I have an article in GOOD today about online dating red flags, and how the internet evens the gender playing field. Check it out. And yes, someone on Twitter already sent me this article in response.
The one red flag that I didn’t give much time to but that I keep seeing over and over and over again are the dudes who won’t date women their own age, but will date women who are 10 or 15 years younger than they are. It doesn’t really impact me yet — I’m usually right in the middle of their preferred age range — but if a guy is 36 and would date a 20-something but won’t date a woman who’s 35? Nope!
Now it’s one thing to meet someone at a party or through friends, hit it off, and then realize that there’s a large age difference. It’s another to actually think through who you want to date, and decide that even though you’re 35, you would date a 22-year-old but not a woman your own age. It’s not that 22-year-olds and 35-year-olds can never have good, egalitarian relationships; it’s that a dude who lists his upper age limit as two or three years younger than himself is probably not looking for an equal partner.