I Miss You Already.
Remember when we didn’t even know each other? I was just some guest, and you were just Feministe? Without knowing it, we embarked on a journey together; what an adventure it’s been! But, like all good roller coasters, this ride has come to an end. It flew by so much faster than I expected; I [...]
...read moreMe and You and Everyone We Don’t Know: A Reflection on Discourse
(Trigger/content warning: religious upbringing, childhood trauma) The past week has provided the opportunity for a lot of unexpected self-reflection. While a guest at Feministe, I am navigating more exposure, and more feedback, than I’ve ever experienced. Most aspects of this have been wonderful and fun. Predictably, some parts have been harder to swallow. I had [...]
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The Matinee Cure: A 1st World Solution to Heartbreak
(I am working on a bigger piece for Feministe, but thought I would post a few of my favorites from my “other” kind of writing in the mean time, which is to warn you that these are creative stories about dating, parenting, and other Los Angeles adventures.) [Trigger Warning: Sexual Content] My child’s classmates regularly [...]
...read moreA Simple Saturday Post: Leave Me Out of Your “Everyone,” Mr. Apatow.
I just wanted to quickly mention the trailer for the new Judd Apatow movie, “This is 40.” Of course, we all know that Hollywood is guilty of all sorts of offenses all of the time, but it seems rare even today to find one that is quite so up front with its surface-level exclusion. The [...]
...read moreHow Storytelling Saved My Memories
(Trigger warning: shame, drug/alcohol use.) There are so many things in my life that I used to be ashamed of. I have made mistakes bigger than I ever imagined I would or even could, and I have been through unforeseeable experiences that I wouldn’t wish upon anybody. I am very proud of the person I [...]
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And about Tattoos…
(I casually mentioned in my previous post that I might be concerned if my daughter got chest tattoos. I thought it might be interesting to look into that concern a little more.Take what you like and leave the rest.) In college I was a proud “dread-head,” going to a salon every 8 weeks to have [...]
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Daddy’s Little Girl
While my daughter was away, she—my beautiful, hilarious, little girl—started growing up. I don’t want her to bemoan the inevitable; she will grow up. She IS growing up. I want to be in complete control of the kind of woman she turns out to be: strong, smart, powerful, unstoppable, and feminist. I want that affirmation, and my routines, to be enough armor against the effects of a mostly-absent father.
But I can’t really—really really—control the woman she is becoming, regardless of which coast she’s on. So what’s a mother to do?
...read moreHello Feministe!
Squeee! Here I am; my guest blogging stint on Feministe begins. I feel incredibly humbled to have been invited into your vibrant community. The past three months have seen me preparing for your energetic discourse; I have been reading your posts and comments with fervor, keeping a dictionary and internet close by. To be frank, ya’ll intimidate the fuck out of me. Consider yourselves serious educators in modern gender politics. (I know you know that, “in defense of the sanctimonious women studies set” and all; for what it’s worth, allow me to validate that idea.) I am looking forward to this experience not only as an opportunity to write, but to learn. Please do not hesitate to school me in all things animal, vegetable, and mineral.
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