Ask and ye shall receive. Commenter Ali says:
“Not to mention that the logical consequence of bringing society around to the point where being childfree is a non-weird, totally acceptable option is more people taking that option.”
Sorry to threadjack for a second but Jill (or Cara or anyone else), could we have an open thread about this please? I was just refused permanent BC (the essure procedure specifically) by my OB as well as another doctor I called because evidently I’m too stupid at 25 to know that I don’t want biological children. ever. I’ve been shaking in rage and frustration all morning and I don’t know what else I can do at this point.
I know this has come up before on the blog, so this may be a good time to pool resources and share stories. These things go both ways: Women who are considered “fit” to reproduce (young, white, middle-income or higher, educated, able-bodied, etc) are often second-guessed in their decisions to not have children or to delay childbearing — and especially in the decision to go on permanent or long-term birth control. On the other hand, women who are deemed “unfit” to reproduce and/or parent (often women of color, poor women, drug-using women and disabled women) are forced or coerced into sterilization, or legally punished for exercising their fundamental right to reproduce.
So this might be a good place to share resources, strategies and information about how we can fully exercise our reproductive rights in a world where our identities shape just how free we’re all allowed to be.