Comments on: Men Who Take Their Partners’ Names

By: Temple Stark

Temple Stark — Wed, 07 May 2008 19:06:30 +0000

Just a reply to 3. VGC says: If you’re already trying to get such points and digs in, the relationship would seem to not be on the best foundation. .. And, yes, i could be talking out of my butt cause i know no one from nothing.

By: Feministe » Revisiting Men Who Take Their Partners’ Names

Feministe » Revisiting Men Who Take Their Partners’ Names — Wed, 07 May 2008 15:10:09 +0000

[...] reader emailed this to me in response to this; I don’t have the email available (or I would H/T her by name) and Feministing ran with it [...]

By: Aiden

Aiden — Tue, 06 May 2008 00:44:56 +0000

My parents had friends once who each kept their own names after marriage, and then let their son make up his own surname at the age of ten or so (I’m not sure which surname they used prior to this). He named himself after a particular animal (presumably his favourite) and keeps the name still, in his late 20s.

I grew up with a hyphenated name which I hated, so changed it to a variation on my father’s name several years ago. This gives me even less inclination to change it again if I get married, as I now have a name I like and chose for myself. My partner and I have idly discussed splitting surnames down gender lines for children, though I’m starting to think I like the idea of choosing a family name from either side that has significance, or perhaps using one of our middle names. With the option for the kids to choose whichever name they like once they’re old enough, of course.

By: RyanRutley

RyanRutley — Thu, 01 May 2008 23:18:57 +0000

zombie, I smell a troll.

By: ouyangdan

ouyangdan — Thu, 01 May 2008 07:15:46 +0000

after avoiding it for a long time for reasons too many to name here, my bf and i are getting married in June. we are both hyphenating. i am adding his to mine, he is adding mine to his. we wanted to be fair. and, we did it alphabetically.

By: MBW

MBW — Thu, 01 May 2008 06:03:17 +0000

My partner (spouse) took my name. And we’ve been pretty open about it, being the oldest and most widely read lefty American Indian blog still in existence. I think I wrote about it in a previous thread, a few weeks ago. And why we didn’t think, being from matri-matri tribes, that it was such a big deal. But, then, does anyone actually care what NDNs think regarding race or gender in this country?

By: Dube

Dube — Thu, 01 May 2008 00:23:22 +0000

I was engaged a few years ago to a non-feminist. I absolutly refused to take his name; not simply from a moral standing, but because I am extremely proud of my family history (Yes, I have my father’s surname). Hyphenating wasn’t an option as I have a long winded Scottish surname, and he had a complicated Norwegian one. He eventually offered to take my name. This just confused me.
I didn’t understand how he could be willing to disregard part of his identity so easily. Why couldn’t I be who I am and he who he is? Why this urge to become one person? I had already agreed that our children could be given his surnme as i had been given my father’s. This used to be traditional in Scotland, you can see old gravestones have things like, “Jeanie MacArthur – Wife of Duncan Galbraith” on them.
He refused.
This wasn’t the reason we broke up, but it was a clue that is wasn’t going to work.

By: zombie z

zombie z — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 23:18:02 +0000

Is Ashley just googling his own name to find this shit?

Suing a blog? Dude, get a life.

And Jack White IS a crazy son of a gun, which has nothing to do with him being a creative genius (or perhaps everything?). Feel free to have his lawyers call me and everyone else in the free world on that one.

By: steve

steve — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 22:31:18 +0000

Sorry about the typos in the last… typing fast at work!!!

By: steve

steve — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 22:29:47 +0000

A husband taking his wifes name is covered more fully in these to webpages form newspaper articles. Please pass them along they need wider reading.
In Milwaukee county, Wisconsin a court clerk unofficially estimates that in one out of a hundred marriages the man takes the wifes name.

http://www.enquirer.com/editions/2001/01/07/loc_couple_keeps_wifes.html

http://la.indymedia.org/news/2007/01/191537.php

Please read enjoy and pass on.

Steve