What’s to be done? What’s the best response when you hear someone say something bigoted? Towards taking the focus off “calling out” and putting it back on the person being discriminated against.
Questions I Don’t Like Being Asked: I’m not living my life to impress other people; this young woman is going after her own goals for her own sake.
Lastly, some links to other people’s posts I’ve enjoyed lately.
This week’s posts from me weren’t too political, but if you like reading about chicks kissing ass then I’ve got something for you.
The feminist in me is a little torn between my love of beauty products and trying to fight back against gendered notions of physical appearance. However, these two ladies – Jacqui Bradfield and Australian media darling Zoe Foster make me feel a little less feminist-guilt.
I also briefly touch upon ex-gay conferences, the death of Amy Winehouse as a synecdoche for good girls gone bad, and lament the lack of labia lovin’ that the plastic surgery industry promotes in this week’s edition of the Sunday Hustle.
This week, a recent conversation inspired two posts.
I wrote about one of my many pet peeves: gender-based ‘truisms’, and about how poorly chosen metaphors undermine the experiences of people who have actually undergone the terrible thing which my interlocutor compared to the trials and tribulations of having a job.
Uh, this wasn’t written in the past week, but I’m not sure how strict that policy is and it’s certainly shameless self-promotion, so if it’s okay with you … I’m keen to sell more copies of my zine before I leave New Zealand next weekend, so that I won’t have so much to fit into my luggage, plus I’ll have to put sales on hold after that due to travels and figuring out new postage rates and such. My zine’s called If Destroyed Still True and it’s about Iraqi Kurdistan, a mix of travel stories and politics, particularly with regard to the protests that began there in February.
Also, I’ve got copies of Juggling The Rainbow, which is a polyamory compilation zine from New Zealand. I haven’t managed to post about it yet but if anyone’s keen to get this one, they’re welcome to get in touch direct!
What is Feminism? http://thisgirlongirls.blogspot.com/2011/08/what-is-feminism.html
The Runaways: BAMFs. http://thisgirlongirls.blogspot.com/2011/08/runaways-aka-bamfs.html
Why Is Menstruation Taboo? http://thisgirlongirls.blogspot.com/2011/07/why-is-menstruation-taboo.html
The Douching Myth: http://thisgirlongirls.blogspot.com/2011/07/douching-myth.html
Dorothy Parker: http://thisgirlongirls.blogspot.com/2011/07/dorothy-parker.html
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I wrote about female friendship and how the media totally sucks at portraying it.
Also, erasure in interfaith relations.
I spent Saturday working, not fasting, as my reply to conservative Christians and politicians holding a prayer rally. I also wrote about being washed away in meditation, how Tarot can be an ecstatic experience, and why I like the Pagan metaphor for divorce, because handparting isn’t breaking anything.
Two posts this weeks:
First, after the derail that happened on DGF’s I Don’t Have a Title For This; I’m Too Busy Being Angry thread, I had more to say about the pains of being a privileged ally: Existential Horse-Pucky, Rachel Naomi Remen, and Other Tips on Not Being An Asshole.
Then, confronting my disappointment in an adolescent icon: The Fall of Kate Mulgrew (Or: William Shatner Couldn’t Get Any Lower).
Maturity and making peace with the establishment–why accepting the system isn’t really maturity.
Sex strikes and the problems with them.
Sweet news for a bitter week– tough urban bees are thriving as their country cousins succumb to a mysterious die-off. A doctor is researching honey for wound healing– an ancient practice that has a place today–
This week I wrote about the frustrations of online dating, and later on decided to post some of my personal deal-breakers and must-haves.
Based on thinking about those, I decided to take the step of offering my dating site profile texts for comment, and effectively crowdsource them: Feel free to have a go!
In the same theme, I found another “dating tips” page from Yahoo to whine about, this time How men (get told to) deal with heartbreak.
On other topics, I posted the latest instalment of my story Cyborg Sleeps.
Ever wondered about bigger games than rock-paper-scissors? Based on hearing of the “lizard-Spock” extension, I started wondering about the mathematics of n-dimensional rock-paper-scissors and what properties they might have in common with each other. This post includes my initial findings!
Following the police shooting of a local resident, there was a riot round the corner from my house yesterday. I posted my initial reactions last night, and some pictures this morning, trying to make sense of the fallout.
I’m beginning to post more regularly on my new little blog, & lately I’ve been writing about Harry Potter, male protagonists & Strong Female Characters, life lessons with The Vampire Diaries & deadline-dreading procrastination.
Thanks for hosting this – I always find great blog posts on Sundays because of it!
I wrote a post on Betye Saar, the first black woman artist to show in the Whitney Museum, who created work protesting racism and sexism with imagery of Aunt Jemima woven throughout.
I also composed a list of feminist internships! Check them out if you want to work for a political organization, magazine, blog, research organization, or nonprofit for women’s rights.
I wrote about the Hollywood Pay Gap here http://lovejoyfeminism.blogspot.com/2011/08/hollywood-pay-gap.html.
Chapter of the Week, from The Lifelong Activist: The Primary Requisite of Effective Activism
“Are people selfish for focusing on their own needs instead of the community as a whole or the larger principle? Maybe or maybe not, but that’s not the point. The point is, that is the way most people—including most activists, by the way—behave. They need a reason to buy, and that reason isn’t the intrinsic worth of your viewpoint, it’s that they have a need that they perceive your viewpoint can fill.”
And, from my new book, The Seven Secrets of the Prolific, Coping with the Silly, Annoying, Challenging Comments and Questions Writers Get
This week I talked about Huffington Post’s new site for women, and asked whether feminists should consume pop culture that is decidedly anti-feminist, which is pretty much everything.
I got tired of feeling bad for not blogging in my social justice related blog (largely due to burnout from grad school), so I recently decided to start blogging about my other passion, roller derby. It primarily focuses on the politics of being a fat skater.
This week I wrote about the gear I use, deconstructed derby, weight loss and the fantasy of being thin, and shared my new routine for off skate training.
Sex work and porn in the time of kyriarchy: a sociological analysis from my personal perspective.
I had my first guest author at Anytime Yoga this week!
Enough (talk of body image and disordered eating) — On learning how to do no harm to ourselves and all the life forces that interfere with that.
In other writing:
Do you need any props? — On kindness.
The Problem with Pretty — FSM forbid I should want a pair of running shoes for, well, running.
Cat and Cow Flow — An asana post for articulating the muscles along the spine.
This was a busy week for me over at A Feminist Farm.
I posted about fixing things rather than replacing them, an act which bucks the messages of our consumption-driven society http://afeministfarm.wordpress.com/2011/08/03/on-fixing-things/
I also wrote a bit about the vision I have for the farm and intentional community we’re working towards establishing
I discussed the benefits of amaranth, a plant similar to quinoa
And finally, I discussed what sort of practical application the soil food web has for people interested in organic gardening
Doctors debate dyspareunia (Painful sex) – Part 1 of what will no doubt be a continuing series, in which I look at how different doctors (M.D.s, Ph.Ds, etc.) figure out which one of them is best qualified to handle sexual & genital pain.
Yeah I’m blogging again.
This week, I thought more than usual about politics. In the UK, we have some unusual ideas emerging from the supposedly left-wing party that incorporate worrying concepts from the right. And – not surprisingly – women are the ones that suffer…
A post about fantasy heroines that I started lats monght and forgot to finish (blush) but finally found and finished.
This week, I fell in love with Matt Damon even more. Defending teachers is important, especially in today’s media. When Famous People Defend Teachers it Makes My Heart Happy and A Little More Love for Matt Damon
I also wrote about how I decided to keep my last name when I got married, and when I tell people that, they usually ask “But what about the children? Don’t you want to have the same last name as your kids?” To which I respond: “IF I give birth, why wouldn’t they have MY name?” The Kid Argument
#1: I wrote about the predicament of being asked, “Why are you a feminist?” and my handy solution: http://beinglumina.blogspot.com/2011/08/be-careful-what-you-ask-for.html
#2: A very personal post about being a stepmother and dealing with the mother (of my stepchildren) who continues to attempt to alienate them from their father:
#3: A tongue-in-cheek and somewhat crass piece about the obscene (pornographic style) keywords that have inadvertently led people to my blog:
Locating The Jew In Spike Jonze’s Adaptation Of Where The Wild Things Are. I argue that Jonze’s turned Sendak’s palpably Jewish children’s story into an antisemitic film.
Blog posts about stickers that I have been putting up around where I live in Chile. Chile is a highly mysoginistic country so i have been trying to stick it to em!
You can find more on the street harassment movement that is going on down here plus other feminist articles relating to south america in my blog as well as updates on life in chile accompanied by pretty (or so i think) photos!
A Must Listen To Message On Religious Tolerance By Rev. Dr. Brad Braxton http://bit.ly/pzMac4
What I Ate On My Birthday http://bit.ly/pmYBSD
Have You Spent Your Nest Egg On Crap?! http://bit.ly/qmNjoI
Dear Lukhona, I Object to Nonsensical Bullcrap
I guest posted at Bitch Flicks this week: a review of No Country For Old Men.
On my own blog, Fictioneering: Introduction sets up Fictioneering #1: It Looked Like Spilt Milk, in which I find echoes of Derrida and Magritte in a favorite picture book from my childhood. (Yes, really.)
Does our culture promote an impossible standard of beauty?
A campaign that stigmatizes girls under the guise of caring for them:
A discussion on polyamory:
Apartment hunting in NYC: More fun than a fork in the eye.
Cultivating Compassion: 10 children’s picture books: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/08/cultivating-compassionate-kids-10.html
Getting Vegucated with Marisa Miller Wolfson: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/08/featured-changemaker-getting-vegucated.html
The Real Deal: Conscious Consuming: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/08/real-deal-conscious-consuming.html
Disability rights are for ALL people with disabilities, a post on the privileging of some disabilities over others in the disability rights movement.
You Are Sexy Dammit!, a post about disrupting the notion that trans women are unsexy.
Me and my first world problems bitch about classism and a lack of public water access in a town that is surrounded by water.
Class Elitism, Thy Name Is Tiny Beaches
This week I’ve blogged about:
Our wacky, one-of-a-kind, progressive Lutheran-Catholic community, where Catholics get to be ministered to by a Lutheran woman:
Three wonderful, creative videos by Rick Merecki:
A little rant about stupid people who do not obey danger signs and put their lives at risk:
A free downloadable song from the Indigo Girls’ new album:
Photojournalist James Mollison’s book, Where Children Sleep:
Our wonderful week in the wilderness at Holden Village, away from civilization:
http://marie-everydaymiracle.blogspot.com/2011/08/holden-village-2011-village-life-and.html (and more)
At Global Comment this week, we had
Sady Doyle, writing about Casey Anthony being pushed to do porn
s.e. smith watched a whole season of Mad Men in a weekend; hilarity ensued
Kristin Rawls wrote about violence in Syria
and I wrote about Amy Winehouse and retro
Fangs For The Fantasy First Give Away: A signed Copy of Kevin Hearne’s Hammered: It’s easy to enter just follow us on Facebook, goodreads, or blogger. If you love urban fantasy this is the book for you.
True Blood: I Wish I Was The Moon : A critical look at the latest episode of True Blood.
Hey, Brian McGreevy: Vampire Pam beats Don Draper any day : A look at the sexism in urban fantasy
Review: Death Masks by Jim Butcher, Book 5 of the Harry Dresden Files
Review of “Bitten” by Kelley Armstrong
My response to Bill O’Reilly’s absurdly sexist, wildly misinformed, and off-the-rails comment: http://larkincallaghan.wordpress.com/2011/08/02/bill-oreilly-you-so-crazy/
I had a “friend” tell me I was nothing without my husband this week. She wanted us us to write her a fraudulent letter of reference. She threatened to do a lot of terrible things to me and my family, but the funniest thing of all was the threat to have me deported. So I created Deport Carrie Dot Com in response to her nastiness and obvious distaste of her own gender.
I recap the SSA conference, and there’s a video of Death Cab for Cutie singing the 1960s Batman song. Click for fun times
I attended the Secular Student Alliance’s annual conference last weekend, and did a brief write-up on some of the talks I found most interesting. (Including a talk on diversity!)
I also did an article over a topic that’s been on my mind lately concerning kink, religion, and the lasting damage that religious guilt and poor body image can have on one’s sex life; particularly if that sex life includes non-heteronormative practice.
This week I wrote:
On Body Image, Self Love, and Corporate Control of the Female-Sexed body”
“Feminism is for Everybody” – Challenging Stereotypes about the Feminist Community
Feminist Observations at the Mall”
10-Year-Old Model’s Sexy Poses Ignites Debate on the Sexualization of Young Girls
Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/10-year-old-models-sexy-poses-ignites-debate-on-the-sexualization-of-young-girls.html#ixzz1UP45MYeZ
Stir then Drink: Israeli Scientists Create Date Rape Drug Detector
Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/stir-then-drink-israeli-scientists-create-date-rape-drug-detector.html#ixzz1UP4HLwrW
Women Withhold Sex in “Crossed Leg” Protest to Rebuild Road in Colombia
Read more: http://www.care2.com/causes/women-withhold-sex-in-crossed-leg-protest-to-rebuild-road-in-colombia.html#ixzz1UP4RYqAV
When I talk about myself as fat, it isn’t because I want support, I want to be told no you aren’t, I own a mirror, I know, I live my life embodied, so just stop saying “but your not that fat”
2-part series on one person’s experience getting permanently sterilized (by choice!) through a procedure called Essure:
I Love My Queer Useless Guts
[site construction means permalinks are down so i’m linking to my main page… these’ll stay at that top 2 posts for awhile tho]
Three posts about the intersection of feminist principles and dismissive stereotypes and narratives about men.
The Two Rules of Desire, Theories of “Hypergamy,” and HotChicksWithDouchebags.com is basically about an assumption that men can’t be desirable because straight men don’t desire them. (The comments on this one are great.)
The No-Sex Class and (Yet) Another Womens Sexual-Response Study is about the barkingly binary assumption that a) everything about women’s sexuality is “mysterious” and is therefore an appropriate for endless and minute research followed by breathless articles in the press whereas b) everything about men’s sexuality is obvious, boring, and maybe creepy so why bother studying it at all.
Finally, Funny Captain America Parody Prompts Analysis of Serious Topic: Jokes, Insults, and Insiunations About Penis Sizes. The first comment gets to the heart of the matter of the actual issue of anatomy. The post mulls over a) the non-correlation of penis size and being a jerk and b) ponders the impact of such weighted insults on humans with actual small penises.
Keeping Up with Kardashians: a vapid tv show or a forum to talk about real issues? Faith Aloud gives their opinion: http://faithaloud.blogspot.com/2011/08/trying-to-keep-up.html
Sorry I’m late to the party, but I had to figure out how my diabolical browser managed to block my access to Feministe in order to fix it. I finally have and I’m glad to be back!
This week I wrote a guest blog at Beneath the Tin Foil Hat on Sexual Consent and Female Agency.
I also wrote several blogs on my own site about working with domestic violence survivors in a group setting. They can be found here.
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