53 comments for “Shameless Self-Promotion Sunday

  1. May 26, 2013 at 9:01 am

    Things I’ve written about since I last shamelessly self-promoted:

    I admit that I don’t really understand what it means to be attracted to members of only one sex and/or gender (even though most people seem to experience their sexuality this way), and I articulate the reasons for my confusion.

    An examination of some of the issues surrounding the participation of Trans* people in professional sports, in which I ultimately question the motivations behind segregating sports by gender/sex in the first place.

    A discussion of my near-complete mental break-down of a few months ago

    Some of my anxieties around one day becoming a parent

    Race in Iron Man 3

    And finally, some thoughts on the why people accuse each other of over-reacting to things

    I’d actually really love to get some input on those first two posts; they’re the ones where I’m sure I’m most likely to be some really key point, and I want to know what it is. And since you guys took me well to task over my brief excursion into the world of marriage abolitionism, I’m hoping for insight on these other issues as well.

  2. May 26, 2013 at 9:02 am

    This week I wrote an analysis of the women in “Clueless”…: http://canbebitter.wordpress.com/2013/05/21/portrayals-of-women-in-amy-heckerlings-clueless/

  3. May 26, 2013 at 9:16 am

    From my retro girl’s love comics collection, one of the ads in the back-“Hundreds of stenographers, office clerks, factory workers and maids have given up their ‘blind alley’ drudgery to embrace the respected profession of Practical Nursing.” I’m gonna take this home study course and get me a real job-I’m gonna get rich

  4. May 26, 2013 at 9:17 am

    This week I wrote about the perils of parenting and PhDing. Having a baby in graduate school brings with some unique challenges.

    I’m studying for my comprehensive doctoral exams, so as part of my Blogging to My PhD series, I wrote about the endless repetition of education reform, what it means to know a field “comprehensively” in the Age of Information, and how Aristotle could have benefited from knowing more about Multiple Intelligences theory, especially when it comes to the connection of physical and mental exercise.

    Also, I appear to be in the minority among my friends, but I loved the Great Gatsby, and I think that Jay-Z’s involvement on the soundtrack demonstrates how much he is telling his own story about the distortion of the American Dream.

  5. May 26, 2013 at 9:21 am

    This week I wrote about Firsts–first loves, losses–“Oak Trees & First Loves.”

  6. May 26, 2013 at 9:23 am

    This is an old post, but the book I write about in it is still so relevant. One could say it’s only about a ‘certain kind of woman’, but really, it’s important for all women to read this.


  7. May 26, 2013 at 9:50 am

    This week at the Yes Means Yes Blog:

    The chief concern troll of contemporary academic feminism, Camille Paglia, reviewed three books about BDSM. Two of them I’m familiar with. Paglia’s review, after making some actual useful observations, degenerated as one might expect into an epic shitshow, which I discuss in Paglia: If You Can’t Stand Her, Come Sit By Me.

  8. May 26, 2013 at 10:22 am

    A piece on facing domestic violence, and what I’ve learnt of it: http://coldsnapdragon.blogspot.in/2013/05/what-ive-learnt-from-violence.html

  9. May 26, 2013 at 10:28 am

    Here are some entries I wrote recently:

    What objectification really is


    • A4
      May 26, 2013 at 11:33 am

      Oh god Tomek is an ass.

  10. May 26, 2013 at 10:33 am

    I wrote briefly about my own issues with the princess myth, and a slightly longer response to Caperton’s post from a few days ago.

  11. May 26, 2013 at 11:40 am

    This week I published the first in a series of short stories, a hard sci-fi short story with elements of horror, and a strong female antagonist with realistic motivations. It started off as a sci-fi retelling of Treasure Island. Saying anything else would run the risk of spoiling and I don’t want to do that to anybody.

    You can read a sample and find links to the Nook and Kindle versions at my website here.

    Thank you!

  12. May 26, 2013 at 11:43 am

    I looked at the anatomy of pigeon pose some more in functional pigeon, trying to figure out what is really happening with my hips.

    A little more on endometriosis, menstruation, and stress.

    Finally, What’s everyone reading?

  13. May 26, 2013 at 12:00 pm

    I came out of the closet this week – anonymously – and posted a whole lot about kink, rape culture, queerness, growing up kinky, what we teach our youth, and the uncomfortable line between sexy and horrific. Please comment. And please be aware that this was a surprise one-week onslaught of things I have been thinking about for years. If something is offensive to you, please comment, but politely. Thanks. :)

    Growing up queer

    The line between sexy and horrific

    The hunt for information

    Should I use the word “queer” for kink?

  14. May 26, 2013 at 12:15 pm

    I blogged about historical candy. This is not only interesting, it lends an air of authenticity to steampunk or historical writing.

    Dear Hermes, I have TWO of them on learner permits:
    My husband for his CDL and my son. Yep, the same one who wore a skirt to school all those years ago is safely graduated and now learning to drive.

    On the business blog, I talked about what happens to a submission that you send to Inkstained Succubus, if we were a pirate airship with a courier system made of ferrets.

    My 13th novel released this Friday. It’s space bounty hunters in love. So I’m hosting a trivia contest with prizes. And we already have a good review.

    Saturday was Geek Pride Day. In honor of it, i’m doing a particularly geeky handcraft giveaway, that gets better with the number of comments left. So far, we’re at TARDIS washcloth stage.

  15. May 26, 2013 at 12:33 pm
  16. May 26, 2013 at 12:43 pm

    The FACE Act — Freedom of Access to Clinic Entrances — was signed 19 years ago today in response to growing anti-abortion violence taking place at clinics. Unfortunately, its uneven enforcement meant that the law hasn’t always lived up to its potential — and some point to that misstep as a factor in recent violence against abortion providers.

    Learn why this law is still so important — now more than ever!

  17. May 26, 2013 at 12:46 pm

    On Amazon’s Self-Published Fanfiction: Looking at Amazon’s plan to sell fanfic and what this means for the publishing industry and authors.

    Revolution and Race: Taking a look at the treatment of race on the popular show Revolution and how it fits into typical dystopian fantasies treatment of race.

    Generation V (American Vampire #1) by M.L. Brennan : Looking at Brennan’s new release which includes a brand new take on vampire mythology with a great class analysis.

    Game of Thrones, Season 3, Episode 8: Second Sons : A recap and review of the latest episode of Game of Thrones.

  18. May 26, 2013 at 12:53 pm

    How does saying no to a straw lead to greater change? Your voice matters! http://humaneeducation.org/blog/2013/05/20/voice-matters/

    One thing we can do to help create a better world is hang on longer to our stuff: http://humaneeducation.org/blog/2013/05/20/humane-world-like/

  19. May 26, 2013 at 12:54 pm

    Special K, The Fat Shaming Cereal: Once again advertisers are busy trying to sell us products under the guise that we need to lose weight to wear a bathing suit.

    All marginalised people are practiced at biting our tongues : Looking at why marginalised people are sometimes silent in the face of bigotry and oppression.

    Yes, GLBT People Need Protection Under the Law : Looking at the argument that businesses can be shamed into offering services to the GLBT community and why civil rights laws are needed .

    Please Don’t Let it Be One of Us : Looking at how marginalized people will watch the news and hope that a member of their group is not guilty of a crime and why

  20. May 26, 2013 at 12:56 pm

    Here are a couple of mine:

    Diet Coke Gardener: Objectified Like Women?

    “Eve Teasing” Gets Guys Off the Hook

  21. May 26, 2013 at 1:10 pm

    Over at delagar, I wrote a post, “Cultural Narratives, Cultural Lies,” on the NYTimes minidoc about Crack Babies: The Epidemic That Wasn’t,” exploring the misogynistic and racist implications of the drug wars.

    Also, “Kameron Hurley Writes About Llamas,” a post about Kameron Hurley’s excellent essay “We Have Always Fought,” over there on Dribble of Ink.

    • May 26, 2013 at 1:12 pm

      Rats. Here’s the link to the Hurley post: Llamas.

  22. Kat
    May 26, 2013 at 1:10 pm
  23. May 26, 2013 at 3:03 pm

    And after finishing my senior thesis, I’m back to blogging! I ran the numbers on how many women are working as writers or directors in Science Fiction or Fantasy television, with interesting (if depressing) results: Female Creators in Science Fiction and Fantasy Television: The Stats.

  24. May 26, 2013 at 4:01 pm

    Sometimes for us feminist filmgoers, the sexism flies so fast and furious that you just have to write a satirical news story about it. So for those of you who heard about what child rapist/ film director Roman Polanski had to say at the Cannes Film Festival this year, I say read my version of it instead:

    Polanski wins hearts defending sexism at Canne

  25. May 26, 2013 at 4:22 pm

    Is Alma Har’el’s Film Bombay Beach A Case Of Poverty Porn?

    Devotees praise this documentary for “weaving a miraculous poem” — calling it a stunning, visually rich, ethereal portrait of the death of the American dream (which is still very much alive for Wall Street bankers, corporate executives and burgeoning filmmakers). To that I’d add: Yes, never has a slice of poverty porn been quite this beautiful. It’s a haunting tribute to the voyeur’s gaze; one, that like most, fails to sensitize viewers to the actual tragedy of what they are seeing, in a way that encourages more than pity.

    (Heads up: I advise against reading this piece if you are a passionate fan of Beirut’s Elephant Gun and Sigur Rós’s Fjögur Píanó)

    • orangedesperado
      May 27, 2013 at 4:10 pm

      I got the blogger message that the blog has been removed. What’s up with this ?

  26. May 26, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    This week I reviewed Trading in Danger— it’s a great sci-fi/space opera piece about Kylara Vatta, a promising military cadet who get booted from the Academy and has to go back to her family of traders. It’s a smart book, with fewer space battles and more economic craftiness than is typical, and I had a lot of fun with it.

  27. May 26, 2013 at 10:29 pm

    Back after a two year hiatus, I test the blogging waters by talking about the recent Merida controversy and the racist issues arising from the Disney Princess line.

    The Princess Merida Protests: When Feminist Activism Neglects to Consider Anti-Racism Perspectives

  28. May 26, 2013 at 10:47 pm

    I wrote about the Boy Scouts voting to repeal their ban on gay Scouts. Here’s an open letter to the national council that I wrote before the vote, and here’s my reaction after the vote passed.

  29. May 27, 2013 at 7:43 am

    I love this thread, so many interesting things to read! Thanks, everyone :)

    After a break for exams, I’ve started blogging again. This week I wrote about Nick Ross’s recent rape apologia and Richard Dawkins being terrible (H/T Ana Mardoll at Shakesville).

  30. May 27, 2013 at 12:08 pm
    • Donna L
      May 27, 2013 at 1:28 pm

      So in other words, you only show up here to post links, and don’t even bother to see how people react to what you’re linking to? You have no idea how thoroughly offensive people found the post you linked to last week? (See last week’s Shameless Self-Promotion Sunday.)

      In your case, I think shameless is the correct adjective. You have chutzpah, I’ll give you that.

      • bookshopcat
        May 27, 2013 at 1:53 pm

        Judging by the flippant response on her blog, she knows perfectly well and doesn’t care.

      • Donna L
        May 27, 2013 at 2:07 pm

        I just noticed that she finally said something on her blog, responding to someone who had characterized her as “just another cis person telling trans women what to do” by saying that she was just asking a question and didn’t tell anyone to do anything, and calling her critic “stupid.”

        I responded there by saying the following (which may or may not appear, since all comments are moderated):

        Pretty pathetic defense, Daisy. Calling people “stupid” when they criticize you — how persuasive. What crap. Yes, it was phrased as a question, but it was a rhetorical question; your opinion was obvious. And the question was accompanied by factual assertions that were entirely false — so much so that the assumption of good faith I give to people doesn’t apply. Feh.

        The only appropriate response on Daisy’s part would have been an apology. No such luck.

        And I could not care less that Daisy has had arguments in the past with anti-trans radical feminists. Being an ally is not a status; it’s a process. When someone screws up, they should admit it, or at least reconsider — not call one’s critics “stupid,” and offer a ludicrous defense.

        PS to Mr. Rabbit: thank you for your comment on last week’s thread, which I just noticed. I think it would make sense to put any further discussion of the issue on this thread.

      • Donna L
        May 27, 2013 at 3:53 pm

        And with respect to the following aspect of Daisy’s response to her critic — “Wow, another young person who can’t read. Literacy ain’t what it used to be” — I suggest that you pick on someone your own age, or at least reasonably close to it. Like me.

      • IrishUp
        May 28, 2013 at 11:51 am

        Donna, it would appear Daisy has not yet posted your comment.

        That is some disingenuous shit in her response. That kind of rhetorical device is NOT the same thing as asking a question in good faith, and she damn well knows it. So not only was she in the wrong, but now she’s gaslighting. Neat.

        I’ve seen her pull that ageism crap elsewhere too – specifically a guest post on Womanist Musings where some POC were pointing out things they saw as problematic. Ageism is a real thing for sure, but whut.the.flying.fuck. is with using it as a form of White Lady Tears?

        Fucking A, Daisy. You can try telling us it’s not your ass we’re seeing all you want, but I’m still smelling what you’re stepping in. It’s much easier to move on from fucking up than it is from doubling down.

      • Donna L
        May 29, 2013 at 8:12 pm

        So, Daisy finally put up my comment and a couple of others, and responded with comments arguing that she was indeed asking a question, genuinely doesn’t understand, she’s an ally, and so on. And asserts that people here are sending her anonymous threats and hate mail. Which is horrifying if true (seriously, to anyone who actually did this — stop), but she refers to her critics as “Donna’s posse,” so I suppose it’s my fault. But, of course, she doesn’t read responses to what she posts on Feministe, because her previous posts there have been deleted, and people have been mean to her. But her fanbase, of course, assures her that it’s been nothing but mindless cheerleading over here:

        Mama Moretti said…

        “Daisy, I’m proud of you for not reading replies and fighting with them over there. Seriously, I know how hard that is for you. You aren’t missing anything except the usual proud self righteousness, marked by people saying “THIS!” to Donna’s outrage that you don’t already know what she knows. In short, the usual. And still no answer to your question, so it would be for naught. Move along, nothing to see here.

        It used to take much less to get them all worked up. I’ve noticed these same peeps don’t post on websites like gender trender and face the haters directly, so they take it out on a safe target, someone who has already shown empathy. After all, shaming is no fun unless someone will play along and BE shamed. I’m also interested in why blogs like GT and Kathy Brennan get *huge numbers* of hits. Why do they have the time to read that hateful shit, but no time for real politics? Not as much fun, nothing to wallow in. You can’t be self righteous with fundys, doesn’t work.”

        With condescending friends like this, Daisy doesn’t need enemies.

        In case she never approves my own comment, I said the following:

        Actually, both I and other people commenting at Feministe did try to explain how much real damage is done with the anti-trans radical feminists (I don’t like the term radscum, since I think it plays into their hands), why they upset people so much (it has a great deal to do with expectations vs. lack of expectations), why it’s possible to oppose more than one group of people at one time, and why Daisy’s statements about things that radical feminists supposedly don’t do were entirely false. Kind of like your fatuous, sycophantic characterization of the general tenor of the Feministe comments, as if they consisted of mindless cheerleading. Nonsense. Oh, sorry if I’m taking too long to respond to Daisy’s question. The last time I checked, my comment hadn’t yet even appeared.

        And the fact is that I do have time for real politics, and have had time for several decades now. I may not quite have reached Daisy’s vintage, but I started personally engaging with political activity by going to antiwar demonstrations in the late 1960’s. And grew up hearing my father’s and mother’s stories about their own political activities, dating back to my father handing out leaflets for Al Smith in 1928, when he was 8 years old.

        And yes, not that I have to justify myself, but I do argue with conservatives and right-wingers about trans issues all the time. Few or none of them, by the way, engage in rhetoric as vile as the people on gendertrender or their ilk. (About whom you obviously know nothing, if you think that confronting them in their home venue does any good at all.)

        Not to mention that I view the very fact of my existence, living in the world as I do, as something of a political act.

        Look, I like a lot of Natalie Reed’s writing too, but I happen to disagree very strongly with her arguments about anti-trans radical feminists not being worth confronting.

        If Daisy’s question was, in fact, a genuine question — and I’m still skeptical, because it was immediately followed by a series of statements indicating exactly what her own opinion is — I think I’ve answered it.

        And although I’m much more of a First Amendment defender than many people I know, hate groups like DGR have no entitlement to a table at a conference. “Free speech” has nothing to do with it. I happen to believe it’s extremely important to deny people like that a platform to express their views, as much as possible. Nobody at that kind of conference would give a table to people spouting equivalent racist or homophobic rhetoric, and the DGR people are no better. More than 40 years ago, I stood next to my mother (a Holocaust survivor and child refugee) as she confronted some old Nazi handing out anti-Semitic literature from a table on a Manhattan street, and knocked it all onto the ground. Good for her. Too bad for him. And too bad for DGR. Maybe some of them will wake up and realize that their antediluvian opinions have no place in this world.


      • EG
        May 29, 2013 at 9:50 pm

        Whether or not her questions were genuine (and if they were, she’s a piss-poor writer, because they sure read like condemnatory, rhetorical questions to me), she needs to figure out why she chooses to ask trans people why they condemn radical feminists’ hate speech rather than asking radical feminists why they can’t accept trans people. That decision in itself speaks volumes.

      • bookshopcat
        May 30, 2013 at 10:08 am

        I was the first anon, Donna; I left a follow-up comment with my Feministe handle after her initial response, but there’s no hope in hell she’ll publish it- a polite summary of her actions that assesses them as “pathetic” and gives her a venue in which to respond to me almost certainly falls under ‘anonymous hate mail’ by her standards. It’s interesting to note that although her go-to response to criticism consists of “you’re all just stupid college-age girls who oughta fuck off until you can stop cluttering up Real Political Spaces with their illiterate derailing!”, the denizens of Feministe are Just Too Goshdarn Mean for her to do more than post her links and run for the hills her blog.

        Update: Yeah, I was right- she says she’s deleted my follow-up comment because it was “nasty”, “from a male”, and contained the observation that since I’m a trans bloke and you’re a legal professional who’s about old enough to be my mum, her knee-jerk assessment of her critics was wildly off-base. I’ll happily go to the barricades for everything else I said, but if bringing up your age to make a point was inappropriate, I’m truly sorry.

      • bookshopcat
        May 30, 2013 at 10:17 am

        Er, that should read “your illiterate derailing” rather than “their”. *hangs head in shame at early-morning editing skills*

      • Donna L
        May 30, 2013 at 7:36 pm

        Bookshopcat, I’m old enough to be many people’s mums — and yours too, if you’re at least 23, which is my son’s age! I don’t usually like to be reminded of it, but in this case, you had a good reason to point it out.

        Things are getting pretty vicious over there; not only am I now being personally attacked for caring only about the “call out” culture, and ignoring fee speech issues, and being self-righteous, and being unwilling to respond to what’s said there because all I care about is complaining to an audience at Feministe — my “posse”! — so I can be patted on the head, and yada yada. All kind of ironic, if you ask me, given Daisy’s position that she never comments here because it’s too hostile!

        But now I feel like my mother is being attacked, and maybe I shouldn’t have brought her up in the first place, but come on.

      • Donna L
        May 30, 2013 at 8:18 pm

        Honestly, I don’t think anyone there remotely “gets it,” and wouldn’t no matter what I say. Maybe I should just forget it at this point. I can’t win every battle! Sometimes withdrawing is the best tactic, but I hate to leave the impression that I’m somehow conceding that I’m wrong.

      • Donna L
        May 29, 2013 at 8:43 pm

        My update is in moderation.

    • May 29, 2013 at 10:04 pm

      Calls people stupid and illiterate—complains that Feministe is too hostile. LMAO. Ok.

    • trees
      June 2, 2013 at 12:05 am

      This is deeply disturbing and some of those comments are absolutely revolting. Scorning the actions of a Holocaust survivor when faced with Nazi propaganda in a place where she had a reasonable expectation of safety is simply beyond the pale. What does it mean to be an ally when you completely dismiss the perspectives of those you profess to support? I would think being an ally is more about on going action rather than an unquestioned state of being. I’m cis, but am marginalized on several other axes and when someone with more relative power shouts me down, purporting to be the better activist on issues that directly impact me, it is hurtful and enraging. It is striking that someone with so many years of movement experience doesn’t get how this approach is condescending and abusive.

  31. May 28, 2013 at 3:08 pm

    I reviewed a book about dying, Helen Garner’s The Spare Room.

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