Sex

Orgasms Aren’t My Favorite Part of Sex

My latest piece at the girl-power site Off Our Chests: A month or two ago, I published a piece called A Unified Theory of Orgasm. In that piece, I talked about my own history, and how long I took to learn how to orgasm. Basically, learning how to orgasm took a long time and a [...]

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Snakes on a Plane

Snakes on a Plane

A reader asks Slate, what’s the appropriate response when someone is watching porn on a plane?

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Interview with a sex-positive feminist

Recently, I received an email from a student who is writing a paper about sex-positive feminism. He asked a bunch of questions; while I was reviewing those questions, I decided to just go ahead and post them plus my answers publicly (with the student’s consent, of course).

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I Got Lucky — I Was Rejected

The last week was rough for me. In non-sex news, there have been problems with my healing — I broke my neck back in August, and while I was lucky enough to survive without paralysis, it’s a long and complex recovery process, and I recently learned that I’m in worse shape than we thought. So I’ve been in kind of a sad mood. Then, in sex news, a guy I really liked did the Let’s-Just-Be-Friends thing.

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You Can’t Date Half A Couple

My latest piece over at Off Our Chests: I currently approach my relationships as polyamorous, meaning that I prioritize being able to have multiple lovers and discussing the relationships honestly with everyone concerned. A while back, I wrote a piece called My Top Questions About Dealing With Multiple Lovers, in which I mused about some [...]

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Live Chat with Jaclyn Friedman: Send In Your Questions

We had a livechat scheduled with Jaclyn Friedman, author of What You Really Really Want this afternoon, but since we only received a small number of questions we’re going to push it back until next week. In the mean time, watch last week’s interview and send in any questions to have to feministe@gmail.com (or leave [...]

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Teenagers: Way More Boring Than We All Thought

It turns out that teenagers are not even sexting that much. Ugh, teenagers. Don’t you know that adults’ lives are so horrifyingly boring that we have to occupy ourselves by harping on you young, adventurous things doing stupid crap like sending each other nudie pics with your fancy portable telephones? I just retired my flip-phone [...]

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Jaclyn Friedman on What You Really Really Want, Plus Live Chat Next Week

Two weeks ago, I had the great pleasure of interviewing author, activist, speaker, former Feministe guest-blogger and my friend Jaclyn Friedman. Jaclyn’s latest book, What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl’s Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety is out now, and should go on every Smart Girl’s reading list (it also makes for a [...]

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Storytime: The Tell-Tale Ring

For the next month or two, I’m going to be contributing weekly pieces to the girl-power website Off Our Chests. Here’s my latest. Snip: So, I have this ex. I dated him for a long time, but we haven’t really talked in ages. I suspect that I hurt him pretty bad when he dated; he [...]

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