69 comments for “Shameless Self-Promotion Sunday

  1. March 24, 2013 at 9:01 am

    This week, someone asked me to write about how I became a feminist, so I did. It turns out that if you tell a little girl to believe in herself, she just might do it…


  2. March 24, 2013 at 9:27 am

    No real political stuff this week, just…

    Sunday Funnies from the NY Times:


    And a rant about people who tell me to smile:


  3. March 24, 2013 at 9:29 am

    I engaged with a paper on the medeival development of artistic portrayals of Mary’s intercession with Christ, in The Persuasive Power of a Mother’s Breast.

    I jotted down some thoughts on feminist theologies of sin and how they might related to a mimetic understanding of sin.

    Also did some thesis blogging on comparative ecclesiology, and pope blogging with a quote I liked about St. Joseph from Pope Francis’ installation mass.

  4. March 24, 2013 at 9:42 am
  5. Ashleigh
    March 24, 2013 at 9:42 am

    This week on broadsspeak, some poetic relief from Emily Dickinson about the media’s awful coverage of Steubenville, and some thoughts on the deeper meaning of the increasingly common feminist phrase “I can’t believe I have to say this.”


  6. March 24, 2013 at 9:47 am

    Republicans Prove Voter Fraud is a Problem They had to void their committee election when they counted more votes than voters. I blame Obama.

  7. deb
    March 24, 2013 at 9:48 am

    in about coming out-can’t we talk sexuality sooner? I responded to the “father’s letter to his gay son” that went viral on FB this week.

  8. March 24, 2013 at 9:50 am

    Non-social justice interlude: I made a sock! Socks: a miracle of ancient engineering.

  9. March 24, 2013 at 9:54 am

    Getting ragey about Steubenville

    About Arizona, Coy and the washroom issue – this is my first time tackling trans issues because I don’t want to flub it, so if I’ve fucked up or inadvertantly said anything hurtful (I hope not!) please call my shit out.

    Ultimate-guitar.com’s boringly sexist iPad app promotion

    Am also testing out this gravatar thing.

    • Donna L
      March 24, 2013 at 1:28 pm

      About Arizona, Coy and the washroom issue – this is my first time tackling trans issues because I don’t want to flub it, so if I’ve fucked up or inadvertantly said anything hurtful (I hope not!) please call my shit out.

      It looks good to me! Thank you for this.

      • March 24, 2013 at 7:51 pm

        Thank you Donna. :)

  10. March 24, 2013 at 10:20 am

    I have some results from an online survey I gave on how people view developmental college classes.

    I recently read a post on why people need to stop lying on Facebook, and I generally agreed with it. But I wonder, where’s the line between lying and whining?

    After yet another of my Facebook friends was sympathizing with the rapists in the Steubenville case, I wrote a post on all the links I wish people who say it was “too harsh” would read and one on why rape culture is bad for men, too. (Good news: this particular friend apologized, took down his post, and then we had a long talk about rape culture where he said he’d never thought of it that way and that he understood it better now.)

    • March 24, 2013 at 5:29 pm

      Nice post. About 94-95% of men don’t rape, ever, and yet here we are. If men who don’t rape started to hold rapists accountable—instead of whining “not all men are like that!” when feminists started to talk about rape—the problem would shrivel to a fraction of what it is.

  11. March 24, 2013 at 10:34 am

    I’ve also written a piece comparing two books’ approach to the politics of sex work – one which was fascinating, insightful and incisive, written by current sex workers, and one of which was Kat Banyard’s The Equality Illusion.

  12. March 24, 2013 at 10:44 am

    A Critique of a Critique of Extended Breastfeeding

    “My toddler still breastfeeds, and I’ve read/heard a lot that supports that. I’ve read/heard some things that aren’t crazy about it, but this is the first thing I’ve read that is actually opposed to toddler nursing, offering a detailed list of reasons to wean by your kid’s first birthday.

    “As I read it, however, I found some of the arguments to be pretty inadequate, some outright silly. So I decided to share it with you, for a laugh, and to add my own commentary.”

    Thanks for the opportunity to shamelessly self-promote!

  13. March 24, 2013 at 11:02 am

    This week I wrote about how unrealistic expectations of the female orgasm perpetuated by porn can lead to anxiety and misunderstanding of our own bodies in the bedroom.

    • jojo
      March 24, 2013 at 6:57 pm

      Excellent blog concept! Great post!

  14. Jem Bloomfield
    March 24, 2013 at 11:19 am

    Continuing the series about sexism and misogyny at university, “Glosswitch” argues that it’s an attempt by privileged men to defend what they see as “their” territory: “All Up In Their Space”
    Still looking for potential contributors to the series, would love to hear from people!

  15. March 24, 2013 at 11:20 am

    Stuff I’ve written this week:

    Demystifying “premarital”: On Idaho’s “symbolic” statement against the depiction or discussion of premarital sex on TV, and the general ridiculousness and hypocrisy of both the “pre” and the “marital.”

    Look at you, all flaunting your autonomy: On a Danish imam who exposed himself to a woman after declaring that women deserve no respect if they don’t dress appropriately (by his standards), and the bizarrity of that notion of “respect.”

    Shame, sexism, and soft bigotry: On those three things.

    • March 24, 2013 at 5:33 pm

      Thanks for this. I’m writing something about conservative hypocrisy, and this is perfect.

  16. March 24, 2013 at 11:24 am

    Viewing History Skeptically: On Shifting Cultural Assumptions and Attitudes (in which I babble about lesbians and history)

    How (Not) to Respond When People Change Their Minds: a reflection on years of arguing with people and also on changing my mind on some pretty major issues

  17. March 24, 2013 at 11:30 am

    There has been quite a lot of tension online recently in UK feminism, with people feeling they cannot speak for fear of being attacked.

    i wrote this in response.


    Earlier this week I wrote about the idea of sisterhood and victim blaming after the Stuebenville verdict.
    Trigger warning, this post describes a sexual assault, alcohol misuse and victim blaming.


  18. March 24, 2013 at 11:45 am

    I wrote about pedophilia, its frequent conflation with child sex abuse, and the harm that sort of conflation brings to everyone involved.

    • Nadine
      March 24, 2013 at 7:41 pm

      What. I don’t want to click this link but it sounds well dodgy. Giraffe???

      [Moderator note: Thank you for sending a giraffe alert.]

      • March 24, 2013 at 7:54 pm

        I read it, and as much as the topic sketches me out, I didn’t it was terrible. She makes a point about the difference between proclivity and behaviour/action

      • March 24, 2013 at 10:00 pm

        I didn’t think it was terrible, I mean.

    • Donna L
      March 24, 2013 at 8:02 pm

      Yes, but I’m not sure I buy the implication that being a “pedophile” is some sort of alternative “sexual orientation” (“but Your Honor, I was born that way!!”), and that there are all these brave pedophiles out there who resist their impulses, and have never touched and never would touch a child.

      • Radiant Sophia
        March 24, 2013 at 8:10 pm

        I’m not sure I believe that either, but I certainly do NOT want to see the “kill ’em all before they can” thought policing that the linked article’s (the article that this one is in response to) commentators want.

      • Donna L
        March 24, 2013 at 8:22 pm

        I didn’t read that one, fortunately.

  19. March 24, 2013 at 11:48 am

    All Bodies Are Beautiful? — “Sometimes I think of my body as beautiful; a lot of times I do not. And I am okay with both of those. Moreover, whether or not people perceive me as beautiful does not matter in terms of how I fundamentally expect they should treat me. ”

    Admitting — “And yet, despite that not a one of them seemed miffed that I asked them to alter their behavior for me, I felt really awkward and self-conscious in asking this from my students.”

    Also, a fun conversation about backflips and a links/self-promotion post of my own.

  20. March 24, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    This week at Yes Means Yes Blog, two posts on Steubenville:

    Humiliation Was The Point Of The Exercise, comparing the this case to the gang rapes in Glen Ridge, NJ, and to the Haidl case in California; and

    Candy Crowley and the Social License to Operate, an open letter to Candy Crowley about CNN’s terrible coverage.

    • Donna L
      March 24, 2013 at 1:29 pm

      I’ve been thinking about the parallels to the Glen Ridge case a lot, given that I lived there at the time that happened (a year or so before my son was born), and for many years thereafter.

  21. March 24, 2013 at 12:19 pm

    I wrote about the feminist dilemma of taking a stand for or against women in the military:

    • SamLL
      March 25, 2013 at 12:05 pm

      I don’t understand why it is contradictory to simultaneously be pro-women-in-the-military and anti-military – to say “we shouldn’t be fighting wars, but if I can’t talk you out of that, we should have equality in that sphere.”

      For example, I am a vegetarian and think nobody should kill animals to eat them, but I would be adamantly opposed to any law banning women from working in slaughterhouses, as butchers, eating meat, etc.

  22. March 24, 2013 at 12:21 pm

    DIY space in Greenville opened! Got pictures!

    Governor Nikki Haley continues to work on my last good nerve

    Odds and Sods (assorted links)

    First Caturday of Spring (its my babies!)

    Another Bob Jones University sex scandal (keep in mind, what is a sex scandal at the most conservative, fundamentalist college in the country, would not necessarily be one anywhere else!)

  23. March 24, 2013 at 12:28 pm

    This week I wrote about…

    Rape culture and Steubenville reporting (obvious TW):

    Getting a feminist pick me up:

    And the fact that teen moms don’t need more shaming:

  24. March 24, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    Getting back into blogging after a months of being swamped with work. I just finished a post about a museum exhibit of mostly late nineteenth-century advertisement cards featuring women playing sports. Most of the cards are painted images or photos of women pretending to play sports. The cards are weird and delightful.


  25. March 24, 2013 at 12:54 pm

    Earlier this week I wrote:

    Hugging It Out In The Workplace:

    About all the awkward ways men greet me or thank me in the office. Awkward hugs, awkward waves, just shake my hand!

    • Dominique
      March 24, 2013 at 1:01 pm

      Hi – this is an interesting post but I couldn’t reply on your site. I initiate by stepping forward first and stretching out my own hand, so the “thing to do” is unmistakable. It’s funny that this is the first time I’ve thought about it. I was doing it instinctively.

      • March 24, 2013 at 2:42 pm

        I also do that! And I make sure to have a firm handshake. I don’t do hugs.

    • deb
      March 24, 2013 at 5:23 pm

      I also couldn’t reply on your website and enjoyed your post. i CAN’T STAND the whole hug, european kiss thing. I lead with a handshake to make things clear. sometimes i catch someone going for a hug before they realize i’m going for the shake. this usually makes me feel like i’m being stand-offish – but I have to resist that idea because it’s really offensive to me that women are expected to hug people they’ve just met or are only acquainted with.

  26. March 24, 2013 at 12:59 pm

    This week I published An Open Letter to my Female Friends:


    About body image.

    I also wrote about how I’m Sex-Positive. http://mavenzelle.wordpress.com/2013/03/24/i-am-done-being-ashamed/

    And here’s my take on the concept of Soulmates.

  27. March 24, 2013 at 2:22 pm

    My junior feminist and I wrote about the Sexy Lamp Test this week — a supplement to the Bechdel test!

  28. March 24, 2013 at 2:55 pm

    I have met several people that don’t know a thing about the murder of Kimani Gray. Mainstream racist society has set aside culturally sanctioned spaces wherein violence against Black bodies is accepted and ignored, especially if the victim doesn’t fit the definition of a “model” citizen.

    Thanks for allowing us to use this space for promotion, Jill!

  29. March 24, 2013 at 3:11 pm

    Did my comment evaporate? I saw it previously! :P

    • March 24, 2013 at 6:07 pm

      Your comment was mod-botted because of the number of links (there should have been a “This comment is pending moderation” notice at the top of it for you to see but nobody else).

  30. March 24, 2013 at 3:17 pm

    I wrote Shir HaShirim for Pesah. As I was writing it, I was impressed again with how the lovers’ voices blend one into another without signal, how mutual is their focus on each other’s bodies and features, how symmetrical their features. It’s one of the more lovely ritual documents to write and I’m glad I had the opportunity.

  31. March 24, 2013 at 3:22 pm

    I’ve been playing with drawings and comics. This week, Casual Gamers and Procrastination.

    I wrote up my highlights from the Irish Abortion Rights Campaign’s Ten Days of Action.

    In Whose Body Is It Anyway, I talk about how forced birth in this country is about a lot more than just abortion- this month, one woman’s doctors took her to the High Court to force her to have a Caesarian against her will.

    This particular woman has had her right to refuse treatment- the right to ownership of her body and to not be forcibly anaesthetised and have someone cut into her body with a scalpel when she has refused consent- revoked.

    You guys know that Kate Bornstein has cancer, right? And that she needs our help to fund the treatment she needs to stay alive?

    This week, TENI launched a nationwide campaign to report incidents of transphobic harassment and violence. It’s anonymous, it’s safe, it’s online, and the data they get together will be used to create strategies to end it. It’s called STAD- Stop Transphobia And Discrimination. (Stad, by the way, is Irish for ‘stop’)


    Massive TW for this one for violence, misogyny, and terrifying anti-choicery. Life? Life, my ass is all about one person’s reaction to their partner’s abortion.

  32. March 24, 2013 at 3:37 pm

    Killer cramps and chronic pelvic pain might be signs of underlying problems, but diagnosis can be tricky. March is Endometriosis Awareness Month, and our blogger Tori is doing her part to spread awareness! Learn about how endometriosis is diagnosed — and why diagnosis can be difficult.

    One of the most confusing STDs out there is herpes, which is caused by the herpes simplex virus. This virus can infect our faces to cause cold sores, and our pelvic regions to cause genital herpes — and can be transmitted from the mouth to the genitals during oral sex. Even though most of us have been infected with the virus that causes cold sores, there is still so much confusion, stigma, and misinformation out there.

    And for those of you who need more links, check out Stacey’s collection of reproductive-justice-related headlines — the good news and the bad.

  33. March 24, 2013 at 4:23 pm
  34. Logan
    March 24, 2013 at 4:33 pm
  35. March 24, 2013 at 5:18 pm

    This week at W* News, it was all about Myths. Katie wrote about the myth of being a ‘slut’, while Molly wrote a stirring piece on the price of existence.

    We also published a letter in response to ‘Fabulous Feminism’, a not-so-fabulous article published our university magazine.


  36. March 24, 2013 at 6:02 pm

    Many people think that the obvious answer to abusive relationships is to leave, but there’s more to it than that. If you know someone in an abusive situation, express your trust in their essential strength and capacity to find their way. Help them notice what they are doing well. Reasons to Stay

    • Elise
      March 25, 2013 at 3:53 am

      Thanks for this. I had an experience in class last week where the subject came up (a classmate compared the responsibility of getting/staying sober to the responsibility of a woman/victim leaving her abusive partner) and this is exactly what I would’ve liked to reply. At the time I only pointed out that there are many reasons for which people stay with abusive partners and the example I gave was one of your points – that it is safer to stay and/or they are convinced that leaving would actually result in their death rather than “just” abuse. So yeah, this is a good list and I’m going to keep it with me in case the subject arises again.

  37. March 24, 2013 at 6:50 pm

    An open letter to the NBC sitcom “Community.”

  38. March 24, 2013 at 7:46 pm

    I wrote a post in response to an article I read where the author of the article basically suggested that the UK government’s advisory to its women travelling to India (following gang-rapes of travellers as well) should be something that all Indian women should adhere to as well.
    My rape advisory to men in India

  39. March 24, 2013 at 8:01 pm

    This week I reviewed Hounded by Kevin Hearne (funny, clever urban fantasy) and also started a loose series of writing advice with a post on opening sentences.

  40. Donna L
    March 24, 2013 at 8:25 pm

    You guys know that Kate Bornstein has cancer, right? And that she needs our help to fund the treatment she needs to stay alive?

    Thanks for calling attention to this, and see also this in the Weekly Open Thread: http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/2013/03/22/weekly-open-thread-with-silk-in-a-market/#comment-622307

  41. Kat
    March 24, 2013 at 8:39 pm
  42. March 24, 2013 at 9:25 pm

    I wrote a little bit about my history with a bicycle and women in history with bicycles. I wish I had more time to research it and do it more justice, but I have some homework to do. (boo-hoo)

  43. March 24, 2013 at 10:49 pm

    Check out my new tumblr filled with links, articles, videos and more that are pertinent to women!

  44. FYouMudFlaps
    March 25, 2013 at 2:04 am

    Hooray- I made a Facebook page!

    Not Hooray – It only has 4 likes. Getting it up to even 10 on account of this post would be awesome!

    My goal with the page is to make a safe space, trans-inclusive place to discuss and broadcast stories about any kinds of injustice. Disenfranchisement, War on Women related nonsense, etc.

  45. March 25, 2013 at 8:01 am

    I’m an unemployed, feminist insomniac. One small advantage of being an insomniac is that while I can’t work a regular job, I’ve been doing some cool things I’d normally never have the time to do. Last Friday, I appeared as Maggie Gallagher (an advocate against gay marriage) in a Pittsburgh reading of Dustin Lance Black’s 8.


    I’m the woman in the pink jacket.

  46. Autumn Elizabeth
    March 25, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    On my bog about living in German this week I discuss the contradictions of living in a place with a hard history.

  47. March 25, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    Sigh. Here’s my list of what’s wrong with Arizona’s proposed illegal urination for transpeople law: http://transplantportation.com/2013/03/23/illegal-urination/

  48. March 26, 2013 at 6:31 am

    This week I got into some poetry and memories.



    Love is

    and much more.

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