*high fives*

I respect and appreciate your contributions here and elsewhere.

It’s a example of the quote:

“In the generous post racial world in which we live whites continues to feel entitled to their anger at the minimal loss of privilege that they have experienced, yet when a WOC rightly speaks out about issues effecting our lives our anger is somehow overly aggressive or uncalled for.”

((((moons Cassy Fiano))))

Yes racism should make everyone angry. But keep in mind there is a difference between venting anger and having a constructive conversation between races/ genders. etc.

And here’s a post about why we get pissed off when people tell us to watch our tone:

One item that comes up over and over in discussions of racism is that of tone/attitude. People of Color (POC) are very often called on their tone when they bring up racism, the idea being that if POC were just more polite about the whole thing the offending person would have listened and apologized right away. This not only derails the discussion but also tries to turn the insults/race issues into the fault of POC and their tone. Many POC have come to the realization that the expectation of politeness when saying something insulting is a form of privilege. At the core of this expectation of politeness is the idea that the POC in question should teach the offender what was wrong with their statement. Because in my experience what is meant by “be polite” is “teach me”, teach me why you’re offended by this, teach me how to be racially sensitive and the bottom line is that it is no one’s responsibility to teach anyone else. And even when POC are as polite as possible there is still hostility read into the words because people are so afraid of being called racist that they would rather go on offending than deal with the hard road of confronting their own prejudices.

In other words, I am completely on board with it being black-only or brown-only or everybody-but-white-people only, or whatever, but I’m just not clear which of these you want it to be. (Or seriously, delete the hell out of my post, ’cause that’s a plenty clear message too. ^^;)

And seriously, Dave, you’re not doing yourself any favors by talking back. If it doesn’t describe you, it’s not addressing you, and if it *does* describe you, her outrage is a lot less of a problem here than your level of suck.