Category Archives: Dating

Q&A: Dating When You’re Fat?

Can you imagine a society where 75 per cent of folks are gay, yet society is still as homophobic as the Duggar clan? That’s pretty much what fat people deal with every day, so we’ve made this far-reaching topic the crux of the last episode of this summer miniseries… Continue reading

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Q&A: Avoiding Looking Creepy?

A substantial subset of the geek population wants to help with propagating their species, and a substantial subset of that even aspires to do so without creeping out others. In today’s episode, let’s explore the differences between creepiness and social awkwardness… Continue reading

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Q&A: Avoiding the Friend Zone?

Whether one believes the friend zone is real or not, today’s dating advice should have a positive effect on anyone’s love life. In this week’s episode, we even try to shoot for a bit more maturity, which you can judge in the transcript below… Continue reading

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Q&A: Talking to a Hot Guy?

Male geeks may think dating is easier for women, but any woman who’s endured modern dating hell will likely disagree. Partly the problem is mathematical – when women outnumber men, men have the leverage to set the terms. But then there are those girl geeks who really challenge themselves, gunning for guys they find “hotter” than themselves. This week’s episode lays out our tips for girls trying to flip gender scripts (with the usual transcript below)… Continue reading

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Q&A: Talking to a Gamer Girl?

Romance is tough enough, but when one hails from a culture notorious for misogyny and entitlement, sometimes refreshers on the basics of dating are necessary. So when one bloke asked us for advice on talking to gamer girls, we did what any supportive friend would do – we circulated his question amongst our geek feminist friends, seeking unfiltered input on how to level up one’s social skills. The result was this video, though for speed readers we’ve included an equally amusing transcript… Continue reading

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Sydney Leathers would like to teach you how to sext

This is the worst, most link-baity thing on the internet today, so of course I am biting: Syndney Leathers of Anthony Weiner sexting fame is on xoJane (where else?) teaching you how to sext a politician. Continue reading

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Your Weekly Lachenweinen: College student fights for men’s equality

Here’s something that should make you smile-cry of a Monday morning: Feminism has met its goals and achieved what it set out to do, and we’ve become equal both in education and in the job market. We’re on top, and that’s why men can slack off and make C’s. It’s time, says University of Nebraska senior Zach Nold, for men to jump up on that pedestal next to women as equals. Continue reading

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Courtship is dead; dating has never been better

My latest in the Guardian about those Women Today trend pieces, and how courtship hasn’t existed for several decades but dating is perhaps better than ever. A bit:

Change is always scary, and I am sure plenty of commentators throughout history whined that the warmth of fire wasn’t as satisfying as body heat, the flushing toilet less authentic than the chamber pot, the buggy not nearly as charming as the covered wagon. But alas, things change; humanity moves forward and adjusts. Young college students “pinning” their girlfriends in the 1950s was not exactly a centuries-old tradition. A more authentic marriage proposal – being sold into matrimony by your father, and taking few rights with you – is one that I’m sure most women are happy to leave behind.

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It’s still January, but the New York TImes may have just published the worst piece of 2013

Alex Williams at the Times is concerned. Very. Concerned. Alex is concerned that courtship may be over — young ladies don’t get asked on dates any more, they just receive 5am texts from nightclub bouncers saying, “sup.” Continue reading

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I also kick men in the shins when they try to hold the door for me

Yesterday, I did a HuffPost Live segment on paying and dating — specifically, if you’re on a mixed-gender date, who should pick up the check? Back in the day paying was a dude’s responsibility, but now it’s less clear. So I got to be the crabby feminist talking about who I think should pay, and how to negotiate date payment. And as a response, my mug ended up on the homepage of AOL (awesome) with a caption that could have just as easily read, “Jill Filipovic, leader of the online castrati” (less awesome). You can watch the whole video here, but a basic summary of my points (and a bit of expansion on some of them): Continue reading

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The Matinee Cure: A 1st World Solution to Heartbreak

(I am working on a bigger piece for Feministe, but thought I would post a few of my favorites from my “other” kind of writing in the mean time, which is to warn you that these are creative stories about … Continue reading

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Finances and Relationships

Over at The Hairpin, A Married Dude is advising a woman whose husband is wonderful and great and supportive but refuses to contribute a single cent to her six-figure law school loans. The advice-seeker writes: Continue reading

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