Comments on: Another 11-Year-Old Boy Commits Suicide After Homophobic Bullying http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/ In defense of the sanctimonious women's studies set. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 14:11:18 +0000 hourly 1 By: Viola Herd http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-279254 Viola Herd Mon, 05 Oct 2009 00:55:22 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-279254 This is truly a tragedy, I can personally say I have an 11 year old grandson and i can tell you the living hell he has been through for 3 years. I also have been to schools who administrators say he is an easy target. He was even suspended 3 times last year he could not take the tauntings. He did not want to labeled as gay just because he was not tough and would not fight back. He was ganged up on in Hampden Elementary School to the extent i had to pull him out of there. From there he went to a charter school. But shortly after being there within 2 years he was threatened with a knife the administrators said they had to catch it. I pulled him out of the charter and he was put in another elementary school Medfield Heights Elementary but still some of those old bullies went to that school. He has dislexia and has an IEP and they see that as a weakness and really put him through the mill. I took his cries very seriously when he said i cant do anything right I am not worth living. I went to the administrators and the Principal who says we have the most stringent bullying policy anywhere. We have to stop blaming the victim. I threatened to sue the Baltimore City School System for failure to protect. He went through a living hell for an entire year. This year is better he has made some real friends but i can tell you we need to change the management of these schools. He still has days where he comes home crying because he could not make little things like a hall monitor I was devastated for him. I wanted to cry that there is no real help I was so upset i even contenplated home school. He tried so hard only for these things to be given to the very bullies that taunted him. I can tell you i have called the police many times he has been spit on, beaten with sticks, called names and ridiculed called stupid and i really feel like something is very wrong with our society. It is a horrible thing for a child to feel worthless to really feel like they have no option but suicide. I have tried to tell him about bullies there school has a bullying program but i can tell you we need to come alot further along then the system is doing. This is a true hate crime. There is no other word for it. Unfortunately they are often overlooked by teachers, administrators, School Principals the school board. It is horrible If things do not look any brighter when he leaves this school into a middle school i am preparing for a class action law suite. I really think that is what it is going to take for people to stop these sensless deaths of these children. My heart really goes out to there families. I truly know what they have been through. This is truly a tragedy, I can personally say I have an 11 year old grandson and i can tell you the living hell he has been through for 3 years. I also have been to schools who administrators say he is an easy target. He was even suspended 3 times last year he could not take the tauntings. He did not want to labeled as gay just because he was not tough and would not fight back. He was ganged up on in Hampden Elementary School to the extent i had to pull him out of there. From there he went to a charter school. But shortly after being there within 2 years he was threatened with a knife the administrators said they had to catch it. I pulled him out of the charter and he was put in another elementary school Medfield Heights Elementary but still some of those old bullies went to that school. He has dislexia and has an IEP and they see that as a weakness and really put him through the mill. I took his cries very seriously when he said i cant do anything right I am not worth living. I went to the administrators and the Principal who says we have the most stringent bullying policy anywhere. We have to stop blaming the victim. I threatened to sue the Baltimore City School System for failure to protect. He went through a living hell for an entire year. This year is better he has made some real friends but i can tell you we need to change the management of these schools. He still has days where he comes home crying because he could not make little things like a hall monitor I was devastated for him. I wanted to cry that there is no real help I was so upset i even contenplated home school. He tried so hard only for these things to be given to the very bullies that taunted him. I can tell you i have called the police many times he has been spit on, beaten with sticks, called names and ridiculed called stupid and i really feel like something is very wrong with our society. It is a horrible thing for a child to feel worthless to really feel like they have no option but suicide. I have tried to tell him about bullies there school has a bullying program but i can tell you we need to come alot further along then the system is doing. This is a true hate crime. There is no other word for it. Unfortunately they are often overlooked by teachers, administrators, School Principals the school board. It is horrible If things do not look any brighter when he leaves this school into a middle school i am preparing for a class action law suite. I really think that is what it is going to take for people to stop these sensless deaths of these children. My heart really goes out to there families. I truly know what they have been through.

]]> By: Mere Images: Bullying | Cul de sac Magazine http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-278542 Mere Images: Bullying | Cul de sac Magazine Thu, 01 Oct 2009 07:49:16 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-278542 [...] consequences of this type of bullying ended the lives of 11-year-olds Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover and Jaheem Herrera as well as three students in Illinois. It was also a major factor in the highly publicized murder of [...] [...] consequences of this type of bullying ended the lives of 11-year-olds Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover and Jaheem Herrera as well as three students in Illinois. It was also a major factor in the highly publicized murder of [...]

]]> By: Joe http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-278387 Joe Wed, 30 Sep 2009 17:02:57 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-278387 Does your child get bullied in school? Do you wish there was something you could do to make your child feel more confident? Well, we can help! A prominent cable television show is now casting in New York City and the surrounding Tri-state area. We are currently looking for a family where a child has been bullied in school. We want to work with you to boost your child's self confidence and help them live a more enjoyable life. Please email us your story. joep@sharpentertainment.com Does your child get bullied in school? Do you wish there was something you could do to make your child feel more confident? Well, we can help!

A prominent cable television show is now casting in New York City and the surrounding Tri-state area. We are currently looking for a family where a child has been bullied in school. We want to work with you to boost your child’s self confidence and help them live a more enjoyable life.

Please email us your story.

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]]> By: peggy http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-278129 peggy Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:04:00 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-278129 I recently saw a tv episode of another child suicide that broke my heart so much, I am on the web looking for any other information to see who/how I can help. It has bothered me for days. It is a terrible crime that these teachers do not interfer. I am sure they have the ability to do so in the majority of cases. It would be great to see some cases come forward that are prosecuted and precendence established such that teachers and parents will not tolerate this. It reflects an appauling lack of character and integrity on the part of the teaching community. It goes on in every school to different degrees and there needs to be preventive, proactive action to stop it. I recently saw a tv episode of another child suicide that broke my heart so much, I am on the web looking for any other information to see who/how I can help. It has bothered me for days. It is a terrible crime that these teachers do not interfer. I am sure they have the ability to do so in the majority of cases. It would be great to see some cases come forward that are prosecuted and precendence established such that teachers and parents will not tolerate this. It reflects an appauling lack of character and integrity on the part of the teaching community. It goes on in every school to different degrees and there needs to be preventive, proactive action to stop it.

]]> By: Greg Dale http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-275781 Greg Dale Thu, 17 Sep 2009 05:50:31 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-275781 It is a heartache for all involved. HOW can we stop this insanity. My 11 year old son tried to commit suicide tonight. I thank God that my wife was there to prevent it. He has been diagnosised with Aspenbergers Syndrome and is on medication for it. He is contantly bullied by other kids because of this. I am right now on temperary assignment in another province and I'm due out of here and headed home in 2 days. I have been here 2 weeks. My wife took him to the hospital and he is okay and is being set up for counseling and therapy. He also told the doctor part of the reason for wanting to die was because I was gone for so long. I do not go out of town very much for work unless there are emergencies and they are rare. I don't know what to do. Has anyone got any answers? It is a heartache for all involved. HOW can we stop this insanity. My 11 year old son tried to commit suicide tonight. I thank God that my wife was there to prevent it. He has been diagnosised with Aspenbergers Syndrome and is on medication for it. He is contantly bullied by other kids because of this. I am right now on temperary assignment in another province and I’m due out of here and headed home in 2 days. I have been here 2 weeks. My wife took him to the hospital and he is okay and is being set up for counseling and therapy. He also told the doctor part of the reason for wanting to die was because I was gone for so long. I do not go out of town very much for work unless there are emergencies and they are rare. I don’t know what to do. Has anyone got any answers?

]]> By: Dink http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-267764 Dink Fri, 14 Aug 2009 03:21:15 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-267764 (M.A.R.C.S. ) an acronym for murder, abuse, rape, chronic illness, suicide is not a joke it is serious our youth is at risk as well as our young adults. We all need to step up and help our children and our young adults with care from any point of view we all need to face reality. Mental issues end in with death. M.A.R.C.S. knows no boundries; M.A.R.C.S. doesn't discriminate. A Wave of the future; Our future. Please spread the word we all need to be discussing these actions to our children and young adults through communication any way possiable. I write about things like this. My book : The Victims of M.A.R.C.S. has stories about this very problem ; Be aware this could be your child next. (M.A.R.C.S. ) an acronym for murder, abuse, rape, chronic illness, suicide is not a joke it is serious our youth is at risk as well as our young adults. We all need to step up and help our children and our young adults with care from any point of view we all need to face reality. Mental issues end in with death.
M.A.R.C.S. knows no boundries; M.A.R.C.S. doesn’t discriminate. A Wave of the future; Our future. Please spread the word we all need to be discussing these actions to our children and young adults through communication any way possiable. I write about things like this. My book : The Victims of M.A.R.C.S. has stories about this very problem ; Be aware this could be your child next.

]]> By: johan http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-263383 johan Tue, 04 Aug 2009 13:52:23 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-263383 I think the laws should be such that the responsible adults (teachers, school board, council) can be legally prosecuted for enticing to murder, which, in my view their attitude and refusal to take measures (if true) is, not just technically, but factually. I'm no lawyer, but I would say 30 years seems a reasonable penalty in the US context, it is a hate crime. I am genuinely surprised this doesn't happen yet, but convinced it will in the near future. It will solve the problem instantaneously. These guys are horribly failed by society. No excuse. Get your legal system up to standard guys. I think the laws should be such that the responsible adults (teachers, school board, council) can be legally prosecuted for enticing to murder, which, in my view their attitude and refusal to take measures (if true) is, not just technically, but factually. I’m no lawyer, but I would say 30 years seems a reasonable penalty in the US context, it is a hate crime. I am genuinely surprised this doesn’t happen yet, but convinced it will in the near future. It will solve the problem instantaneously. These guys are horribly failed by society. No excuse. Get your legal system up to standard guys.

]]> By: Natalie http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-254946 Natalie Wed, 22 Jul 2009 02:56:47 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-254946 this is horrible i go to middle school well now im going to be in high school and after seeing this anytime i know someone is being bullied i will stand up for them i have not seen any cases yett but if i do i will not stand by and watch it go on ! i can not understand how some sick teachers can just let this kind of thing go on and not do anything because they think it can teach this child a lesonn ! well let me tell you somthin ther are MENNY ways to teach a child a lesson instead of crushing them nay, destroying with this bullying ! and for the kids that think there funny by bulling check yourself because i bet you cant even imagen how you will feel knowing your actions have caused a child his life ! and for the ones being bulled hang in there ! dont give in !!! dont let the bully win be strong even when they knock you down ! because no words stupid meanigless words that someone can say to you is worth your life ! SO PLEASE HANG IN THERE ! YOU ARE NOT ALONE ! this is horrible i go to middle school well now im going to be in high school and after seeing this anytime i know someone is being bullied i will stand up for them i have not seen any cases yett but if i do i will not stand by and watch it go on ! i can not understand how some sick teachers can just let this kind of thing go on and not do anything because they think it can teach this child a lesonn ! well let me tell you somthin ther are MENNY ways to teach a child a lesson instead of crushing them nay, destroying with this bullying ! and for the kids that think there funny by bulling check yourself because i bet you cant even imagen how you will feel knowing your actions have caused a child his life ! and for the ones being bulled hang in there ! dont give in !!! dont let the bully win be strong even when they knock you down ! because no words stupid meanigless words that someone can say to you is worth your life ! SO PLEASE HANG IN THERE ! YOU ARE NOT ALONE !

]]> By: Starr http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-250374 Starr Thu, 09 Jul 2009 18:28:04 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-250374 There definitely is not a thing right about bullying and if the teacher thinks that this fixes children, they are as ignorant, and ruthless as the bullies themselves. NO child needs to be bullied and NO child should have to live with this probability of endangering his or her life and learning potentials. This ruins the lifes path of the child and ruins the probable chances of him or her standing at a higher formation in the world. Duck and hide is all the child wants to do at a bullying stage. It is all absolutely WRONG!!!! There definitely is not a thing right about bullying and if the teacher thinks that this fixes children, they are as ignorant, and ruthless as the bullies themselves. NO child needs to be bullied and NO child should have to live with this probability of endangering his or her life and learning potentials.
This ruins the lifes path of the child and ruins the probable chances of him or her standing at a higher formation in the world. Duck and hide is all the child wants to do at a bullying stage. It is all absolutely WRONG!!!!

]]> By: Lira825 http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2009/04/21/another-11-year-old-boy-commits-suicide-after-homophobic-bullying/#comment-249851 Lira825 Wed, 08 Jul 2009 15:07:19 +0000 http://www.feministe.us/blog/?p=12991#comment-249851 My mom sent me an e-mail about this and when i read it my head was thinking, " Oh my gosh this must be real hard on the family and that those kids learn not to pick on people anymore." And sometimes si pick on people but i dont do it constently. This change my point of view on bulling and im going to stop because some one who i bully on can do the same thing and i dont want that to happen. I just want to say sorry for your guyes loss. God bless you. I just think this is so sad and its devestating that poeople would pick on thischild so much and the teachers and staff didnt suspened anyone! I think that is messed up. Maybe the teachers will also take something in and think that they need to be more on the kids who are bulling people and send them to the principals office. My mom sent me an e-mail about this and when i read it my head was thinking, ” Oh my gosh this must be real hard on the family and that those kids learn not to pick on people anymore.” And sometimes si pick on people but i dont do it constently. This change my point of view on bulling and im going to stop because some one who i bully on can do the same thing and i dont want that to happen. I just want to say sorry for your guyes loss. God bless you. I just think this is so sad and its devestating that poeople would pick on thischild so much and the teachers and staff didnt suspened anyone! I think that is messed up. Maybe the teachers will also take something in and think that they need to be more on the kids who are bulling people and send them to the principals office.

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