Author Archives: Clarisse Thorn

About Clarisse Thorn

Clarisse Thorn is a Chicago-based, feminist, sex-positive activist and educator. Personal blog at; follow her on Twitter @clarissethorn; you can also buy her awesome book about pickup artists or her awesome best-of collection, The S&M Feminist.

“Confessions of a PUA Chaser” is OUT now! Also: Thank you, Feministe.

Pickup artists. Continue reading

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Some Transformative Justice Links

In the wake of recent conversations, I’ve been looking around for further resources on transformative justice. I haven’t been able to do a lot of intense follow-up on the topic lately, because in mid-January I had major spinal surgery (after breaking my neck in an accident back in 2011); this obviously has involved many painkillers and a lot of sleep and not-working as much as possible. However, I have been able to do some reading, and I want to share some of what I’ve found most compelling. Continue reading

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On Change and Accountability

This was written for and originally published at Role/Reboot.
Do we actually believe that people can change? If so, how do we want them to show us they’ve changed? Is absolution possible? Who decides the answers to these questions? Continue reading

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Orgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part of Sex

My latest piece at the girl-power site Off Our Chests: A month or two ago, I published a piece called A Unified Theory of Orgasm. In that piece, I talked about my own history, and how long I took to … Continue reading

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Sex, Drugs, Theology, Men & Feminism: Interview with Hugo Schwyzer

Role/Reboot regular contributor Hugo Schwyzer has an extremely controversial history that includes four marriages, substance abuse, and sexual behavior that he has since described as compulsive and destructive until he got clean and sober and turned his life around, beginning in 1998. Continue reading

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Die-In tonight; Tomorrow is International Day To End Violence Against Sex Workers

I’ve got some links to some event locations, great links and 101 materials about sex workers’ rights – feel free to link to your own posts about sex work, the International Day To End Violence Against Sex Workers, and relevant events in the comments. Continue reading

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Interview with a sex-positive feminist

Recently, I received an email from a student who is writing a paper about sex-positive feminism. He asked a bunch of questions; while I was reviewing those questions, I decided to just go ahead and post them plus my answers publicly (with the student’s consent, of course). Continue reading

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I Got Lucky — I Was Rejected

The last week was rough for me. In non-sex news, there have been problems with my healing — I broke my neck back in August, and while I was lucky enough to survive without paralysis, it’s a long and complex recovery process, and I recently learned that I’m in worse shape than we thought. So I’ve been in kind of a sad mood. Then, in sex news, a guy I really liked did the Let’s-Just-Be-Friends thing. Continue reading

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“If I Were A Poor Black Kid …” “If I Were A Slave Owner …”

Forbes ran this totally appalling thing titled “If I Were A Poor Black Kid” that is only interesting because of the amount of fail involved. On the bright side (?), at the end of it, they link to some of the outraged responses around the Internet. One of those responses is from Ta-Nehisi Coates. Continue reading

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You Can’t Date Half A Couple

My latest piece over at Off Our Chests: I currently approach my relationships as polyamorous, meaning that I prioritize being able to have multiple lovers and discussing the relationships honestly with everyone concerned. A while back, I wrote a piece … Continue reading

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Go Team Patriarchy

Here’s a Cat And Girl comic that always, always, always makes me crack up. Humorless feminists UNITE. (Transcription below the fold:

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“Twilight” as a cautionary tale about traditional gender roles

The most tragic part of the whole story is that this empty shell of a person – which at this point is nothing more than a frozen echo of Bella, twisted and destroyed as she is by her co-dependence with Edward, fails to see what has happened to her. She ends the story in denial – empty, annihilated, and having learned nothing. Continue reading

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