Jay

Is It That Time Already?

Wow, it’s been two weeks. I wish I’d been able to write more, and participate more actively in the comment threads. I keep thinking “in a week or two, I won’t be this busy”, but it turns out that I am this busy. Luckily, I like being this busy. Thanks to Jill and Cara and […]

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Shabbat Shalom

Shabbat Shalom

I am home after a hectic day. Sam is taking the dogs to the kennel and picking up dinner on his way home – he’s been out of town, we’ve both been ridiculously busy at work, and we’re going away this weekend for some last-chance grownup time before we pick Eve up at camp on […]

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Note text: life of repeated drudgery is "torture".

Why Blame the Feminists?

I’m always amazed when someone says that women hate housework because of feminism. You’ve seen those articles or heard those opinions: everything was just fine until those libbers came along and mucked it all up. Women were happy doing the cooking and cleaning and raising the children. Now they’re trying to have it all – […]

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From 1970, unfortunately.

Some Days

Some days I get tired. “Nurse, can you…”? “Please get the doctor for me.” “I’ll discuss that with the doctor when he comes in”. “Oh, you’re Dr. Jay? I was expecting a man”. It is not exaggerating when I say this: every working day since July of 1984, I have had to explain to somebody […]

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Sex Ed From My Mother’s Bookshelf

When I was three, my younger brother was born, and during her pregnancy my mother answered all my questions about how the baby got in and how the baby was going to get out. She was always open and accepting and honest with me, not just about the mechanics but also about the fun. She […]

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It’s Too Late, Baby

When Eve was about to turn 3, I arrived one afternoon to pick her up just as she had started to cook dinner in the play kitchen in her classroom. She asked to stay and play for a bit, so I sat down to watch, and noticed a couple of boys hovering next to the […]

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News Flash! Pre-meds Don’t Make Better Doctors!

A recent study in Academic Medicine challenges the conventional notions of what students need to do to prepare for medical school. Mt. Sinai Hospital has a program called HuMed, in which they offer guaranteed med school admission to college undergrads (sophomores and juniors) who are majoring in the humanities or social sciences, and they waive […]

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Where There’s Smoke

My dad quit smoking cigarettes in public in 1964, but he still smoked cigars (and snuck cigarettes at home) when I was a kid. My mother smoked cigarettes, publicly and a little defiantly. I’d been dating John for six months – most of my junior year of high school – before I found out he […]

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Lucky Lady

Originally published at Two Women Blogging “Aren’t you lucky! He helps around the house!” Yup. He helps. Because picking up his laundry, cooking his meals, paying his bills, and raising his child is by rights my job. Of course, my laundry and bills and meals are my job, too. Along with the playdates and the […]

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Friends Without Benefits

I found my ex-boyfriend on Facebook. Did you raise your eyebrows? What did you assume was going on? Do you think this is a good idea? How do you imagine this story will end? Would it change your mind if you knew that we broke up in 1978? I met John when I was 13; […]

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A Day In The Life

So what exactly does a hospice medical director do? I know you’ve been wondering since you read my intro post. Or perhaps you’ve been wondering what I mean by “hospice”. If you read Atul Gawande’s piece in the current issue of The New Yorker, you read about the way hospice works for some individuals and […]

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Coming Around Again

I’m Jay, and my usual haunt is Two Women Blogging, where I blog with two other women (and yes, we know the math is wrong. We can count; we’re just too lazy to change the name). This is my third time guest-blogging for Feministe. Thanks to Jill and Cara and Lauren and Chally and whoever […]

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