Author: Jay

Is It That Time Already?

Wow, it’s been two weeks. I wish I’d been able to write more, and participate more actively in the comment threads. I keep thinking “in a week or two, I won’t be this busy”, but it turns out that I…

Shabbat Shalom

I am home after a hectic day. Sam is taking the dogs to the kennel and picking up dinner on his way home – he’s been out of town, we’ve both been ridiculously busy at work, and we’re going away…

Why Blame the Feminists?

I’m always amazed when someone says that women hate housework because of feminism. You’ve seen those articles or heard those opinions: everything was just fine until those libbers came along and mucked it all up. Women were happy doing the…

Some Days

Some days I get tired. “Nurse, can you…”? “Please get the doctor for me.” “I’ll discuss that with the doctor when he comes in”. “Oh, you’re Dr. Jay? I was expecting a man”. It is not exaggerating when I say…

It’s Too Late, Baby

When Eve was about to turn 3, I arrived one afternoon to pick her up just as she had started to cook dinner in the play kitchen in her classroom. She asked to stay and play for a bit, so…

Where There’s Smoke

My dad quit smoking cigarettes in public in 1964, but he still smoked cigars (and snuck cigarettes at home) when I was a kid. My mother smoked cigarettes, publicly and a little defiantly. I’d been dating John for six months…

Lucky Lady

Originally published at Two Women Blogging “Aren’t you lucky! He helps around the house!” Yup. He helps. Because picking up his laundry, cooking his meals, paying his bills, and raising his child is by rights my job. Of course, my…

Friends Without Benefits

I found my ex-boyfriend on Facebook. Did you raise your eyebrows? What did you assume was going on? Do you think this is a good idea? How do you imagine this story will end? Would it change your mind if…

A Day In The Life

So what exactly does a hospice medical director do? I know you’ve been wondering since you read my intro post. Or perhaps you’ve been wondering what I mean by “hospice”. If you read Atul Gawande’s piece in the current issue…

Coming Around Again

I’m Jay, and my usual haunt is Two Women Blogging, where I blog with two other women (and yes, we know the math is wrong. We can count; we’re just too lazy to change the name). This is my third…