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  1. Niall
    Niall June 1, 2014 at 5:54 pm |

    Once again, Thomas over at “Yesmeansyes” blog hits the nail on the head with his latest entry Guys, Can We Please For Two Weeks…”, in which he implores men to put a sock in it for a while and let women vent their anger and frustration over the misogyny of Elliot Rodger and his murders:

    I blew my stack on Facebook this morning, after reading one of the many threads where women are trying to have a conversation around the Isla Vista shooting and the #YesAllWomen hashtag campaign. I blew my stack because there are two things derailing these conversations. One is misogynist men trying deliberately to derail, deny and distract. The other is men who want to do the right thing, who mean well, but who feel the need to insert their insecurities, their disclaimers and clarifications and make the conversation about their feelings.


    So if you care what I think, I’m asking you to do this with me. Women need to let the anger and fear and frustration speak now, to know that we’re listening; and we need to hear it. Lots of us are going to have that queasy, “she thinks that might be me, and that’s totally not . ” feeling. Here’s what I want to do: just lock that down and keep in on ice until June 13. Don’t do the “not all men” thing, not even a little; don’t say it. Live the example, stand by the women you support and don’t let your insecurities get in the way. Let them know you by your works. If I need to vent about my feelings, I’ll do that in private with friends, not where the public conversations are happening.

    Excellent advice and I’m going to follow his example. I hope other guys do the same.

  2. EG
    EG June 1, 2014 at 11:55 pm |

    N.K Jemison, a great writer, was guest of honor at WisCon this year (after a year in which she was the target of racist misogynist vitriol–she’s a black woman–from one of SF’s most vocal slimebags), and she gave an amazing speech.

    Read her speech, read her books, bask in her awesomeness.

  3. BJ DuVall
    BJ DuVall June 2, 2014 at 10:34 pm |

    David Rees and Michael Kupperman take on MRA mentality, and New York Times decides not to print it because it is too sensitive. Link Here

  4. BJ DuVall
    BJ DuVall June 6, 2014 at 11:10 am |

    found this to be pretty great Link

  5. Sarah
    Sarah June 9, 2014 at 6:17 pm |

    Here in New Hampshire, a group of citizens called the Monadnock Community Coalition has formed to undo the damage being caused by extremists while also trying to make their region a nicer place in the process. Last weekend, some MCC members cleaned and repainted the gazebo in Keene’s Central Square, as shown in this video of Day One of that project.

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