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  1. Miracle
    Miracle August 21, 2011 at 10:01 am |

    Love you, girlchick.

  2. Alison
    Alison August 21, 2011 at 11:50 am |

    Thank you for your time here, Sarah! You’ve definitely made some great contributions.

    (Thanks also for linking to that piece from Hayes – he’s a favorite of mine and that is a really powerful essay. Bookmarked!)

  3. Comrade Kevin
    Comrade Kevin August 21, 2011 at 1:48 pm |

    I think we are broken by the system of power that separates us. I don’t think this lack of solidarity is an innate trait.

    But I do think that there is a great difference between grudging respect and real respect. Grudging respect is conditional, fragile, and flimsy. One backslide or offense and it goes right back to hatred and mistrust. Grudging respect is based on fear.

    Real respect, however, is built on love and mutual understanding. It’s very difficult to build and there is no model or textbook method of achieving it. This also falls under the subheading of “building community”.

  4. Jolene
    Jolene August 21, 2011 at 2:35 pm |

    Thank you for writing this post.

    ‘I think so many of us in various social justice circles want to be superheroes. We want to save the world. We want to save people. We want to save those close to us and we want to save people on the other side of the planet.

    I think this is destructive.’

    I think you have hit the nail on the head with this. I first had this insight in a tiny way when I was 18 and as a result chose to not pursue medicine at that point in my life. I could just about sense that trying to save people could destroy me and the people I was trying to help. It has taken me the better part of fifteen years to come to a point where I am confident that I can practice the difference between being available for someone and trying to fix them. That I, too, should ask for help in a timely way and be open to the generosity of others. I hope that I am right.

    thank you for sharing your insight and the links.

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