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Hey, I have two posts this week: “Hunting Wit, Gathering Sense”, about Ed Rbyicki’s sexist piece ‘Womanspace’, which was published in the scientific journal “Nature” and recycles every boring 1950s gender cliché possible, combined with the tale of male hunters and female gatherers. The second one, “Seriously: Stop Talking“, is about anti-feminist trolling, #mencallmethings, comment policies and why I actually mean it when I say “Stop Talking” and refuse to enter any sort of conversation with certain people.
This week we discussed the question of how to handle rape jokes on Twitter.
Is it Mad Men nostalgia? Katie Roiphe in the New York Times tells us office drones that we need a little sexual harassment to liven up our dreary, meaningless lives…
I’m Getting Too Old for This
A lone policewoman looked rather bored as the masses marched in to occupy City Hall. A heartwarming story, and This is What Democracy Looks Like…
Occupy City Hall
I get mail. It makes me wail. Why is gender essentialism still there?
A post in which I reinvent one of the latest Ashley Madison ads in order to ensure truth in advertising.
“Why did you put up with it?” The sexual harassment and domestic violence continuum
This week, I responded to Milwaukee’s scare tactics about bed-sharing. Scaring parents (and particularly mothers) is part of the same “blame the victim['s parents]” culture that holds mothers to an impossible standard of parenting.
Wrote about just how a culture of misogyny raised me to be subconsciously misogynistic, it’s perhaps the small and subtle things – more than any one or two obvious feminist appeals – that led me (and is now leading Boyfriend) to accept and eventually embrace feminism, in The Slow Creep.
Which isn’t to say I think large-scale obviously feminist appeals aren’t useful! They just weren’t particularly convincing until I was ready to hear them. Then! Then they helped me smash my old worldview and start working toward a better world.
Who needs Schrödinger’s cat when you’ve got Fibonacci’s bunnies? An ode to sequences:
http://onefemalegaze.wordpress.com/2011/11/18/mathochism-fibonaccis-bunnies/
A year after a complete hip replacement the titanium feels good. But “enhanced patdowns” suck:
http://onefemalegaze.wordpress.com/2011/11/19/ra-diaries-my-year-in-titanium/
I kicked off the week by talking about my experience with abuse, continued by talking about how school is overwhelming me and unwind with talking about how I identify with one of my characters, and conclude by questioning what we to tell little girls.
One small step for a better world: 7 questions to ask ourselves before we buy: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/one-small-step-for-better-world-7.html
Making MOGO (most good) choices: the true price of bottled water: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/making-mogo-most-good-choices-true.html
9 turkey-friendly children’s books for Thanksgiving: http://humaneconnectionblog.blogspot.com/2011/11/9-turkey-friendly-childrens-books-for.html
Wrote about a Phys Ed Teacher who gave students a “Hurt Feelings” report that was rife with homophobic and mysogynist stuff
They’ll give anyone a license to teach
Some observations on online avatar generators
Avatar generators and body and gender normativity
a bit of a shameful confession
I’m gonna let you in on a little something
Mapmaking for internal geographies How do your memories shape who you are, and how you relate to places?
You have to keep remembering to go through the world with an open heart. A philosophy of social justice.
Hello feminists! I’m trying to get a conversation going about what the reproductive rights movement’s strategy should be: Things That Make You Go Aaargh: Reproductive Rights Edition
I’m also raising money for an occupy theater piece that depicts the human consequences of poverty and joblessness and reinforces the necessity of collective action. I’ve even (shamelessly) borrowed Feministe’s fabulous slogan for this weekly forum to do it: Shameless Self Promotion: Support As Long as Fear Can Turn to Wrath
Also, religious zealots are trying to take away birth control coverage: read about it here
World O’ Crap Founder s.z. returns with thoughts on a Dennis Prager column which advances the bold notion that women would be smarter if they stopped working in the business world, or going to college, and just stayed home and listened to Talk Radio for 8 hours a day, allowing the strong, manly fingers of male hosts to stroke, shape, and sculpt the moist clay of the Female Brain:
Q: “Does a Full-Time Homemaker Swap Her Mind for a Mop?”
This week…
I review Mindy Kaling’s book:
http://www.nerdyfeminist.com/2011/11/book-review-is-everyone-hanging-out.html
and defend NBC’s Community:
http://www.nerdyfeminist.com/2011/11/defend-community.html
I wrote a slightly longer response to that article on feeling culturally irrelevant that was linked here earlier this week, and made long-overdue peace with the second-wave feminist authors I grew up reading, namely Andrea Dworkin.
Boys Call Me Things [TW sexual harassment] — A note one of my students left me.
Thoughts on a Word: Tori — How I don’t like it when people feel entitled to change my name on me.
That Thing I Do with My Shoulders — A personal practice for my upper back and shoulder tension. I thought it might help other folks with the same issues, particularly since a lot of my shoulder tension comes from sitting at a computer desk.
Pelvic Floor: Finding It & Moving It — Conventional descriptions of moving the pelvic floor muscles, my frustration, and things I learned from physical therapy.
This week on NSWATM…
I open up a thread for men to share their experiences with virginity.
http://noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz.wordpress.com/2011/11/13/open-thread-virginity-and-men/
Noah Brand talks about the difficulties of finding good fashion for fat men.
http://noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz.wordpress.com/2011/11/18/big-fellas-and-fashion/
James Landrith, a guest blogger and survivor with years of experience in sexual violence work, discusses how men can get involved in anti-rape work.
http://noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz.wordpress.com/2011/11/13/getting-involved-in-sexual-violence-work-while-male/
Is it a gender issue? http://clarissasblog.com/2011/11/19/it-simply-isnt-a-gender-issue/
How to argue with autistics: http://clarissasblog.com/2011/11/19/how-to-argue-with-autistics/
Relationship or rape? http://clarissasblog.com/2011/11/18/relationship-or-rape/
Update on the Bob Jones University scandal. My blog and my radio show are the ONLY places in upstate South Carolina that have covered this; huge local media blackout. In comments there is a link to the Facebook page that BJU admin is trying to make the students take down. They are protesting on Dec 12 by wearing red. Bob Jones students protesting! Its a MIRACLE!
http://daisysdeadair.blogspot.com/2011/11/local-media-blackout-about-bob-jones.html
This regards Rev Charles Phelps’ reappointment to the board of BJU. This the preacher who made pregnant 15 year old (Tina Anderson) stand up and apologize in church, after the rapist-who-impregnated her had already confessed to him. The rapist is taking the case to the NH supreme court, claiming priest/penitent privilege should protect him. Meanwhile, Bob Jones III gave a chapel address this week, saying BJU was NOT like Penn State (now, what made him say THAT?) and this came as a shock to the kids with the Facebook page, who have been threatened with expulsion. (Trigger warnings for rape, forced pregnancy, religious abuse and fundamentalist swine preachers. Etc.)
And the saga continues.
“Mothers are a favorite whipping-girl of our society, starting with the nanosecond our baby bumps become obvious.”
This week I rant – with humor and wisdom – about the idiotic things people say to pregnant women:
http://greyskiesnyc.blogspot.com/2011/11/dont-say-anything-at-all.html
Also, my week 9 Dancing With the Stars Post-Mortem:
http://greyskiesnyc.blogspot.com/2011/11/dancing-with-stars-post-mortem-week-9.html
-Meredith L.
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Grey Skies: Read. Write. Parent. Drink. Complain.
http://greyskiesnyc.blogspot.com/
Moms Who Need Wine.
http://www.momswhoneedwine.com/author/meredith/
“I do not like to write – I like to have written.” ~Gloria Steinem
My second entry on State of Formation: “Building Hedges: What the Rabbis taught me about managing ADHD.”
This week I put up a small post about why I’ve been having problems sticking to a regular or frequent posting schedule due to my unemployment woes and the small ways that Skyrim helps me escape from said woes for a lil while.
I was bullied by boys-
http://wisegrrrl.com/2011/11/20/i-bullied-by-boys-is-that-how-i-became-a-feminist/
masculinity and the power of attraction
http://wisegrrrl.com/2011/11/19/masculinity-and-the-power-of-attraction/
what does it mean to be a woman?
http://wisegrrrl.com/2011/11/20/reflections-what-does-it-mean-to-be-a-woman/
On being a feminist skeptic
http://wisegrrrl.com/2011/11/19/the-feminist-skeptic/
Oh I love Skyrim, too. Join the club,
This week I’ve got an analysis of Katy Perry’s new video, a round-up of commercials that exclude women, a look at the publicity surrounding some celebrity weight loss, and a plea for some help with a class project on stereotypes in children’s media.
A response to anti-choice bumper stickers and abortion information on a college campus.
This week I spent time deliberately focusing on and appreciating the positives in my life: http://fourcolouredstripes.blogspot.com/2011/11/things-i-am-grateful-for.html
A special public service announcement on HOW NOT TO RAPE. It’s easy!
Reuters creates a new euphemism for “getting beat down by a cop”.
Why I finally decided to get off OkCupid and the anatomy of an interaction on said site.
Hi everyone!
This week I did a whole lot of procrastinating from school (including setting up a Twitter account for the mouse that lives in my apartment) and wrote possibly the best post of my blogging career: Riel Talk, a mash-up of R Kelly and Canadian history.
And I wrote lil’ posts about the amazing Eve Ensler piece on rape, a fantastic DJ trio A Tribe Called Red and this really heartbreaking (but incredible) piece over at Grantland about a young basketball player (Tayshana Murphy) who was shot in September.
Great weeks to all!
Hi folks:
My thoughts on the Transgender Day of Remembrance: http://transplantportation.com/2011/11/18/transgender-day-of-sadness/
The Michigan State Senate brings politicians to a new low by trying to grant license for some to bully: http://transplantportation.com/2011/11/17/legalizing-bullying/
#humblebrag
(Eek, that’s to myself re my earlier post which was pretty facetious)
This week I posted:
A short critique of an Atlantic article that discusses Twilight v. Hunger Games, in which the author posits that feminists should love Bella Swan because she has a baby.
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A discussion of the fake outrage over the costs to the taxpayer caused by Occupy Wall Street.
I started a new blog and my first post, (after my introduction post), was about this time when a guy repeatedly invaded my personal space and basically pissed me off to the point where I was as rude as possible to him whenever we were forced to interact, and how he probably doesn’t even get what he did wrong:
Fuck Off, I’m Reading
Paranormal Romance: Engorged, throbbing and fainting, Oh my!: Looking at some of the ridiculous sex tropes in paranormal romance.
LJ Smith fired from her own series : The writer of the Vampire Diaries has been fired by her publisher.
Cover Snark: Who Needs Clothing to be a Badass? : Examining the sexualization of women on book covers.
Cover Snark: Oh The Thigh Muscles! : Looking at the ridiculous positions women are placed to on the cover of books.
Ableism and Adelaide in American Horror Story : Despite having a disabled actor play a disabled character American Horror Story is rife with ableism.
Enter to Win The Twilight Breaking Dawn Celebration Package : This month we are giving away a Breaking Dawn 2012 calender, 1 Breaking Dawn tote bag and a Robert Pattinson watch. Even if you don’t like twilight, this would make a great gift.
I wrote about Bravo’s treatment of Taylor Armstrong’s domestic violence history in the show’s latest episode: http://larkincallaghan.wordpress.com/2011/11/16/not-that-i-necessarily-expect-bravotv-to-be-educational/
Today I wrote a post for Transgender Day of Remembrance about how to be a trans ally.
It didn’t go through the first time on my end.
On knowing when to be quiet
The need for a unified front
So I finally got around to making a blog. It’s called Pissed Off Woman, which is a name I’ve been using for a while to comment on news articles.
First, I introduce myself and explain the rationale for my blog.
Next, I talk about what happens when a community of idealistic world-changers meets the NYPD.
First, I wrote about my spirituality.
Then, I wrote about the Occupy movement, and in particular the establishment of the Bank of Ideas by Occupy London. They held a conference of representatives of all the UK-based Occupy cities this weekend; it looks like there are ambitions to take “Occupy” to the next level here.
Booty calls tips for the holiday season.
Trans Day of Remembrance poetry:
REMEMBERING REEN VIRK WEEK:
Reena Virk was a South Asian teen murdered for being Brown.
See a Video Roundtable and Book Review here:
http://blackcoffeepoet.com/2011/11/14/remembering-reena-virk-video-rountable-review-of-reena-virk-critical-perspectives-on-a-canadian-murder/
Interview with South Asian academic Mythili Rajiva:
http://blackcoffeepoet.com/2011/11/16/remembering-reena-virk-interview-with-dr-mythili-rajiva-co-editor-of-reena-virk-critical-perspectives-on-a-canadian-murder/
Poetry by Gita Lena:
http://blackcoffeepoet.com/2011/11/18/remembering-reena-virk-prose-and-reflections-by-gitanjali-lena/
TDOR post that’s actually written for trans people.
I wrote what I believe to be the first English-language analysis of a report by the Norwegian Pro Centre on the sex trade in Norway under the sex purchase ban.
I wrote about my experience over this weekend training to become an abortion doula!
http://feministdoula.blogspot.com/2011/11/i-am-officially-abortion-doula.html
On how recent interaction with people much younger left me feeling old and dated. > http://coldsnapdragon.blogspot.com/2011/11/on-feeling-old-and-dated.html
So, You Have A Crush On Me.
Dear NBC: About Community
[...] excellent blog Feministe has been running a weekly post called Shameless Self-Promotion Sunday for several years. I always [...]
Spanish professors hold women back. The system is easier on men. Women have to do significantly more to reach the top.
This is the clear conclusion of the Spanish government’s White Paper on the Position of Women in Science in Spain. Men, the White Paper concludes, are 2.5 times more likely than otherwise identical women to become a Professor.
Spanish professors are sexist http://wp.me/p1xS1Q-kr
I was interviewed on INDIGENOUS WAVES RADIO and read 2 poems, talked racism and violence against women + online vs print media + the WHITENESS of vigils for women who’ve experienced or are not here because of violence:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2vhNeoTA4A
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