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Jill began blogging for Feministe in 2005. She has since written as a weekly columnist for the Guardian newspaper and in April 2014 she was appointed as senior political writer for Cosmopolitan magazine.
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  1. TomSims
    TomSims February 14, 2013 at 1:25 pm |

    Happy Valentine/Galentine Day Jill.

    “I am celebrating by talking about internet love on Al Jazeera ”

    Wow, that should be interesting. Al Jazeera? Really?

    1. Andie
      Andie February 14, 2013 at 2:58 pm |

      They’re a pretty good media outlet. A lot less biased than a lot of outlets I have seen.

      1. Henry
        Henry February 14, 2013 at 8:55 pm |

        Al Jazeera is owned by the government of Qatar.

        1. PrettyAmiable
          PrettyAmiable February 14, 2013 at 9:55 pm |

          No. It’s not.

        2. Fat Steve
          Fat Steve February 15, 2013 at 9:56 am |

          I think Henry was making the point that Al Jazeera was a Qatari operation, and Qatar is one of, if not our biggest ally in the Middle East. I don’t think he was making a serious point about their ownership structure.

        3. Henry
          Henry February 15, 2013 at 5:59 pm |

          It’s current status is far from clear. It ceased to be state owned in 2011, and is now owned by Al Jazeera Media Network – re-designated from a “public institution to a ‘private institution of public utility'”.

          As for thier bias, I do not know, but it always helps to know who pays the bills at a media organization.

  2. Tyris
    Tyris February 14, 2013 at 1:47 pm |

    It took us until half past one to notice that today was Valentine’s… and this after hours of writing “14 Feb” every other line in official documentation.

    Some year soon, it will just pass by in a bubble of happy obliviousness.

  3. XtinaS
    XtinaS February 14, 2013 at 2:11 pm |

    Uh. Is there a reason the front page is mobile-friendly, on my desktop?

    1. tigtog
      tigtog February 14, 2013 at 2:33 pm | *

      There probably is some technical reason, but it’s certainly not anything that’s been deliberately configured by us. Refresh/reload the front page, and if it’s still there then look for a “view site normally” (or equivalent) button?

    2. Tyris
      Tyris February 14, 2013 at 3:07 pm |

      We got this same problem on the fashion article (and no other) for about a day. Clicking the desktop view button did nothing but it went back to normal by itself after a while.

      1. XtinaS
        XtinaS February 14, 2013 at 4:08 pm |

        …and, so it did! How bizarre.

  4. EG
    EG February 14, 2013 at 2:17 pm |

    What does it say about me that when I first read this, I thought Jill was celebrating some weird day having to do with Galen of Pergamon, and I kept thinking “Well, tastes differ, but I really dislike the one-sex theory and find it misogynist”?

    Oh, that I am the biggest geek who ever went to grad school, that’s what it says.

    1. jrockford
      jrockford February 14, 2013 at 5:38 pm |

      A good reference to Galen of Pergamon always makes me sanguine! Good for keeping the black bile in check!

      1. SamLL
        SamLL February 14, 2013 at 8:13 pm |

        Humor humor?

  5. auditorydamage
    auditorydamage February 14, 2013 at 5:49 pm |

    Made a card with the following sappy-ass verse:

    Roses are red
    Violets are blue
    I want to torch patriarchy
    And dance around the flames with you

    I think she’ll get a giggle out of it.

    1. A4
      A4 February 14, 2013 at 10:51 pm |

      I know I did

      1. auditorydamage
        auditorydamage February 15, 2013 at 6:47 am |

        She liked it. :)

  6. Comradde PhysioProffe
    Comradde PhysioProffe February 14, 2013 at 6:04 pm |

    Most importantly, you are gonna need to do more than “split[] a bottle of rose”! WHOLE BOTTLES FOR ALL THE GALS!!!11!!1!11!!

  7. Nicole
    Nicole February 14, 2013 at 9:04 pm |

    Galentine’s?! I LOVE IT.

    Cheers to the ladies that keep us sane (or further support our insanity)!

  8. Li
    Li February 14, 2013 at 10:00 pm |

    I spent the day sending unromantic valentine’s images to my unboyfriend. I choo choo choose you!

    1. macavitykitsune
      macavitykitsune February 14, 2013 at 10:03 pm |

      Okay, that’s just ADORABLE.

    2. GraceGrace
      GraceGrace February 15, 2013 at 12:19 am |

      I’ve spent the last week finding the worst of the worst of valentines on Tumblr and have been sending them to my boyfriend. He’s been getting a kick out of them. Ones that are like a picture of the Ikea monkey that says ‘Are your eyes IKEA? Cause I’m lost in them.’


      1. miga
        miga February 15, 2013 at 9:25 am |


        (but I love it)

  9. PeggyLuWho
    PeggyLuWho February 15, 2013 at 2:04 am |

    I know this is extremely bougie, but I bought myself something really special for Valentine’s/Galentine’s day. Escrow on my condo closed today, and I got the keys to my new home. I celebrated by having a beer and some naan and curry over the sink of my new empty place with a friend.

    1. PeggyLuWho
      PeggyLuWho February 15, 2013 at 2:07 am |

      Also, this.

    2. BabyRaptor
      BabyRaptor February 15, 2013 at 2:21 am |

      Congratulations! That’s awesome, and the timing just made it better.

    3. EG
      EG February 15, 2013 at 12:42 pm |


    4. Donna L
      Donna L February 15, 2013 at 1:26 pm |


    5. PeggyLuWho
      PeggyLuWho February 16, 2013 at 2:09 am |

      Thanks all!

  10. miga
    miga February 15, 2013 at 9:36 am |

    I listened to Adele and angsty Kanye at work and cried, then I went to the used bookstore and bought a books on Buddhism and Christianity, as well as two fiction books with badass WoC main characters. Then I got french onion soup, wine, and the new Muppets movie – and then I got super drunk and painted my nails.
    Except for the part where I got wine in my eye(!!!) it was a good night.

  11. Aydan
    Aydan February 15, 2013 at 3:02 pm |

    I liked that article. I always really like to see stuff about the importance of friendships and platonic love. Maybe I’ll try to do something really special for a friend next Valentine’s Day.

  12. Pseudonym
    Pseudonym February 16, 2013 at 7:12 am |

    I bought my mother a nice little bouquet of flowers for V-Day and went out to watch a movie with her. My father isn’t allowed to buy her flowers any more for painful emotional reasons I only recently discovered, and he hadn’t done anything else to celebrate the day. He’s recovering from injury and dealing with chronic pain and is hopped up on drugs and spending most of his days in bed, occasionally walking around the house on crutches or in his wheelchair, so it’s a complicated situation. My parents still love each other but I’m not sure if it’s romantic or more like close friendship or inertia or what.

    I think this is the most I’ve ever done to celebrate Valentine’s Day with anyone. I’ve never spent a V-Day living in a relationship of any sort. I did once, during college, go out with a random group of people I met off Craigslist and meet up for dinner and a house party, but I acted my usual awkward poorly socialized self and ended up alienating most of the other people, particularly the one I developed a crush on. It was still a good experience to have nonetheless.

    I have a few decent same-sex friends who I feel pretty close to emotionally. I still feel painfully lonely a lot of the time, but I haven’t dated in a year or two. I could probably find some sort of companion or relationship if I really focused on it, but that would mean taking an honest assessment of my strengths and weaknesses and what I have to offer to others. I don’t think I’m ready to admit that people like me or at my level are as good as it gets when it comes to potential partners. Fair is fair, those are the people I deserve, but they aren’t the people who I feel attracted to or desire for. Sorry. I think I’d still rather pretend or distract myself than have to stare at the face of someone who mirrored my ugliness and be expected to love and desire them.

  13. Lucile
    Lucile February 18, 2013 at 3:27 pm |

    The one billion rising campaign is the only meaningful Valentine’s day celebration I find meaningful. Women and men in Liberia speaking out against rape! It is so wonderful to see this happening across the world.

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