Category: Life

Because We Need and Deserve It: Pull it together, POTUS

Michelle Obama giving the stink-eye to the president as he cracks up during filming of their 2012 Christmas address

Surviving this year was an accomplishment. We invite you to take comfort, strength, and encouragement of President Barack Obama getting the irrepressible giggles during the filming of his first White House Christmas address.

The lighter side of sexual harassment

Cecily Strong, Saoirse Ronan, Kate McKinnon, Aidy Bryant, and Leslie Jones pose as pop princess in a music video about sexual harassment

The women of Saturday Night Live bring us a scathing bubblegum pop anthem letting those men bewildered by the recent sexual harassment allegations know that WOMEN LIVE IN A HELL OF MEN WHO CAN’T KEEP THEIR HANDS OR THEIR LIBIDOS TO THEMSELVES, AND NOW YOU’RE INVITED.

What men need to know about discussing sexual harassment

A shot from Game of Thrones with Arya and Sansa Stark standing on the snow-frosted battlements of Winterfell

I was talking with a group of guy friends recently, the sole woman amid a collection of dudes as they stream-of-consciousness workshopped their way to understanding the ongoing storm of sexual harassment accusations. It’s not a pleasant position to be in — I was glad to be able to help them understand things, but thinking about that stuff at that level and having to articulate it that way was exhausting and also made me want to go home and take, like, twelve showers. But they and others have asked what they need to know and what insights they need to have when discussing sexual harassment with women. So here’s some.

Because We Need It: Let It Go

A little girl sings "Let It Go" from Frozen as two girls behind her throw silver streamers for a magic-snow effect

Not because we need to let it go — we’re under no requirement to let anything go that we don’t want to, so there. But our president is an infant, and Alabama is preparing to put a monster in the U.S. Senate, and parts of Puerto Rico still don’t have water, but you know what? The snow-throwing effects here are great, and the costume change is even cooler, and the girls are adorable, and the acting isn’t half bad, either.

I am not my reproductive organs.

A rat terrier wearing a white terrycloth bathrobe

I don’t want to have kids. I don’t need or want to be defined by a biological process and a couple of organs that I don’t even need. Reproductive organs don’t define womanhood, and I am not my ladyregion, and conflating them doesn’t do anyone any good.

Because We Need It: Sorry, can’t pun at the moment

It almost feels too self-indulgent to enjoy even tiny lighthearted pleasures while people are dying and people are being attacked for protesting people dying. Almost. It could be argued that We Need It even more. And We Need It to double up on awesome women.

Help for Puerto Rico

Things are dire in Puerto Rico. They’re desperate for help. Here’s a quick rundown of what they’re facing, along with a (constantly updated) lists of ways we can help.

How to help with Texas — and what doesn’t help

Watching Hurricane (now Tropical Storm) Harvey ravage the western Gulf Coast, with no apparent intention of leaving before the entire region is under water, and feeling helpless? Reasonable. When what people need is to be literally boatlifted from their flooded homes, it’s hard to sit hundreds of miles away and feel like there’s nothing you can do to make anything better. But you can! There are things you can do to help.

Because We Need It: YOU DON’T.

You know how the world sucks, and everything is bad, and the U.S. president seems to be really trying to start a nuclear war, like a kid in middle school who talks big to show off to his friends but doesn’t realize that the other kid he’s messing with is dead serious when he talks about beating the crap out of the first kid? And the tech community is all “but what if women really are genetically bad at software” and women in said community are all “but no” and the community is all “hush woman, [DEATH THREAT]?” Well, here’s a guy on Twitter asking how to hit on a woman in the gym whose headphones should be an obvious sign that she DOES NOT WANT YOU TO DO THAT.