A really interesting question that I would love to know the answer to, because I really struggle with this one:
i’ve noticed that many women comment with anecdotes about their boyfriends or husbands and share some challenge that they face in relating their feminism to their male counterparts. i’ve certainly noticed the challenge in my own relationships, and, having read my mary daly, know what a bone of contention having relationships with men at all has been at different points for feminism and for feminists. i’m interested to hear from the readership what they think a feminist relationship with a man looks like. of course, of course every relationship is different – but do people have ‘rules’ that they follow, or lines that they won’t cross, in the name of feminism? since every relationship involves compromise, sometimes i have a hard time telling the difference between being kind, loving and accommodating and fulfilling my assigned submissive role as a woman.
How do you work feminism into your relationships? Do you think it’s even possible to have a fully feminist, egalitarian heterosexual relationship? Are there rules you follow, or red flags? How much do you compromise your beliefs in order to find and sustain love? And, this is me adding to the question, but how does this play out in same-sex or otherwise non-traditional relationships?