Author: Jaclyn

My Sluthood, Myself.

Last summer, I suffered the breakup of a relationship that I had thought would be permanent. Now, I’ve been through my share of break-ups, even of quite serious relationships, but nothing ever broke me like this one. Since then, I’ve…

On Sex & Compromise

I’m a huge advocate for the principle and practice of enthusiastic consent. In fact, it’s one of the main things I talk about whenever I open my mouth. For a whole range of reasons, I firmly believe that some baseline…

Well, hello there.

Fine readers of Feministe, thanks for having me! I’m Jaclyn (sometimes Jac, never, ever Jackie) and I’m tickled and, well, kinda nervous and excited to be joining the fray here for the next two weeks. About me: I’m a white…

Good Night, and Good Luck.

Well, it’s been quite the week, hasn’t it? My time here at Feministe is coming to an end, and I just wanted to say a quick thanks to Jill et. al. for handing over the keys to the Porsche. I…

How to Stop a Blog War.

Whatever you do, don’t ask the BlogWarBot! I’ve been weighing the different approaches being advocated in the comments threads about the recent attacks, and I’m torn. From where I sit, both sides (respond vs. ignore) have good arguments, as well…

Sleeping with the Enemy, Part 3

In which we discuss all those swirly questions about who I fuck(ed), why it matters, and whether or not we should even be discussing it at all. (For background on my sitch, and an ongoing discussion of the role of…

An Open Letter to Anonymous.

Dear Anonymous, Thank you for your organized campaign to silence us. That you would choose to devote so many hours and resources to your illegal and ill-fated efforts toward our demise is the highest compliment you could pay us. It…

Sleeping with the Enemy, Part 2

I know I promised to make Sleeping with the Enemy, Part 2 about what happens in your community, family & culture when you go from over a decade of queer relationships to dating a straight cisgender man, but honestly, I’m…