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  1. MalkuthSephira
    MalkuthSephira January 28, 2009 at 8:32 am |

    God, I remember people talking about “rainbow parties.” I think I first heard the term while watching either Oprah or some similar show with my mom – she was shocked that these things were allegedly going on all over the place, and I simply found the concept incredibly bizarre. It wasn’t even a term I had ever heard before, not to mention the whole idea is just seriously pointless and impractical. I told her that I sure as heck didn’t know anybody who did anything similar, or anybody who’d even heard of it, and I thought that if anybody was going to do something sexual, it would probably be, y’know, actual sex? But of course, why listen to your teenage daughter who actually lives in the real world when you can shut your brain off and listen to TV?

  2. Jamelle
    Jamelle January 28, 2009 at 9:16 am |

    This makes a whole lot more sense than the alternative, I mean, when you think back to being a teenager, the first thing that comes up – for most people – is the crippling awkwardness. I never really understood how it could be possible that an age group defined by its inability to successfully maneuver through most social interactions could be filled with sexual virtuosos, or something.

  3. annajcook
    annajcook January 28, 2009 at 9:36 am |

    Love the headline Jill! I think you’re absolutely right that the concept of responsible teenagers doesn’t fit the American cultural understanding of adolescence as an age for rebellion and risk-taking. Or the desire in the media for sensational, panic-inducing narratives.

  4. Ellen
    Ellen January 28, 2009 at 11:26 am |

    The one thing that has stayed consistent throughout history when it comes to childhood and adolescence is that adults consistently freak out about how much worse it is for children nowadays, and it’s not like the old days.

  5. Rob
    Rob January 28, 2009 at 12:39 pm |

    The thing to remember anytime this comes up is that its been over 25 years since Phoebe Cates preformed fellatio on a carrot in Fast Times, so those teenagers being represented there have teenagers of their own.

  6. non sequitur
    non sequitur January 28, 2009 at 3:24 pm |

    Ah, but speaking of the crazy things teenagers (or at least teenagers denied actual sex ed) get up to, let’s not forget about saddlebacking:

    http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=1031968

    Background:

    http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=880970

    Yes, it seems teenage pregnancy is actually on the rise among gay teenagers, due to being both pressured into pretending to be straight and denied information about birth control.

  7. Chally
    Chally January 28, 2009 at 7:28 pm |

    Exactly.

    And, of course, it’s appropriate to speak for teenagers, what with them being all sexed up and not being able to communicate themselves. They’re also politically apathetic and just smelly.

    But seriously, would it be too much to communicate with your kids rather than listen to the fear-mongering?

  8. John
    John January 29, 2009 at 8:45 am |
  9. ROXIE
    ROXIE January 29, 2009 at 3:25 pm |

    I was a teenager during the whole ‘rainbow party’ thing. I got positively incensed at the various “specials” on prime tv about this rampant teen sexuality that was doomed to destroy us all. Especially girls.

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