Author Archives: Tami

Goodbye and thank you

I can’t believe how quickly these two weeks have passed. There are at least two original posts that I had hoped to write, but now, alas, my time as a guest blogger is up. I have enjoyed contributing to this … Continue reading

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Raising the dead

originally published at What Tami Said I’ve been trying to raise the dead. With faded photographs, copied records, old death certificates, family hearsay and e-mails from long-lost cousins. I am an amateur family historian. And this is what I do. … Continue reading

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Marginalized folks shouldn’t always have to be “the bigger persons”

originally published September 2009 on What Tami Said Teaching moments are wonderful, but I think that no marginalized person is obligated to swallow justified hurt and anger to better “teach” the privileged or “squash” the mess or racism. That people … Continue reading

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Dispatches from Nappyville: The sensual pleasures

Originally published at What Tami Said Right now, the back left side of my hair is strangely puffy, fuller than the rest of my head. The curls there are stretched out and winding this way and that. You may surprised … Continue reading

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Are black women too religious to get married?

As I’ve previously blogged here, the media has a not-so-subtle obsession with the love lives of single black women. Recently, added more fuel to the fire, pondering, “Does the church keep black women single?” We’ve already learned from the … Continue reading

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Hello…it’s me

I started my blog What Tami Said three years ago because I missed writing for my own pleasure. I missed playing with words. I had done so little of this since college. Also, as a progressive black woman, I often … Continue reading

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