Comments on: Yep, There’s Slave In Me

By: shah8

shah8 — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 01:20:53 +0000

Hara…

Please read what I said…please!

“If he is worthy of the love and companionship of someone like her…”

That’s a stipulation that they have a healthy relationship, no coercion or anything like that.

By: Renee

Renee — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 01:13:33 +0000

WOW!!! Thanks so much Gina…I have so much respect for what you do!

By: Gina

Gina — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 00:37:25 +0000

Here! Here! Renee’ This past year of blogging has been like taking the red pill during the movie the matrix. I didn’t know how bad it was until I started kicking over rocks.

By: Hara

Hara — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 07:32:47 +0000

Sha8

However, I am eased to see a straight-up sister be his wife. (Don’t care about white or black sister, just a straight up sister) It means that a) If he is worthy of the respect and companionship of someone like her, then…well, he probably deserves my respect as well…birds of a feather flocks together.

“Good”, “respectable”, “straight up” women, who are educated professional, run businesses, etc
have been known to survive abusive relationships with men and women who haven’t earned anyone’s respect.

By: Hara

Hara — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 07:11:32 +0000

THANK YOU!

For putting it into words and sharing.

thank you thank you thank you

I’d like to make posters of this and plaster Detroit, New Orleans and any other place I (and my sisters) were subjected to the BS about how we gotta get behind our men to get anywhere.

thank you
THANK YOU

By: Mariella

Mariella — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 19:07:13 +0000

@shah8
“She probably anchors him in a way that prevents Barak from taking up some of the noxious attitudes that I have known mixed race individuals to take”

what’s that supposed to mean?

By: Alister Crane

Alister Crane — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 15:36:35 +0000

I can see where you were going and totaly disagree with you. Anyone can clearly see that Michelle Obama is going to catch hell because she and her husband don’t fit neatly into the narrative that the U.S. have crafted for Black People. The Obamas are *married* in a *loving relationship* with *two beautiful children*. They both have achieved *academic* and *career* success which has put them on the road to the White House. They’re not at each others throats, poor, and the children aren’t in bad shape so America hasn’t figured out how to treat this “anomaly” (despite the fact that its more common than realized). The country then decides to go back to its old standard of the narrative: she’s a (black) bitch and he is a (menacing black) hooligan waiting to do something (scary) to you.

I also understand that you would think ill of the comments from the CEO of SCLC, but depending on the person’s age and background that argument would make some sense. When you look back at the history of people of color, especially black people, in America both women and men suffered just for being part of that group. Black Women had to suffer rape or the possibility of rape, beatings, inadequate health care, poor economic prospects and lynchings simply for being black. Black men had to suffer rape or the possibility of being raped(from white men and white women), being forced to rape black women, beatings, being worked to death, inadequate health care, poor economic prospects, and lynchings. So from a point of view it wouldn’t matter if you were male or female you would suffer simpy due to color. Sadly your gender would determine how they would make you suffer.

By: wiggles

wiggles — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 20:32:11 +0000

do you not think Barack also has to deal with sexism as a black man? There is the racial bit but I also think there is some sexism going on when it comes to black men. Their gender when combined with their race has some really horrible results

I’m so f-ing sick of hearing about sexism towards Teh Menz I don’t know if I can express how sick I am of hearing about it. It doesn’t exist.

Repeat: Men. Are. Not. Subject. To. Sexism! No matter what their race.

By the way, there’s no such thing as racism towards white people either.

By: mabisa

mabisa — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 19:29:30 +0000

Wanted to chime in against the “men have penises/women have vaginas” wording as well–I know ya’ll know better than that. Up for a rewording?

By: BR

BR — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 14:50:06 +0000

wait, men have penises? where’s mine? (oh wait i can’t afford one)

sorry i know picking on the “men have penises/women have vaginas” bit misses the central point of the post and the discussion that is already happening is more important, just wanted to point it out (i generally think of feministe as having a bit more nuanced/less transphobic gender analysis).

so yea ok, everyone proceed with the discussing!