Comments on: School District Delivering Anti-Choice Message?

By: Go Amie

Go Amie — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 02:24:33 +0000

@Kelsey – thanks. It’s a shame, especially since (as far as I can tell) the embezzler is gone. What a hurtful legacy to leave.

By: Kelsey

Kelsey — Fri, 22 Aug 2008 00:45:36 +0000

@Go Amie:

There has been some press coverage, but it seems like their previous embezzlement issues got a lot more attention — which I think it pretty standard with any non-profit, unfortunately. People messing up makes better news than people trying to do good.

By: Shannon

Shannon — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 23:38:17 +0000

This story has caught the attention of the media in Sioux Falls. I’ve included some links if you’re at all interested.

http://www.ksfy.com/news/27210819.html

http://www.keloland.com/News/NewsDetail6371.cfm?Id=0,73115

http://www.argusleader.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20080821/UPDATES/80821032

By: Abby

Abby — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:44:53 +0000

Alara Rogers, I had no idea. I really hope it doesn’t take 5 years for you to heal, ouch! Makes me want to never. have. kids. ever.

By: aerdrie

aerdrie — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 16:30:37 +0000

@Alara Rogers Bravo! Well said.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 10:48:32 +0000

Oh and yes, giving birth can definitely leave you with pain and other problems for years afterwards. Don’t mean to scare anyone, because of course serious complications are rare, but it is one of the risks we take when deciding to have a baby.

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 10:44:48 +0000

It’s the usual infantilisation – the logical conclusion is that women shouldn’t be allowed to ever make any important decisions in case they regret them and then feel bad. Yes if you decide to have an abortion you have to ‘live with that decision for the rest of your life’, in the sense that you can’t go back in time and change it. But the same goes for every other decision we make in life. I’ve never had an abortion, but there are plenty of things I’ve done and decisions I’ve made that I’d do differently with hindsight. But that doesn’t mean I should never have been allowed any control over my life. Part of being human is that we make mistakes. Not that choosing an abortion is necessarily a mistake, of course, in many cases it’s the best thing to do, and is not regretted.

By: Sara Anderson

Sara Anderson — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 04:37:24 +0000

“No one ever told me I’d live with this decision for the rest of my life” – and I’m an idiot, so I couldn’t figure that out on my own!

By: Alara Rogers

Alara Rogers — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 04:17:54 +0000

“No one ever told me I would have to live with this decision for the rest of my life. It hurts to sit and I can’t have sex without pain because of the severe tearing I suffered during labor… five years ago. I love my little girl… but when does the pain stop?”

Wait…can one really still hurt that long after delivery? Yikes!

Well, I didn’t have tearing; my doctors think I bruised my tailbone or something. And it’s 2 years, now. It’s painful to sit and my favorite sex positions hurt unless I’m *very* aroused, and my doctor told me that 5 years might be a reasonable length of time before it heals on its own.

A neighbor of mine when I was growing up was apparently damaged so badly that she couldn’t have sex for 20 years. Of course she was my grandmother’s age, so it’s quite possible that whatever happened to her could have been solved with today’s medical technology… but yes, you have nerves down there. You can damage yourself *permanently* by vaginal birth. And a c-section, being that it’s major surgery, can actually be worse, though the damage it does is to a different part of the body.

By: Abby

Abby — Thu, 21 Aug 2008 02:26:31 +0000

Wait…can one really still hurt that long after delivery? Yikes!