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  1. Emolee
    Emolee March 29, 2012 at 1:30 pm |

    This is appalling.

  2. Colleen
    Colleen March 29, 2012 at 3:41 pm |

    Also domestic violence =/= consensual BDSM.

  3. Jordan S
    Jordan S March 29, 2012 at 4:33 pm |

    Domestic violence hurts real people. Making light of it sends the message to real people that their experiences don’t matter, that what happened to them wasn’t serious, that they have no allies who take their experiences seriously, and that they themselves are the ones at fault for holding on to it and continuing to feel pain.

    Sounds like gaslighting.

  4. Mztress
    Mztress March 29, 2012 at 5:21 pm |

    “The owners of C&H would like to make sure everyone knows that we and our staff DO NOT SUPPORT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.”

    So what was the purpose of that incredibly offensive marketing ploy, to show how unsupportive you are of domestic violence?

  5. Dominique
    Dominique March 29, 2012 at 6:14 pm |

    They got the attention they wanted. It looks like this is the new way to market goods and service: be incredibly offensive, get people to link to you and talk about you, then pseudo-apologize (or not). It may backfire in some cases, but if the reported comments above are a reflection of a trend, there may be enough people out there willing to jump on “politically incorrect” bandwagons because they think they’re Bill Maher. Assholes.

  6. Startledoctopus
    Startledoctopus March 29, 2012 at 8:11 pm |

    Your “are you serious?” tag is very apropos.

    Also, it would be interesting to see if food-based activism is effective. If they had done the burger intentionally to bring awareness of domestic violence, sans jokey-name, advertising that profits would go to service organizations for survivors and/or educational organizations…I wonder if that would be effective? I know I’d love to eat a burger for social justice.

    But c’mon, did these people go to Kyriarchy University in Privilege, USA?

  7. PrettyAmiable
    PrettyAmiable March 29, 2012 at 9:04 pm |

    Chris Brown is hot?

    Sorry, but I can’t think of a single abuser who doesn’t look dead in the eyes to me. Baffles me when people say Charlie Sheen is hot. His eyes are dead.

  8. Mxe354
    Mxe354 March 29, 2012 at 10:16 pm |

    I’m just shocked, really. I mean, they actually went that far? Making fun of domestic abuse? Are you fucking kidding me? This is just profoundly repulsive; it’s beyond offensive.

  9. foreveralone
    foreveralone March 29, 2012 at 10:33 pm |

    @PrettyAmiable were there eyes dead before or after you found out they were abusers? Can you tell abusers by the deadness of their eyes?

  10. Jamie Stacey
    Jamie Stacey March 30, 2012 at 2:44 am |

    I’m all for gallows humor, but this is not gallows humor. Gallows humor clearly acknowledges the seriousness of the issue. The Chops & Hops ad is just offensive. Perhaps there is a fine line that separates the two, but this is a clear case.

  11. Angie unduplicated
    Angie unduplicated March 30, 2012 at 8:17 am |

    Even the slang terms “hit on”, for propositioning, and “hit” for sex, are disgusting. Apparently, no PR scheme is too sleazy for the boys when they want to rehabilitate an abuser’s street cred.
    Atlanta: still 404, all the way.

  12. Tim
    Tim March 30, 2012 at 9:59 am |

    @chrisbrown, @rihanna and us teamed up for a award-winning celebrity sandwich. Put your hands on this caribbean black and bleu sandwich. … Brown won’t beat you up for eating this unless your name starts with a R and ends with A.

    I don’t really get “teh Twittrz” all that well, but are we to understand from this that they actually somewhere have the approval/consent of Chris Brown and Rihanna for this filthy obscenity?

  13. Tim
    Tim March 30, 2012 at 10:01 am |

    oops, “somehow,” not “somewhere”

  14. QLH
    QLH March 30, 2012 at 11:40 am |

    Tim, no, the restaurant’s just seeking attention. Rihanna and Chris Brown themselves have no genuine association with this fiasco.

  15. Geoarch
    Geoarch March 30, 2012 at 4:31 pm |

    I must hang my head in shame and admit that this happened in my home town. We’re about an hour away from Atlanta, by the way, in a university town that should presumably know better.

    That being said, this is an area where I begged for help from the police for years while married to my ex, who is a champion abuser, master gaslighter and manipulator, only to be told that they couldn’t help me because it was a “he said, she said” situation. Oh, and because he liked to claim I was only calling the cops because I was drunk. Judges around here routinely give custody of children to abusers, too. Enlightened? Not so much. So, there’s your context for this hideous, vile, repulsive ad campaign.

  16. Alexandra
    Alexandra March 30, 2012 at 6:13 pm |

    @foreveralone, if we could tell all abusers simply by looking into their eyes, our lives would be so much easier. I wish it were so. I still remember the sweet and warm expression that took over my abusive ex’s eyes on occasions.

  17. Anjasa
    Anjasa April 1, 2012 at 12:26 pm |

    Some people just want to be offensive for the attention, and I think that’s horribly sad. It’s so frustrating knowing what they’re doing – and knowing people are buying into it.

    Even if they’re just being offensive for attention, don’t they understand that they could be causing real harm to different groups and people?

  18. Bitter Scribe
    Bitter Scribe April 1, 2012 at 9:44 pm |

    …and now they’re going to eat TWO burgers just because, SO SUCK IT.

    To those people: Enjoy them, and may your cholesterol soar into the stratosphere.

  19. checksix
    checksix April 2, 2012 at 7:10 pm |

    @angie I’m with you for the most part, but where are you getting that etymology for “hit on?” The best I could find was “hyttan” meaning “to meet/come upon.”

  20. Avida Quesada
    Avida Quesada April 5, 2012 at 1:07 pm |

    I agree with your words, and I understand that you are talking abut using domestic violences as a publicity stun (that did worked) but as an atheist I can’t forget about this incident:

    Not realizing that it was the name of a company, the word “chops” on the tile make me remember of the video.

    The other angle is the racist one. It’s really Chris Brown the first celebrity, or the last one to physically abuse their partner? Why the fixation with him? (not in this forum)

    We can say all that we want that is not the same, because male privilege. Or we can say is no big deal because of the frequency of women vs male victims. Or we can suggest that a guy with no voice in a ghettos has less power than the women on the talk.

    We could be right, but people hears : Bla bla bla burger , bla bla blas ‘what about the menz’.

    We are not been effective, and black women around me do notice the focus on just one case.


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