First, I agree with you, Angiportus, that girls need to be better educated on how to take care of themselves when they want to engage in intercourse. But your statement makes it sound like you think the whole first-time blood/pain thing can be prevented in all women (please correct me if this wasn’t your intended implication).

The first time I had sex, I was properly lubricated, we took it very slow, and every time I made any indication that I wanted to stop and wait for a while, we did. But it still hurt. And that was ok in my eyes, since this was something I wanted to do, something I was informed might happen, and something I was prepared to minimize through lubricant and other techniques.

Not all women have enough of a hymen to cause any pain or bleeding. But please recognize that some of us do. I’ve even known women who had to have minor medical procedures done to sever the hymen because the span of their hymen was preventing them from removing a tampon without immense amounts of pain.

I suppose what it amounts to is that some women are exposed to largely unavoidable pain when it comes to first intercourse, menstruation, and so on. While I am happy that you celebrate your sexuality and protect yourself, please don’t blame me (or my partner) for not doing things right if there’s a chance that there was nothing more I could do.

That was your first time? Jeez, no wonder you hate men. (I have a <a href=”http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/01/13/feministes-next-top-troll-season-3/”contest to win, dammit.)

“But so many here still tell the young girls that they might bleed and/or hurt, without telling them how to make sure they won’t.”

As long as I’m here, how would one make sure? I’d always assumed it was random chance.

Absolutely BRILLIANT, thank you for this. The worst sex I ever had was with a guy who was a virgin, but refused to admit it, plus, I wasn’t confident enough back then saying “no, you do it like THIS!”

The other thing, though, is that a lot of people don’t actually do the blood-and-gore bit; I didn’t, because I waited until I actually wanted to have sex, and I was properly turned on. This worries me a little, I have to say – what if the guy’d taken that to mean I wasn’t a virgin, and had taken offence for whatever reason? Especially since I kinda enjoyed it… :D

However, it did give me inspiration for another possible product, to cater for a particular sexual fetish that some men (and some women too) enjoy:

What about the “artificial menstruation”…?

Weird isn’t it? Their optimal sexual experience is with someone who is often nervous, uncomfortable, sometimes in pain, and most likely not going to orgasm.

Creepy.