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  1. trans_commie
    trans_commie June 7, 2014 at 12:39 am |

    My siblings helped me out with my plane ticket, so now I’m going to leave for the Bay Area in a week or so. I’m excited. My therapist also referred me to another therapist in the area I’m moving to, and she’s a woman, which I think is going to be really helpful for me.

    1. EG
      EG June 8, 2014 at 12:15 am |

      I’m excited for you, T_C! You deserve nothing but good things and a bright future!

    2. Scott Cunnningham
      Scott Cunnningham June 8, 2014 at 2:14 pm |

      Sounds great! I’m happy for you.

    3. khw
      khw June 8, 2014 at 6:06 pm |

      best wishes

  2. Matthew
    Matthew June 7, 2014 at 9:02 am |

    Finally left New York – had a wonderful four months there and already want to visit again at some point in the future. Worked in the Bronx and lived in West Harlem, Morningside Heights and Upper West Side, so got to see quite a bit of the city, as I attempted to figure out the subway system.

    Now back in the UK, and already miss the opportunity for pizza slices at any time during the day or night. Thanks to those for earlier suggestions about where to go. I managed to get quite a few touristy things done while I was there.

    p.s I’m half Kurdish and a little dark skinned, and thought it was amusing that quite a few white people would say ‘gracias’ in the supermarkets, assuming I was Hispanic.

    1. EG
      EG June 8, 2014 at 12:13 am |

      Glad you enjoyed the city! We’re nicer than we get credit for, generally…in my opinion, at least…

    2. Sharon M
      Sharon M June 9, 2014 at 6:06 am |

      I’m glad you enjoyed it. :) New York City residents are nice. That’s cute about the “gracias”.

  3. PrettyAmiable
    PrettyAmiable June 7, 2014 at 11:29 pm |

    If my asshole downstairs neighbors blast music and throw parties deep into the night, 311 doesn’t respond, and my management company is being less than helpful, are there any real downsides to setting off a loud alarm in my apartment at 7AM that I let loop? I already know management and 311 won’t do shit, but I’d like to figure out a way to direct the noise only down instead of up (I don’t think think the lateral apartments can hear anything from one another).

    If I go down and bang on their door every five minutes, can they call the cops on me for harassment? Any way they’d be sympathetic to the paper trail I’ve been leaving about the noise complaints?

    Fucking three years in this city, 2 in Saint Louis, and 4 in DC. Imagine how bad the noise has to be that I’ve literally never once been unable to sleep through the night in all this time.

    1. EG
      EG June 8, 2014 at 12:07 am |

      Have you talked to them about it? I hate doing that kind of thing, but it might work. Otherwise the only thing I can suggest is using earplugs and/or noise-cancelling headphones until the lease is up…or consulting a tenants’ rights lawyer, I guess…

      1. PrettyAmiable
        PrettyAmiable June 9, 2014 at 12:42 pm |

        I finally got ahold of my landlord who says she’ll contact both the resident and their guarantor. That’s right, I just tattled on my neighbors to their parents. I’d feel bad if I ever really felt comfortable in my own apartment. Fingers crossed!

    2. a lawyer
      a lawyer June 11, 2014 at 10:50 am |

      If the police are nonresponsive then generally, the steps are:

      1) Ask
      2) Ask/demand via certified mail, both landlord and tenant
      3) Get a lawyer.

      Steps #1 and 2 only should be done if they can be done safely. Because this is an issue of state law, you’ll need a lawyer (or a local tenant rights group) to tell you what rights you may have. Depending on where you live, you might be able to place at least some responsibility on your landlord.

  4. kittehserf
    kittehserf June 8, 2014 at 2:40 am |

    Eeee koalas!

    I’m within a few inches of finishing the sleeves on my Fleur jacket.

    There’s a mass union rally planned for the 12th in Melbourne, protesting against the fuckawful brutality of the Federal budget. Weather and time of the month permitting, I might go in and add to the numbers.

  5. DouglasG
    DouglasG June 8, 2014 at 2:12 pm |

    Delightful to see that Amelie Mauresmo will be coaching Andy Murray for the grass court season. It’s especially pleasing, after all the undeserved troubles of her playing days, to read:

    [And you won’t find a single person who comes into contact with her who doesn’t absolutely love her.]

  6. kittehserf
    kittehserf June 9, 2014 at 4:41 am |

    My circular coat is finished! Took just 19 days, and that was not some knitting marathon – only a couple of hours in front of the telly each night, and a few other hours here and there. Good thing winter’s so cold this year, it’s one helluva warm garment.

    1. Sharon M
      Sharon M June 9, 2014 at 5:59 am |

      Do you have another link? Cute as it is, the link just leads to the home page. I want to see your coat! :)

      1. kittehserf
        kittehserf June 9, 2014 at 9:34 pm |

        Whoops! Cheated by Ravelry. :P

        Here it is on imgur:



        1. BBBShrewHarpy
          BBBShrewHarpy June 9, 2014 at 9:43 pm |

          Fabulous! I need to design and knit my next creation and you’ve inspired me!

        2. kittehserf
          kittehserf June 10, 2014 at 3:50 am |

          Whoo, thank you, BBBShrewHarpy! The pattern’s free online, it’s Fleur by Berocco Yarns if you want details to base yours on.

        3. Sharon M
          Sharon M June 10, 2014 at 6:47 pm |

          That is fabulous!! I love it! ty

        4. kittehserf
          kittehserf June 11, 2014 at 3:05 am |

          Thank you, all! :)

  7. Fat Steve
    Fat Steve June 10, 2014 at 6:51 pm |

    My friend Paul just got a gig on this cruise, (he’s a stand up comic,) which I thought might be of interest to some folks on here:

    1. Donna L
      Donna L June 12, 2014 at 9:48 pm |

      It’s hardly the first such cruise, as the link claims — Amy Bloom wrote a (rather unpleasant, in my opinion) article about such a cruise for The Atlantic back in 2002 called “Conservative Men in Conservative Dresses” (and discussed it later in her book if I recall correctly), and I’m sure there have been others for years.

      I wish your friend luck, but whoever’s putting that cruise together ought to learn that emphasizing to “transgenders” (not a noun!) and crossdressers that this “is a straight cruise” (no homosexuals!) might be viewed as a little homophobic, and decidedly old-fashioned, in this day and age. But I’m sure there’s still an audience for that kind of thing, even though I wouldn’t be caught within 1000 miles of it. (Then again, I never even attended a trans conference.)

  8. pheenobarbidoll
    pheenobarbidoll June 12, 2014 at 2:14 am |

    I had to put my 14 year old wienie dog to sleep today. Shit just never ends.

    1. EG
      EG June 12, 2014 at 6:41 am |

      I’m very sorry, pheeno.

    2. trans_commie
      trans_commie June 12, 2014 at 8:15 am |

      :: hugs ::

    3. kittehserf
      kittehserf June 12, 2014 at 8:15 am |

      Pheeno, I’m so sorry.

    4. Donna L
      Donna L June 12, 2014 at 12:51 pm |

      I’m so sorry, Pheeno.

    5. PrettyAmiable
      PrettyAmiable June 12, 2014 at 5:12 pm |

      Oh, Pheeno. Big, big hearts.

    6. Caperton
      Caperton June 12, 2014 at 5:18 pm | *

      I’m so sorry.

    7. trees
      trees June 12, 2014 at 9:51 pm |

      Warm thoughts and yet more hugs.

    8. Sharon M
      Sharon M June 13, 2014 at 10:05 am |

      Pheeno: my deepest sympathies. I am on a pet loss chat room (and message board) and it’s been very supportive. It’s a 100% safe space, and a second family for many of us. Please join us if you want. There is also a Monday night candle ceremony, @ 10PM Eastern in the chat room.

      You don’t have to register for the chat room, the message board you do. My user name is the same as here. I’m so sorry Pheeno.

    9. Helen
      Helen June 23, 2014 at 5:59 am |

      Really really sorry to hear that, Pheeno.

  9. trans_commie
    trans_commie June 12, 2014 at 3:16 pm |

    Something really adorable happened last night. I was in a restaurant and I took my little step-brother (4 years old) to wash his hands in the men’s bathroom. He saw the sign and then looked at me and said “Why are we going in the guy’s bathroom? Are you a guy or a girl?” I was totally shocked to hear that from him, so I just said nothing and proceeded to lift him up to help him reach the sink. As he was drying his hands, he asked me “Am I a girl or a guy?” I told him “You can be whatever you want!” to which he responded with “Okay, I’m a girl then!” Little things like that brighten my day.

    1. kittehserf
      kittehserf June 12, 2014 at 9:33 pm |

      That is adorable, Ally! :)

    2. trees
      trees June 12, 2014 at 9:53 pm |

      Very cute!

    3. Sharon M
      Sharon M June 13, 2014 at 4:54 pm |

      that is sweet. :)

  10. a lawyer
    a lawyer June 13, 2014 at 11:12 am |

    I have to ask a completely random question which I have been wondering for ages:

    Where do you get your pictures? Who chooses them?

    Every time you post an open thread, someone manages to choose an unusually hilarious or otherwise excellent picture, which is always NON-viral enough that I’ve never seen it before and neither has anyone else that I show it to.

    Do you have some “open thread pictures” website somewhere?

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