Or so says perpetually off-kilter Jill Stanek — except she uses the term “quiche-eaters.” Basically, a study says that women who use birth control tend to be attracted to men with more boyish features with caring personalities, versus “rugged” men with controlling personalities. The study itself is questionable, and the article detailing it comes from the less-than-reliable Daily Mail. But Stanek jumps on it nonetheless, saying, “Also don’t forget estrogen from the Pill is water has been found by several studies to feminize male fish. So women on the Pill may be getting what they’re helping create, wimps.”
Her post is pretty revealing. Pro-choicers often make the argument that at the heart of the anti-choice, anti-gay, right-wing philosophy is misogyny and, in turn, a vise-like grip on traditional gender roles. Men are lionized and women are at best marginalized and at worst despised. When women act “like men” and take their lives into their own hands — by having sex for pleasure instead of just procreation, by working outside of the home, or by otherwise subverting traditional gender roles — those who adhere to “traditional morality” get awfully upset. The same holds true when men turn gender roles on their head. For people like Stanek, the problem with abortion isn’t that it’s ending a life; if that were the case, she would support efforts to actually decrease the abortion rate, like comprehensive sexual education, gender egalitarianism and contraception. The problem isn’t life versus choice; the problem is choice itself, and what that choice means for women’s empowerment, safety and access to traditionally male spheres.
That the Pill would make women more attractive to “feminized” men confirms Stanek’s worldview; even putting aside the fact that a little poking reveals the study to be ridiculous, Stanek and her readers operate under the very basic assumption that to be “feminized” is a very bad thing. Calling someone a “quiche-eater,” as she does in her headline, is insulting because quiche is a woman’s food.
And the Pill is bad for women because it gives women control and a tiny bit of power over their own lives, which they surely don’t deserve.
- Leslee Unruh Eats Babies by Jill May 28, 2007
- Anti-Choicers Defeat Birth Control Bill in South Dakota by Jill February 11, 2008
- The abortion “compromise” by Jill December 19, 2009
- Anti-Choice Dems Receive Death Threats From Pro-Lifers by Jill March 24, 2010
- The Good Old Days by Jill February 14, 2008