An Asexual Map for Sex-Positive Feminism
As it currently stands, many asexual people often describe the sex-positive movement as unsafe for them. This is a problem that needs to be addressed by the community.
...read moreYou Can’t Date Half A Couple — Redux
One of the awesome things about writing about sex and relationships is that when my romantic life gets weird, I can feel extra productive about it — not just because I’m learning Exciting Life Lessons, but because it will doubtless yield an excellent column or blog post someday. Sometimes it yields a column almost immediately!
...read moreReminds me of me when I was her age (if I’d been a badass)
I spent a good twenty minutes trying to come up with some kind of commentary here so it would seem like I’ve made a personal contribution to the post, but it turns out when you have a thirteen-year-old girl who speaks more eloquently on subjects like slut-shaming and sexual double standards than a lot of adults I know, it’s best to just leave the talking to her.
Be my friend, Astrorice.
[Transcript, and more of my blathering, after the jump]
...read moreReligion and Modesty
Some excellent thoughts from an Orthodox rabbi:
...read moreThe ultra-Orthodox men in Israel who are exerting control over women claim that they are honoring women. In effect they are saying: We do not treat women as sex objects as you in Western society do. Our women are about more than their bodies, and that is why their bodies must be fully covered.
The Parallels Between Breast Augmentation and FGM
...read moreBut even if FGM were carried out in the best of clinical conditions on a consenting adult woman, we call it a human rights violation. Why? Because it is an intervention which is carried out solely to satisfy stereotyped notions of what a women could or should be, and which has:
1. no discernible health benefits;
2. a negative impact on women’s sexual health; and
3. permanent effects on women’s health more generally.
The Sexual Counterrevolution
A very good article by Tracy Flory-Clark about the GOP’s war on sex – as we’re all getting more liberal in the bedroom, conservatives are trying to turn back the clock. It’s what Susan Faludi was talking about 20 years ago.
...read moreThe best thing you will read today about Breaking Dawn
And vampire-fetus-babies and misogyny and female desire and abuse and rough sex and mother-martyrs:
...read moreWelcome to the twisted glory that is Mormon housewife turned teen-lit sensation Stephenie Meyer’s imagination.
On the pages of Breaking Dawn Meyer let that imagination, which has been hovering under the repressed surface of the series’ previous three books, run rampant: Bedboard-breaking, feather-spilling, bruising honeymoon sex. A demonic pregnancy that grows so fast the fetus is nudging and jumping around the heroine’s womb days after conception. A grown-up werewolf falling in love with a half-vampire infant. And our heavily-pregnant heroine sipping blood from a soda cup–and loving it–just before her ribs and spine are shattered by the immortal spawn she’s carrying. It gets better: a c-section performed by vampire teeth. A shot of venom straight to the heart. A crazed childless vampire woman who will protect the fetus at all costs.
Orgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part of Sex
My latest piece at the girl-power site Off Our Chests: A month or two ago, I published a piece called A Unified Theory of Orgasm. In that piece, I talked about my own history, and how long I took to learn how to orgasm. Basically, learning how to orgasm took a long time and a [...]
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Snakes on a Plane
A reader asks Slate, what’s the appropriate response when someone is watching porn on a plane?
...read moreSex, Drugs, Theology, Men & Feminism: Interview with Hugo Schwyzer
Role/Reboot regular contributor Hugo Schwyzer has an extremely controversial history that includes four marriages, substance abuse, and sexual behavior that he has since described as compulsive and destructive until he got clean and sober and turned his life around, beginning in 1998.
...read moreInterview with a sex-positive feminist
Recently, I received an email from a student who is writing a paper about sex-positive feminism. He asked a bunch of questions; while I was reviewing those questions, I decided to just go ahead and post them plus my answers publicly (with the student’s consent, of course).
...read moreI Got Lucky — I Was Rejected
The last week was rough for me. In non-sex news, there have been problems with my healing — I broke my neck back in August, and while I was lucky enough to survive without paralysis, it’s a long and complex recovery process, and I recently learned that I’m in worse shape than we thought. So I’ve been in kind of a sad mood. Then, in sex news, a guy I really liked did the Let’s-Just-Be-Friends thing.
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