67 comments for “Shameless Self-Promotion Sunday

  1. November 13, 2011 at 12:00 pm

    Herman Cain and the GOP have rendered all women as crazy, lying bitches unless they shut up already. I say let’s turn it into a slogan.

    BE a bitch — don’t let them make you their bitch.

  2. November 13, 2011 at 12:07 pm

    7 Resources for 7 Billion: Teaching About Population: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/7-resources-for-7-billion-teaching.html

    Why we need humane education: parents have the power to nurture more peaceful children: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/why-we-need-humane-education-parents.html

    Non-human and human animals; more similarities than differences: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/non-human-and-human-animals-more.html

  3. November 13, 2011 at 12:13 pm

    On ridiculing “feminine behavioral attributes” specifically those that have been conditioned to appear instinctive


    It’s along the lines of expecting women to be gorgeous but mocking them for taking hours. You must be feminine, but not so feminine that you “interfere” with men’s lives or their entitlement to space.

  4. November 13, 2011 at 12:16 pm

    My post Three Penn State Paradoxes, about the curious absence of slut shaming, victim blaming, and perpetrator excusing when victims are men or boys. Had they been women or girls we surely would have heard that a) they must have been asking for it, b) they should have known better than to trust Sandusky, c) Sandusky could scarcely be expected to control his animal passions. And so on.


  5. November 13, 2011 at 12:23 pm

    So I have not shamelessly self-promoted in AGES. Which is why you are now going to be treated to 15936707239 links from the Tea Cosy. I’ll try not to go too far back, for the sake of keeping the tl;dr out of the lists at the very least.

    A couple of weeks ago, Tim Minchin experienced Serious Trans!Fail. And then managed somehow to be pretty darn okay about dealing with it. For future reference, here’s how he did it.

    I’m broke as all hell. I’m also broke as all hell in a spectacularly privileged kind of way. Learn all about how a person can have barely any cash and still be incredibly economically and socially privileged!

    From things I overhear at work: precisely why is the very mention of the female gender ‘sleazy’?

    Ireland has a new president. An awesomely intelligent, self-identified feminist of a president who’s dedicated decades of his life to social justice. Don’t tell me you don’t want to find out more.

    Bereavement and the non-religious: Love in the Present Tense.

    Greetings and Salutations: what is up with the honorifics and salutations we have to choose from?!

    Weight, health, happiness and self-betterment: why is weight gain constantly associated with letting yourself go?

    This morning I read the news and cried. On Ireland’s plans to cut postgraduate funding.

    Oh and also, the other week I was at this abortion debate in TCD with this awesome woman who runs this here blog. It was great. But you knew that already, right?

  6. November 13, 2011 at 12:26 pm

    A new feature on my blog: Real O’Clock, when I stop getting snarky and start getting real. My first topic: Boys and Body Image, and four reasons why any discussion of eating disorders and healthy self-esteem must include boys – including reason #1 – it’s a feminist issue.


    In another Real O’Clock, I participated in the Blog-In for Democracy with Mamafesto:


    An interview with author Barbara Quinn:


    And of course, my Dancing With the Stars post-mortems:
    Week 7: http://greyskiesnyc.blogspot.com/2011/11/dancing-with-stars-post-mortem-week-7.html

    Week 8: http://greyskiesnyc.blogspot.com/2011/11/dancing-with-stars-post-mortem-week-8.html

    -Meredith L.

  7. November 13, 2011 at 12:27 pm

    A quick look at slut-shaming in the hockey fan community, except replace “slut” with “Puck Bunny”

  8. November 13, 2011 at 12:28 pm
  9. lt
    November 13, 2011 at 12:37 pm
  10. November 13, 2011 at 12:42 pm

    Core Anatomy: Pelvic Floor — The anatomy and function of the pelvic floor, along with a brief explanation of main types of pelvic floor dysfunctions.

    The Second Chair Warrior — A couple of variations of warrior 2 to make the yoga pose more accessible to a wider variety of people.

    That Thing I Do with My Hips — My personal practice for relieving hip and pelvic pain from endometriosis and pelvic floor dysfunction.

    Fat & Food [TW disordered eating] — Responding to some people’s incorrect assumptions about body size and the possibility of disordered eating.

    Wellness Oops [TW weight loss] — My employer’s wellness challenge is trying to be more inclusive of non-dieters than they were last year. It’s sort of hit and miss.

    Unwisely: Part 6 and Part 7 — [TW relationship abuse, self-harm] — Recounting the ins and outs of an abusive relationship from my adolescence.

  11. November 13, 2011 at 12:49 pm

    Again, just something on my own experiences, this time on getting the morning-after pill. I just want to get it out there that this medication is incredibly helpful and reduces unplanned pregnancies like whoa, and that there should be no stigma attached to being responsible. Just my own thoughts, and nothing particularly new or exciting, but I think it’s good to have positive examples out there.


  12. JetGirl
    November 13, 2011 at 1:02 pm

    Why logarithms kinda suck:
    Can a pre-calc B student do okay in calculus? Or is it time to hang up the graph paper? http://onefemalegaze.wordpress.com/2011/11/11/mathochism-calculus-dread/

  13. November 13, 2011 at 1:06 pm

    I wrote a little about my own experiences online in the wake of the MenCallMeThings hashtag, and did a short post about Glee’s “controversial” First Time episode that really wasn’t.

  14. November 13, 2011 at 1:30 pm

    I posted a short review of the Marigold Parade held in honor of those we have lost. It is hosted every year in the South Valley, Albuquerque, NM and is an evening of mourning, celebrations, and family.

  15. November 13, 2011 at 1:47 pm

    A very sarcastic post about having a female avatar on the internet. Written after a male friend made the same argument as a female friend on the internet to another man and he only accepted the one that came from my male friend.

    Very short. Intended to be funny.

  16. November 13, 2011 at 1:48 pm

    Victories give the international convention CEDAW hope in improving women’s lives.

    The invisible woman (consumer). Why are we still absent from the marketing landscape?

    A post in which I reinvent one of the latest Ashley Madison ads in order to ensure truth in advertising.

  17. Melanie
    November 13, 2011 at 1:51 pm

    Generations of Body Battles: How I’m Learning to Be a Peacemaker. http://www.elephantjournal.com/2011/11/generations-of-body-battles-how-im-learning-to-be-a-peacemaker/ “I am part of a lineage of women who declared war on themselves, from my great-great grandmother who donned the organ-crushing corset, to my great-grandmother who internalized the Victorian feminine ideal of daintiness and measured each bite meticulously; to my grandmother who cinched her waist with girdles and ate diet pills for lunch; and down to my mother who embodied the emaciated silhouette of the 1970s and aerobicized her way into the 1980s and early 1990s with her food-and-exercise diary tucked in her purse.”

  18. November 13, 2011 at 2:00 pm

    Why do many older men chase after younger women?


    Was spousal rape always morally wrong?


    The tragic story of Tolstoy’s wife and the gains of feminism:


    Should men who say they like women without makeup be trusted?


    Policing kids: http://clarissasblog.com/2011/11/08/policing-kids/

  19. November 13, 2011 at 2:05 pm

    It’s Family Violence Awareness Month in Alberta, Canada. For the remainder of the month my friends and I share stories about experiences with family violence.

  20. November 13, 2011 at 2:06 pm

    This week in Evil Slutopia:

    ~We wrote an update to our recent post about some very bad advice given in Cosmo that suggested that there’s nothing wrong with someone initiating sex with a woman while she’s asleep and after she’s said no: Cosmo’s Editor Kate White Doesn’t Understand Consent

    ~Is trading sex for favors ever okay?

    ~We question how well the American Family Association really understands Christmas.

  21. November 13, 2011 at 2:20 pm

    I’m trying to get back into the swing of things at What Men Dare Do! and this post on men roleplaying as women in different gaming worlds, and their reactions to the gender play:


  22. November 13, 2011 at 2:22 pm

    Hey everyone! I have written about a group of white supremacists in germany, calling themselves “national socialist underground” and being aided and abetted by a nationwide network of radical right-wing organizations between 1999 and last week, who has travelled the country and shot ten people of colour to death, has organised bomb attacks on Turkish and Jewish people in several german cities, injuring dozens of people, and has now blown up their communal apartment to hide the evidence (…not very successfully). And yet, law enforcement agencies like germany’s Office for the Protection of the Constitution refuse to call this organised terrorism, and the press converage of the murders is as racist as it gets: Normalcy.

  23. November 13, 2011 at 2:35 pm

    This Week:

    A repost of what Remembrance Day is to me
    I am a Pacifist, This is Why I Remember

    My response to the Penn State scandal
    There’s about 1000 Penn State Students that need a good hearty Throat-punch and a number of staff that need way worse than that… (Trigger warning, of course)

  24. November 13, 2011 at 2:59 pm
  25. November 13, 2011 at 3:12 pm

    Wow, it’s been a while.

    I interviewed Jaclyn Friedman about her new book, What You Really Really Want.

    I also had some ‘fun’ with craigslist personals and expectations of gender.

    And I saw Kate Bornstein speak in Chicago (on my birthday, no less!)

  26. November 13, 2011 at 3:18 pm
  27. November 13, 2011 at 3:21 pm

    Bitch Flicks has been busy!

    Bitch Flicks’ Weekly Picks: pieces from Racialicious, The Crunk Feminist Collective, About-Face, Pandagon, etc.

    ‘Pray the Devil Back to Hell’ Portrays How the Women of Liberia, United in Peace, Changed a Nation: As the war progressed, the women wanted to take more drastic measures. Inspired by their faith, the women donned white garb to declare to people they stood for peace. Thousands of women protested at the fish market each and every day, a strategic location visible to Taylor. Carrying a huge banner stating, “The women of Liberia want peace now.” It was the first time in Liberia’s history where Christian & Muslim women came together.

    Why Should Men Care? An Interview with Matt Damon: “Why I wanted to do Women, War & Peace was because I thought it said something really important about the nature of war and the nature of the experience of women. And—as a guy who’s raising four girls—that matters to me. It matters to me anyway, but that makes it matter to me more.” — Matt Damon

    Guest Writer Wednesday: A Review in Conversation of Twin Peaks: We have both admitted to fondness for the more fringe female characters like the Log Lady, Nadine, and Lucy, but they, and all the other women, really only exist according to their relationships with men.

    Guest Writer Wednesday: Why Watch Romantic Comedies?: The romantic comedy genre gets a lot of flak. It’s considered a genre that’s more “shallow” than drama, but not funny enough to be a “real” comedy. Is it any coincidence that the romantic comedy is one of the few film genres, and possibly the only film genre, that regularly features women?

    Why Facebook’s “Occupy a Vagina” Event Is Not Okay [TW for discussions of rape and sexual assault]: It’s important to note that even the language–occupy a vagina–divorces women from their own bodies. It’s a form of dismemberment, and I’ll say it again: we live in a rape culture, a culture that reduces women to body parts, whether it’s to sell a product, to promote a film, or for nothing more than reinforcing (and getting off on) patriarchal power. When we use language that prevents us from seeing a person as a whole human being, language that encourages us to view women in particular as a collection of body parts designed for male pleasure (e.g. occupy a vagina), then she exists as nothing more than an object, a fuck-toy, sexually available by default. It might not have been the intent of the event creator to participate in women’s subjugation, but it’s certainly the fucking reality.

    Swiffer Reminds Us That Women Are Dirt: It’s remarkable how different the portrayals of the dirt people are: the men-as-dirt ads show a Crocodile Dundee-esque character (also stereotypical) and two buddies lamenting the state of their romantic lives, while the women-as-dirt ads always show a lonely, solitary woman desperate for the kind of attention provided by this wonder mop.

    Some Scattered Thoughts on Detective Shows and Geniuses: I’m at a bit of a disadvantage in discussing Medium because I’m only familiar with the first season. Perhaps things get better for Allison in later seasons. Perhaps the men in her life stop expressing so much condescension and distrust toward her and endow her with some Lightman- and/or Monk-esque respect. Perhaps she no longer feels compelled to apologize for her own idiosyncratic crime-solving abilities and develops Lightman’s uber-masculine arrogance about it. (But don’t take that confidence too far, Allison—no one wants to work with a bitch.) At the very least, in the first season of Medium, I sort of love her husband. I mean when is a male rocket scientist ever the sidekick, hmmm?

  28. DonnaL
    November 13, 2011 at 3:31 pm

    Rebecca Kling:


    Thanks for that, Rebecca. It’s because of the fear of exactly that kind of reaction that I’ve been entirely celibate for the last 5 years and have made no effort to be otherwise. And I don’t think that the fact that I’ve had GRS would make any difference at all to 90% of people like that.

  29. November 13, 2011 at 4:07 pm
  30. November 13, 2011 at 4:19 pm

    Misogyny galore this week.

    Here I compare #MenCallMeThings with something called “the catalogue of anti-male shaming tactics.” (Trigger warning for really vile, violent misogynist quotes.)

    School buses: “A symbol of women dominating men and boys.” (Yes, an MRA actually said this.)

    Lesbianism by numbers: Clueless MRA douchesplains lesbianism to us all. Bonus: Completely made-up statistics.

  31. November 13, 2011 at 4:30 pm
  32. Rachel
    November 13, 2011 at 4:34 pm

    This week I talked about my experience with abuse and rape (with a little shameless self-promotion of my book.)

    I also talk about my struggles with SAD and how it’s effecting my writing life

  33. November 13, 2011 at 4:45 pm

    I wrote a slightly tongue-in-cheek post about why guys should date feminist women.

  34. November 13, 2011 at 4:56 pm

    For the first time in a while, it’s been a busy week at the Yes Means Yes Blog:

    Fivethirtyeight’s discussion of the twentieth anniversary of Magic Johnson’s announcement that he was HIV positive and a poll from that time provided me a jumping-off point to discuss those who think that disease is divine punishment for sin in Anti-Sex League

    I ask Did Herman Cain Try To Rape Sharon Bialek?

    People should know, but often have not processed the message that to children, Strangers Aren’t The Danger. The National Center for Missing And Exploited Children opposes the phrase “stranger danger” because it’s counterproductive. If we didn’t know before, after the Penn State scandal hasn’t it hit home that the ones to watch are not the strangers but the people with regular access?

    Speaking of which, the Penn State scandal is not just a story about sports or even college sports, it’s a story about how colleges deal with rape. Rape, Reporting and Reputation (The School’s, That Is).

    Finally, Michigan is at long last trying to catch up with the rest of the country and have an anti-bullying law. But Republicans amended it so that it expressly protects certain kinds of bullying based on religious beliefs. I examine Bullying As Religious Practice.

  35. November 13, 2011 at 5:21 pm

    Check out my series on Best and Worst Romantic Dudes Onscreen.
    I’m up to #22 in the best category (Ron Swanson) and #51 in the worst category (Ted Mosby).



  36. November 13, 2011 at 5:21 pm

    What’s oppressive to one woman, maybe empowering for another

    I haven’t did this in awhile, but it’s a post I wrote about a week ago. The name says it all.

  37. November 13, 2011 at 5:27 pm

    I wrote a short summary of an event we held at my college called the Women of Color in Production Symposium. We were lucky enough to host Awkward Black Girl and Brown Girls Burlesque!


  38. November 13, 2011 at 5:48 pm
  39. November 13, 2011 at 5:58 pm

    Dealing with Your Family Over the Holidays (!)

    Many progressive activists are brought to the edge of despair and beyond trying to convince their parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, cousins, and other relatives to embrace their values. But guess what? Nothing in any sales book I’ve ever read says that your family are automatically qualified just because they happen to be your family.

    In fact, the opposite appears to be true: that your ideas are held in lower regard by the people who watched you grow up, and who in some cases diapered you, than by the general population. This doesn’t just apply to activists: many artists and intellectuals throughout history have also had to leave home to find an appreciative audience…

  40. November 13, 2011 at 6:24 pm

    Self promotion? I could use some of that! My blog is young and I’m still trying to find more readers. I wrote about Personhood amendments a few days ago.

  41. November 13, 2011 at 6:31 pm

    REMEMBERING REENA VIRK WEEK starts tomorrow on blackccoffeepoet.com!

    Reena Virk was a South Asian teen killed because she didn’t fit the norm of society.

    Her murder was masked under the umbrella of girl violence when it was so much MORE.

    Learn about Reena via a video roundtable with South Asian women, a book review, interviews, and poetry.

    WIN the book “Reena Virk: Critical Persepectives on a Murder” by watching the video.

  42. bleh
    November 13, 2011 at 7:38 pm
  43. November 13, 2011 at 7:41 pm

    This week I wrote about uncertainty, specifically the difficulty of knowing what’s the disease and what’s you during a bout of mental illness.


  44. November 13, 2011 at 7:57 pm

    Check out fierce Mohawk poet Janet Marie Rogers.

    Rogers challenges colonialism, racism, violence against women and more.

    VIDEO: http://blackcoffeepoet.com/2011/11/11/mohwak-poet-janet-marie-rogers-reads-from-her-new-book-unearthed/

    INTERVIEW: http://blackcoffeepoet.com/2011/11/09/interview-with-mohawk-poet-janet-marie-rogers-2/

    REVIEW: http://blackcoffeepoet.com/2011/11/07/unearthed/

    Sign up to blackcoffeepoet.com FREE!!!!

  45. November 13, 2011 at 8:19 pm

    Here is a post I made on my blog about a book I refuse to read. It’s about Anne Frank and Peter, but the author made it overly sexual. It mocked a tragedy.

  46. November 13, 2011 at 8:20 pm
  47. November 13, 2011 at 8:27 pm

    Our demonstration last night, during the Republican debate here in South Carolina. Not a total media blackout, but almost.

    Occupy the Debate!

    And re-linking this, which I also linked last week, since there have been new developments since (see comments). This HAS been a total media blackout here in upstate SC, since the local media sucks up to Bob Jones University–several local politicians attended, and Sen. Jim DeMint recently delivered a “chapel address.”

    Rape apologist preacher appointed to board of Bob Jones University:

    You may have seen the story on 20/20 about the raped and pregnant 15 year old, Tina Anderson, made to stand up and “apologize” to her congregation, for her pregnancy. This was after the rapist had already confessed to the rape apologist preacher. (The case is now going to the NH supreme court, about preacher/penitent privilege and all that.)

    Rape apologist Rev Chuck Phelps was quietly re-appointed to the board, and now there is a petition to remove him. In addition, BJU refuses to comment and local media refuses to cover it.

  48. November 13, 2011 at 8:31 pm

    I wrote about Joe Paterno and why he is NOT a victim. This whole story is making me more sad than I can say.

  49. November 13, 2011 at 9:23 pm

    Hi, hi! I’ve been super busy catching up in school work after having a two-week long migraine (!!!) so haven’t written much lately but I did manage a long rant about last week’s Walking Dead. Also, a short conversation with my mum summed up everything that irritates me about Zooey Deschanel’s public persona.

    Happy week, everyone!

  50. November 13, 2011 at 9:25 pm

    Slow week for me as I worked 60+ hours to put on my annual event at work, but I did have a moment to write about Brett Ratner’s use of the REAL bad “f word:”


  51. Liz
    November 13, 2011 at 9:28 pm

    I ask if the new Snow White movie could be Possibly a More Badass Fairytale?

    I did my Glee: Irreality and Reality Index for the episode that was supposed to be all about sex but that was actually all about boring. (Minus Santana’s songs.)

    For my series called Feminist Kitchen, I made an incredibly embarrassing video of myself baking, which was mostly a big ole fail (I replicated the recipe and followed the directions a couple days later and they turned out fine and I did sell them). However, great soundtrack Inept Baking Attempts

  52. Jay
    November 13, 2011 at 9:43 pm

    Reading some of the recent Penn State coverage from around the web, I am reminded of how important it is to be careful about the leap from “Peacefully participating in the recent protests in support of Paterno” to “supporting child rape and the covering-up of it.”

    Call me simple, but these things ought to be givens:

    -If you were one of those at the protests calling for violence against those who backed the decision to fire Paterno or if you see violence as any kind of meaningful response to it, you likely think sexual violence (or, really, any kind of violence) against kids is no big deal.
    -If you were standing around State College the night of the protests, however peacefully, and making Stevie Greenstreet-style rape “jokes,” you likely think the rape of kids is no big deal (because really, women or children, what’s the diff with the Greenstreet-ites?).
    -If you think homosexuality explains Jerry Sandusky, you likely think the rape of kids is no big deal,

    Me? I’m still trying to figure out how a Penn State grad can at once support keeping Paterno aboard and give to the RAINN-linked web page two PSU alums set up. I’ve seen this phenomenon a couple of times out in cyberspace, and I imagine it’s either ignorance (stemming from not having read the grand jury report), simple sadness that so much of what they thought their school stood for has crumbled, or both. I think that’s true of peaceful, non rape-jokey protesters, too, and I hope the front-pagers here touch on the more complex set of emotions alot of the PSUers are doubtless feeling, rather than just the idiots spotlighted in the initial NYT piece.

    Finally, I don’t think it’s possible to pin the fault for letting football get wrapped up in PSU’s identity on the students. That’s an area in which administrators absolutely must fall on their swords. After all, PSU’s trade historically went like this: 1)Paterno wins football games, which 2)makes the school happy enough to give him a big-money contract, he then 3)pours that money back into various buildings around campus, which delights school bigwigs again and makes it harder for them to fire him on the only grounds some thought they would ever have to worry about; his performance as a coach (He may have a losing season occasionally, the reasoning goes, but he built a library! The national media eats that crap up. Example 1a: a certain Duke basketball coach.). Finally: 4)Paterno keeps giving to the school, and his philanthropy-although that philanthropy matters little now-makes it impossible for administrators not to let him be the “face” of the university.

    So yeah, all that’s on the people in suits.

  53. Politicalguineapig
    November 13, 2011 at 10:11 pm

    Dude, wrong thread.

  54. November 13, 2011 at 10:39 pm
  55. November 13, 2011 at 11:22 pm

    I’m so glad I have four days off to read all these posts! Nice work ladies!

    This week I revealed a small list of relatively unknown ladies I admire, fictional or otherwise.

    I also did my usual Sunday Hustle, featuring the work of many talented women who wrote about beauty pageants, fag hags, Kim Kardashian and lesbian stereotypes.


  56. November 13, 2011 at 11:26 pm

    I started again, limited my hours and subject-matter, and consequently expect to last maybe two weeks.

  57. November 14, 2011 at 12:12 am

    I reviewed the Wild Flag album. Then I reviewed their live show, with a bit of commentary at the end.

  58. November 14, 2011 at 12:30 am

    I blogged about women being called attention whores. Should be relevant after all the talk about #mencallmethings.

  59. November 14, 2011 at 1:36 am

    Concerning the often-made accusation that sex workers who want decriminalisation and workers’ rights are not representative of sex workers as a whole: What is a “representative” sex worker?

  60. November 14, 2011 at 1:54 am

    I’m not an art critic, but I like to critique art. Here’s what I wrote about Polish artist Rafal Karcz: http://disciplineandanarchy.wordpress.com/2011/11/11/representing-rape-culture-the-dangerous-art-of-rafal-karcz/
    Trigger Warning for disturbing images!

  61. November 14, 2011 at 11:15 am

    This is a little late, but I want to make people aware of the “human auction” planned by Occupy Nashville:


  62. November 14, 2011 at 12:31 pm

    My new six word story blog:
    Hit me up!

  63. November 14, 2011 at 4:30 pm

    I love this “shameless” concept! Here’s mine:

    There are only 3 reasons women don’t make it to the top: http://wp.me/p1xS1Q-iB

  64. November 20, 2011 at 2:00 pm

    You know you’re been in Afghanistan too long when…

    (Probably the grossest blog post I’ve ever written.)

  65. November 20, 2011 at 2:02 pm

    You know you’ve been in Afghanistan too long when…

    (Probably the grossest blog post I’ve ever written.)

  66. November 20, 2011 at 2:04 pm

    great concept — was hoping you’d do it again, but i’ll instead add something here.

    A new report from the Spanish government says universities — and professors! — are sexist. http://ow.ly/7zs1B

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