Category Archives: Life

Q&A: Talking to a Hot Guy?

Male geeks may think dating is easier for women, but any woman who’s endured modern dating hell will likely disagree. Partly the problem is mathematical – when women outnumber men, men have the leverage to set the terms. But then there are those girl geeks who really challenge themselves, gunning for guys they find “hotter” than themselves. This week’s episode lays out our tips for girls trying to flip gender scripts (with the usual transcript below)… Continue reading

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Quick hit: We Bought a Huge Effing House, and Now We Can’t Afford More Kids

An Elle Decor essayist has come out with a horrible confession: She and her husband sacrificed a child to buy their dream home.

(How awesome would it be if that were the actual story? “Our realtor didn’t mention the fiery, bottomless hellpit in the basement into which we have to throw a small child at the peak of the new moon to keep our mortgage rate low. She said it was a walk-in wine closet.”) Continue reading

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Love Wins: Same-sex marriage is legal in all 50 states

Today, the U.S. Supreme Court passed down its ruling on the question of same-sex marriage: By a 5-4 decision, states are required to license same-sex marriages and to honor marriages of same-sex couples from other states. Their ruling in Obergfell v. Hodges calls on the Fourteenth Amendment’s preservation of fundamental liberties and equal protection for all citizens. Continue reading

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Q&A: Talking to a Gamer Girl?

Romance is tough enough, but when one hails from a culture notorious for misogyny and entitlement, sometimes refreshers on the basics of dating are necessary. So when one bloke asked us for advice on talking to gamer girls, we did what any supportive friend would do – we circulated his question amongst our geek feminist friends, seeking unfiltered input on how to level up one’s social skills. The result was this video, though for speed readers we’ve included an equally amusing transcript… Continue reading

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Kids, consent, and hugging Grandma whether you want to or not

When it comes to kids and hugs, I fall strongly, strongly on the side of “only if they want to.” I’m a hugger under many circumstances, and the U.S. Deep South certainly encourages it. That said, I’m not an indiscriminate hugger, and even as an adult woman I resent being expected to submit to hugs when I don’t want to as a condition of friendliness, or because the hugger is old/”harmless”/etc. Continue reading

Posted in Parenthood, Rape Culture, relationships | 13 Comments

Open Thread with Bear Photobomb

Three Victorian women and a bear feature for this week’s Open Thread. Please natter/chatter/vent/rant on anything* you like over this weekend and throughout the week. Continue reading

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Apologies, Explanations, and Temporary Sign-Off

Trigger warning: pregnancy-related health emergencies Hello all, I’m really, really sorry I dropped off the face of the earth. I didn’t mean to. At first it was just an unfortunate concatenation of events (somebody should organize an F/SF con called … Continue reading

Posted in Blogging, Health, Life, Medicine, Parenthood | 19 Comments

One Alabama lawmaker proposes just getting the courts out of the marriage business

With Alabama’s recent, brief, chaotic attempt at marriage equality in mind, Republican Sen. Greg Albritton has proposed Senate Bill 377 to “bring order out of chaos,” he says. Under the proposed law, which passed the Senate Judiciary Committee in April, the probate’s office would no longer issue marriage licenses — in fact, couples wouldn’t need licenses at all to get married. Continue reading

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Open Thread with Toppled Pole

This highway-blocking blown-down power pole that happened just down the road from me features for this week’s Open Thread. Please natter/chatter/vent/rant on anything* you like over this weekend and throughout the week.
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Privacy Matters: the Personal, the Public and the Police

Digby at Hullabaloo notes that occasionally even David Brooks can be correct: privacy for normal citizens going around their everyday personal, family and community lives is essential for our very sanity, which is why the question of government agencies monitoring our every keystroke is such an important question of liberty. But as Brooks points out in his NYT op-ed and as Digby elucidates further, privacy for police officers on duty is a very different question. Continue reading

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Open Thread with Strelitzia

A strelitzia flower features for this week’s Open Thread. Please natter/chatter/vent/rant on anything* you like over this weekend and throughout the week.
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Want to do something for Autism Awareness Month?

This series of tweets from @twoscooters sums up the major division in autism activism – the parents of autistic children not listening to the opinions of adults living with autism based on their own life experiences, and too many media and medical organisations siding with those parents: Continue reading

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