told.
    Thank you for being a real Loving, Caring Human Being. Stop the Violence! Killing someone because they are Transexual, Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual needs to be a Hate Crime! Our government feigns caring about Human Rights! It is time for our government to protect ALL of it’s citizens!

  48. Sev
    Sev February 15, 2008 at 12:56 am |

    I am so sick of my sisters being killed and shown no respect. I am so sick of cis gendered people walking all over us because they are ignorant and afraid of things that are different.

    I live in New Orleans, LA. and this city is downright MEAN. Crime left and right, racism, hatred all sorts of terrible things. Living here my whole life, it is hard to let go of it, but since I have come out as a transgendered person I feel like I always have to watch my back. People wonder why I am high tension sometimes…. jesus, here is the reason right here.

    I am so sick of people just tossing around “tranny” and “he/she” like it is ok, I am sick of my sisters dying, I am sick of the discrimination, I am sick of not being able to afford HRT even though I am attending a fine university, am intelligent, and am kind, but the fact that I am trans bars me from opportunity. I am sick of my family writing me off, I am sick of all of this shit.

    To all my sisters out there, keep it strong, keep it true, don’t hide who you truly are, that is letting them win.

    And if somebody tests you, BUST BACK!!

    “By any means necessary”


  49. Feministe » Kill them to kill yourself
    Feministe » Kill them to kill yourself February 17, 2008 at 4:21 am |

    […] this week there was an update in the death of Sanesha Stewart: apparently the man who is suspected of killing her — let’s be clear, he was dragged […]

  50. Noah
    Noah February 19, 2008 at 4:12 pm |

    I don’t know if Sanesha Stewart was doing sex work or not, and I don’t think it really matters
    Because they are murdered for being trans.

    I think it does matter greatly if Stewart was doing sex work. I don’t think it’s fair to say that she was murdered for being trans. I’m not sure how that jibes with your analysis in the paragraph just before you stated that. As a white FTM, I’m basically never going to be murdered because I’m trans. Is “transness” really the issue here? Even the most prominent one?

    As Mirha-Soleil Ross wrote in Sex Change Social Change commenting on the Trans Day of Remembrance website:
    “But if you take a moment to look at the long list of victims, you will clearly see that most of them were prostitutes. Now it might or might not have had something to do with their deaths, but that is certainly something that most of them had in common. My point is that we do not necessarily know why these individuals were murdered. It could have been because of hatred and prejudice against sex workers, because of racist or misogynist attitudes, because of a drug deal gone bad, or simply because that particular trans person was a fucking asshole who stepped on too many toes. Or most likely, it was a combination of the above factors. But it was definitely not, in most cases, simply due to “transphobia.” … The Transgender Day of Remembrance, with its sister project, the Remembering Our Dead Web site, is a big, bold, and sickening political fraud. It sure makes for a powerful street performance: candles, tears, hugs, and snuggles over cardboard pictures of butchered members of a marginalized minority produces emotionally charged images. But it functions, both theatrically and politically, to benefit a privileged subsection of the trans community.”

  51. Sanesha Stewart, Lawrence King, and why hate crimes legislation won’t help at AngryBrownButch

    […] an eloquent and resonating post on Feministe, Holly posits a world in which Sanesha Stewart’s murder would be treated with respect for the […]

  52. megan_julca
    megan_julca February 20, 2008 at 7:38 am |

    Ugh @ Noah’s comment.

    Delusional token trannies brainwashed by transphobes (secondhand from a self-hating trans woman in this case) into thinking that being trans is all sunshine and kittens and shit make me sick.

    White trans people who’ve never been sex workers do, in fact, very often minimize racism, classism, and misogyny involved in the murders of the trans women of color who were sex workers who are posted on the TDOR website.

    But then so too can a white trans man minimize transphobia involved in these murders when by, in this case, his own admission very likely won’t come any closer to being murdered like this than through the pages of the oh-so-radical book he’s been reading– because, as he’s said, trans women of color are more frequently targeted for these crimes. So who is he to speak for trans women of color as a white trans man and say that his experiences somehow prove there is no such thing as transphobia?

    I mean I could try to argue that misogyny doesn’t exist because it’s somewhat unlikely that upper-middle-class white women aren’t likely to be murdered for being women, but it would still be a fucking stupid argument.

    Both Noah’s and Mirha-Soleil Ross’s logic behind their dismissal of transphobia is fuzzy at best and idiotic at worst, and they miss the point that it could have been for any of those reasons–racism, classism, transphobia, misogyny, homophobia–and that most likely many or all of them were involved in their murders.

  53. mesha Monge-Irizarry
    mesha Monge-Irizarry February 20, 2008 at 11:29 pm |

    Our deepest condolences to the Sister;s family and grieving friends

    Thank you so much for this sizzling look at the many forms of oppressions faced by our Trans Sisters and Brothers !

    In Unity & Respect
    mesha Monge-Irizarry, director
    Idriss Stelley Foundation

  54. Feministe » Another Gender Non-Conforming Person Murdered

    […] know, we could actually decide to do something about the Simmie Williamses and the Shanesha Stewarts and the all the victims whose names never make the papers, but instead our news media is […]

  55. I need to stop being a tranny.. » Tara
    I need to stop being a tranny.. » Tara February 25, 2008 at 1:55 am |

    […] Murder 3 […]

  56. Links roundup « Pizza Diavola
    Links roundup « Pizza Diavola February 28, 2008 at 5:09 am |

    […] at Feministe: Sanesha Stewart is dead and I have only tears and frustration for her. A post on the brutal murder of Sanesha Stewart and the disgustingly transphobic media response to […]

  57. TamTam
    TamTam March 1, 2008 at 1:50 pm |

    It’s sad that a life is lost so tragically. It’s sad that a life is going to be lost or at least a life spent in prison for a long time if not for life.
    Temporary insanity?Hmmm that might be the reaction for many a straight men who are looking to have sex with a woman whether they are buying it or not. He more than likely flipped his wig when he discovered that Talib Stewart, a transgender living as a woman was really a man. To deceive someone to that degree is COWARDLY. If this is how you are living, there is no need to deceive anyone. If you are honest, and that bait does not work, that person will move on and you can catch someone else who wants to be with a man. It’s a horrible thing but there are many men who want to be with men, there is no need to deceive people about who and what you are.

  58. little light
    little light March 31, 2008 at 4:13 pm |

    That was…astonishingly civil, Holly.

    TamTam, I will simply say that you state in a single paragraph both that it’s an understandable reaction for a man to kill a trans person upon finding out that they’re trans, and that “there is no need” for anyone to ever hide their trans status.
    You also hold the murder victim to be “cowardly,” but spare no harsh words for the coward who not only murdered her, but was cowardly enough to lie about his motivations and say he’d just met her and was shocked about her trans status, rather than being honest about his own motivations and prior association with her, so he’d be less accountable for his actions.

    But then, your comment is generally extraordinarily offensive. I’m not sure I feel like dignifying it with any further response.

  59. Feministe » Update on Sanesha Stewart

    […] there’s no update on Sanesha Stewart, really. She’s still dead, still just as murdered by an asshole acquaintance who thought he could get away with it by fabricating a “trans panic” story. But her […]

  60. LGBT Youth Living With Violence « Kenyon Farrow

    […] 7, 2008 · No Comments This weekend I was not able to attend a vigil for Shanesha Stewart, a young Black transgender woman murdered in the South Bronx here in NYC. I’ve gone to lots […]

  61. Cola Johnson
    Cola Johnson April 8, 2008 at 1:03 am |

    Ugh. These stories… day after day. I’m not saying it’s depressing, because that implies somehow that it can be avoided, or should, for the sake of feeling better. I have to know. I have to remember her name and I have to talk about her. The world won’t change if I just go on my merry way, hands held fiercely to my ears.

    I will, however, take exception with the inordinate focus of this and other blogs on men who become and/or live as women. Women who become men are also targets of discrimination and violence, but I feel as though they are completely invisible in these discussions. You literally say, over and over, “trans women” as though trans men don’t exist or suffer as well. I wish you wouldn’t do that.

  62. I need to stop being a tranny.. « Compassion and Tara

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  63. Freedom of expression does not include hate crimes - or biased reportage « bird of paradox

    […] Well worth reading – for balance – is Holly’s post at Feministe which gives a radically different assessment – link here. […]

  64. Transgender Week of Remembrance: Reflecting Upon Those Lost :

    […] New York.  She was stabbed to death by Steve McMillan, who was arrested by police.  There was a notable amount of defamatory and sensationalized coverage surrounding Sanesha’s death.  She was 25 years […]

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