Are you there, God? It’s me, 20-something Feminist Blogger. Another 20-something feminist blogger has written a pretty sweet post about the problems with defending the sacred choice to Vajazzle. At the end of it — and you should read the whole thing just because — she says:
I’m not going to be met with shock when I remove my pants and reveal to my sex partner that I haven’t converted my pubic mound into a shiny disco ball. But these days, it wouldn’t be out of the ordinary for him to be shocked that I’m not perfectly waxed. The body hair ship may have sailed, but vaginal modification is at a point right now where we are still in a position to fend off the tide.
Leading an older-than-20-something feminist blogger to ask via Twitter, “Male tweeps in early 20s: are hairless (or nearly hairless) pubes the norm for your gen? Older feminists think yes. Or are we too cynical?”
My first reaction was, “You’re too cynical.” That was mostly because I’ve never heard a dude complain about the state of anyone’s lady-business, at least not to me. But then, I am a Feminist Blogger who dates and befriends men who are aware of the Feminist Bloggerhood — men who probably realize that it is not in their best interests to demand any sort of vulvular modification, or engage me in any dude-bro dialogues about The Ideal Crotch. And many of my het female friends? They shave and/or wax, although I’m not sure any of us take the girl to total hairlessness (although some come pretty close). So for women who are “like me” — American, white, heterosexual, single, femme-y, urban-dwelling, 20-something, collector of extremely fancy underwear, with disposable income — hairlessness isn’t the norm, but serious hair removal just might be. Which I find kind of troubling.
But I’m curious to see if my perspective isn’t maybe a little too narrow. So, not God (gross), but everybody else: What’s the norm in your community? Who are you, and what sorts of hair removal do you do, if any? Has anyone ever expressed disapproval with your lack of hair removal, or asked (or expected or demanded) that you do something else? And what do you expect from your partner(s), if anything?