An Asexual Map for Sex-Positive Feminism
As it currently stands, many asexual people often describe the sex-positive movement as unsafe for them. This is a problem that needs to be addressed by the community.
...read moreYou Can’t Date Half A Couple — Redux
One of the awesome things about writing about sex and relationships is that when my romantic life gets weird, I can feel extra productive about it — not just because I’m learning Exciting Life Lessons, but because it will doubtless yield an excellent column or blog post someday. Sometimes it yields a column almost immediately!
...read moreA Place to Lay My Heart
I often read Modern Love for laffs because it is often ridiculous and self-indulgent and overly-dramatic — in a great, great way — but this week’s version, by Elisabeth Eaves, is most genuinely good one I’ve read in a while (and “good” as in “actually good,” not as in “makes me snicker and that is [...]
...read moreOrgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part of Sex
My latest piece at the girl-power site Off Our Chests: A month or two ago, I published a piece called A Unified Theory of Orgasm. In that piece, I talked about my own history, and how long I took to learn how to orgasm. Basically, learning how to orgasm took a long time and a [...]
...read moreI Got Lucky — I Was Rejected
The last week was rough for me. In non-sex news, there have been problems with my healing — I broke my neck back in August, and while I was lucky enough to survive without paralysis, it’s a long and complex recovery process, and I recently learned that I’m in worse shape than we thought. So I’ve been in kind of a sad mood. Then, in sex news, a guy I really liked did the Let’s-Just-Be-Friends thing.
...read moreYou Can’t Date Half A Couple
My latest piece over at Off Our Chests: I currently approach my relationships as polyamorous, meaning that I prioritize being able to have multiple lovers and discussing the relationships honestly with everyone concerned. A while back, I wrote a piece called My Top Questions About Dealing With Multiple Lovers, in which I mused about some [...]
...read more“Twilight” as a cautionary tale about traditional gender roles
The most tragic part of the whole story is that this empty shell of a person – which at this point is nothing more than a frozen echo of Bella, twisted and destroyed as she is by her co-dependence with Edward, fails to see what has happened to her. She ends the story in denial – empty, annihilated, and having learned nothing.
Most watertight breakup letter ever
A lady friend of mine who happens to be an incipient lawyer recently broke up with her boyfriend. The boyfriend sent her a long post-breakup email (we’ve all sent that email). She composed a 100% kind, sweet, watertight response that could not possibly engender any further criticism or argument on his part. It is my [...]
...read moreStorytime: The Tell-Tale Ring
For the next month or two, I’m going to be contributing weekly pieces to the girl-power website Off Our Chests. Here’s my latest. Snip: So, I have this ex. I dated him for a long time, but we haven’t really talked in ages. I suspect that I hurt him pretty bad when he dated; he [...]
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Love, by Tom Waits
“She’s Amelia Earhart and Jane Goodall and Joan Jett all rolled into one … I feel like sometimes I have a map in my pocket that folds up and I pull it out and it’s bigger than the table and there are a 1,000 places to go with her.” Full interview here.
...read moreJaclyn Friedman on “What You Really Really Want”
Awesome interview done by Salon’s Tracy Clark-Flory with Jaclyn Friedman on Jaclyn’s new book — What You Really Really Want: A Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide To Sex And Safety. Snip from the interview’s intro: Jaclyn Friedman is the sex educator of many parents’ nightmares. She’s also just the teacher young women need. The 39-year-old activist [...]
...read moreMarriage, Singledom, Social Evolution, and that Kate Bolick piece in “The Atlantic”
Okay, so. Since I am a Feminist Commentator ™, many folks have asked my opinion on a piece that recently ran in “The Atlantic” called “All The Single Ladies“, by Kate Bolick. Many of you have probably already seen Bolick’s piece — I’ve got a roundup of a few relevant links and snips at the [...]
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