Monthly Archives: September 2011

Leave your Britney alone?

Just a little bit of fun for a Friday afternoon: Every year, the Ig Nobel Prizes are awarded to “honor achievements that first make people laugh, and then make them think.” There are costumes and paper airplanes, a good time … Continue reading

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Things I Am Against:

Public marriage proposals. Sure, your flashmob is adorable (I guess), but public humiliation is not the greatest way to say “Let’s spend our lives together.” Also, there’s no way someone can say no in front of 200 people, so it … Continue reading

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This is a very long storytime-type post where I mostly talk about my life; you have been warned. It’s possible that this post should also have a trigger warning for S&M, although I don’t write about it very explicitly. * … Continue reading

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Business at Sofitel

Feministe friend Josh Glasstetter sends along this image from the Sofitel homepage — it’s the first thing that comes up when you visit their site. Sofitel, it’s worth mentioning, is the place where DSK was renting out a $3,000-a-night suite … Continue reading

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Short skirts will get you raped. Also shorts. Also just leaving your house, so stop doing that. I’m just trying to help.

Your skirt shorts are going to get you raped. That’s the message NYPD officers are sending to women in Park Slope, Brooklyn: Earlier this evening, at around 7:30 p.m., I was on my way home from the gym, keys in … Continue reading

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“We have to be as fearless about our bellies as we are with our hearts.”

I’ve written often about how it is we have to reach hard in the direction of the lives we want, even if it’s difficult to do so. I’ve advised people to set healthy boundaries and communicate mindfully and take risks … Continue reading

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I will be there, and so will thousands of other folks. Sign-making starts at 11am in Union Square, and the march starts from the same place at noon. Come in your sluttiest. I will be wearing my usual weekend slut … Continue reading

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From the mouths of babes (on the subject of babes)

Watching your youth and childhood fictional favorites make the transition into adulthood can be jarring sometimes. I don’t think I made it all the way to the seventh season of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, because yaaawn… so bored. I didn’t … Continue reading

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Roman Polanski apologies to the girl he raped. Kind of.

So Roman Polanski said that the woman he drugged and raped when she was 13 was “a double victim: My victim, and a victim of the press.” And good effort, I guess? But no. Let Gabe help you: Uh, hey … Continue reading

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Jon Hamm is not real.

I refuse to believe it’s possible for a man to be this perfect (see also: Ryan Gosling). Not only was he a high school teacher before he rocketed to fame as an actor, but you won’t believe the job he … Continue reading

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Don’t Do This

Surgically altering your labia: DO NOT DO, unless there is some actual medical reason. Also ohmygod forget anyone who tells you your labia are too large or that virginal vulvas look one way and whore’s vulvas look another. They all … Continue reading

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America’s Fertility Crisis

When it comes to baby-making, there are two Americas: Low-income America, where women have high rates of unplanned pregnancy, and high-income America, where women aren’t having kids at all, even if they want them. You hear about the “haves” versus … Continue reading

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