You don’t like it. We get it! Now, give it a rest, please!

This is supposedly a feminist blog, my primary identification is as a feminist woman, a second wave rather than third wave one. Feminism is a BIG tent.

When would be a better time to address the continued warfare within trans identities and the need to actually do something every other damn day of the year than now? Those of you who told me to shut up, what have you done to help those at risk?…..besides read off their names once a year.

Our Remembrance Day is the one day of the year which allows us, collectively, trans and cis, to focus on and grieve for our trans sisters and brothers whose rights to life have, without exception, been violently denied by those who have appointed themselves as judge, jury and executioner.

And yet that simple act of commemoration, that short period of quiet reflection, seems to be insufficient for you.

Please leave your baggage at the door.

Did you read the original post?

No, actually, scratch that. Religiously, I, too, am very concerned with the dead. Do you think that they are comforted by your choosing to once again do this, here and now? Do they rest easier because you got yet another chance to talk about how we should all stand together, so long as you don’t have to stand with those people and whoever does merit a place is standing behind you? Because I didn’t see all these enemies of yours, these people out to get unoffending and ever-generous you, saying a word about you here, or about those you consider on “your side”. We were mourning together, with no rank, no leaders, just as, for a minute, a community.

Couldn’t you, in this time and place, just for a whole day let that be? Just come in and just be present without firing off at other people who’re hurting right now, too? Can we not turn this, too, into a battleground when there’s so much fighting to do already?

On the other hand not lying about who we are as anarchists or trans communities (with all our ‘undesireables’) is not the same as refusing to see the humanity of those who don’t agree with us or have just never heard of us before. The choices in those arguments always seem to be “staunchly who we are and hating everyone else” and “pretending to be palatable and trying to make friends”. What about standing firm on our ideals, ourselves and our solidarity AND trying to be open and generous with our energy, our explanations, our love and commitment to people as people.

It’s a big ask for us who’re getting shat on on constantly, but i reckn it’s the way to build a broad-based absolutely radical movement.

THIS. exactly this.

The term “transgender” has replaced “trans” in most of the TDOR announcements. This in spite of many on the list having felt, as I do, that the term is an insult, a deliberate denial of the right of self identity as simply woman or man. I just argued this point on Bilerico with Donna Rose who ended the exchange with an implication I dishonoured the trans dead. Nothing could be further from the truth. When Rose was stuffing her face with thousand dollar+ a plate HRC food, I was housing and breaking bread with the very transwomen who make up much of the list. I was doing this with zero support from the “transgender” community and in fact while they were maintaining a state of warfare with me……..over the simple respect of the term trans rather than transgender.

Today is the day afterwards…….how many of those who were moved to tears by a service will now do anything? Almost none, take it to the bank.

I work with the dead as a major part of my spiritual journey. I will be doing so with the trans dead myself tonight…..but the names in transgender activism consider me the enemy.

I could add how in 97 I, by myself, walked out of a republican representative’s office office in DC with an offer to write and promote a Congressional letter to the DOJ to state tracking hate crimes against trans people. That was deliberately sabotaged the next day by Rikki Wilkins at the request of HRC.
I could tell you how the next year, one other and myself almost changed the Ohio birth certificate ruling by ourselves while under constant attack by transgenders…….I could tell you how, when I was physically disabled on the job I then put everything I had left in the world into starting a trans housing project…….but then I’m the enemy because I ask for the simple respect of identity of those who didn’t “trans” their gender but rather their sex.