Comments on: Some resources for going gray

By: Tommy T berger

Tommy T berger — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 02:05:39 +0000

So my beautiful curly red hair is good but my beard is totally grey! It (I think) looks very distinguishing (classy) but do the women think so? I am a professional guy and think it is good for business as it shows a link to experience and positive image. I like it but how do others precieve this “image of professionalism?”

By: Jen

Jen — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 16:39:48 +0000

I’m in my late forties and have the occasional gray strand in my medium brown hair, plus one small streak that usually doesn’t show unless I pull my hair back. I thought I was really relaxed and positive about the gray, and when I was considering going for some highlights and an all-over-glaze last year, was adamant that absolutely none of my gray be covered.

But after my husband left me for a girl young enough to be our daughter, I’ve been hyperconscious about any and all signs of age on me. Silly, I know. And I’ve recently started seeing someone about 10 years younger than me, who seems pretty cool about the age difference, but … yeah, the gray hair, if it starts coming in more heavily, becomes even more of a marker.

I’m dealing. I think.

By: Anne Onne

Anne Onne — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 16:18:35 +0000

I’ve had the odd grey hair since around 18 or so, and know some women who started young, even as young as their early teens! To be honest, I quite like the look of grey hair, so I can definitely see me sporting my signature ponytail in grey, some day. To be honest, I’m not greatly motivated to dye my hair, because I love my hair colour, and would be afraid to lose it (It’s brown, but I like brown. ). I understand why a lot of women dye their hair, ranging from just loving to change, to feeling that they just don’t feel womanly if they don’t have perfectly toughed up roots. So I’m not anti-dyeing per se, and might dye my hari if I found a colour and style to tempt me out of my indolence on the hair score. I just wish society would not pressure women to dye their hair so much, especially to conform with its beauty standards of youth or fair-hairedness.

On an unrelated note, I’m encouraging my mother to get purple streaks, because they would look fantastic on her. :D

So I totally love the encouragement of women to go grey. It shouldn’t have to be a huge statement, seeing as it’s the natural order of things. It should be just one other normal choice.

By: Craig R.

Craig R. — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 02:24:04 +0000

ZuZu — good lick with the interview

I have gray hair and a white beard.

When I knew I was going to start job-hunting again, I shaved off the beard.

For some reason, gray hair and eyebrows create an impression of “experience,” but the white beard would create the impression of “old.”

I started going gray in my late 30′s, but my beard didn’t start turning until my mid-forties. But then it did so with a vengeance.

But, of course, the failed interview (where I only got so meet someone from HR and never actually saw the hiring manager) was really because I “wouldn’t match their corporate culture” and not because I looked like an older person. With 30 years of experience.

And certainly not because my level of experience would have mentioned something about red flags when I, if I had been inducted into their IT department, would have noticed that they were keeping personal information about retail sales way past the sell-by date on the credit-card transactions….

By: Bruce

Bruce — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 02:29:07 +0000

All the best with the j-o-b.

By: ks

ks — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 01:38:48 +0000

DAS–My dad has almost completely gray hair and a red/auburn beard. His gray is just starting to come in on the beard, but his hair has been that way for a few years now. I think it looks pretty cool. Before that he had very dark auburn/brown hair and a red beard.

By: Rose

Rose — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 21:08:42 +0000

FYI, my post wasn’t an “anti-gray” one. I like gray hair too. Personally, I get bored if my hair is the same color for too long and henna is a nice, natural option for me.

By: Rose

Rose — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 21:06:57 +0000

If you have the patience for it (because it take a very, very long time to do) go to Lush and try one of their hennas. It leaves your hair in better condition than it started, and if you like red, it will come out beautiful and bright on the grey.

By: spyderkl

spyderkl — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 17:47:40 +0000

What a great site! I bookmarked it – once Baby Girl goes to bed tonight, I’ll have to take a closer look. For me, gray hair just means I’ve survived long enough to have some. So it makes me happy.

Most of my family has gone gray at around my age, so I wasn’t too surprised. I had briefly thought about dyeing my hair plum, but I’ve done that once before – there’s not enough gray in my hair for that one, thanks. I’m just not sure if I want my hair to be as long as it is now (just past shoulder length) and gray.

By: annajcook

annajcook — Thu, 13 Mar 2008 17:26:43 +0000

I just wanted to say I *love* grey hair, particularly on women. I think grey hair is beautiful and I’m always so sad that so many women feel compelled to dye it because it’s going grey (which seems slightly different to me than dying it because you want to change colors for a bit).