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And just when you thought the Good Men Project couldn’t get any worse…

They put up this piece by a self-identified rapist, saying that he would rather keep partying and raping than take responsibility and stop (obviously trigger warning on the rest of this piece). I’ll tell you now: There’s nothing particularly insightful or interesting about the piece, which I’m not linking to because GMP is not getting any traffic from me (the relevant bits are copied and pasted below). It’s by a dude who parties a lot, and says that because he’s so inebriated and his partners are so inebriated he just doesn’t know when he has consent or not, so he is probably a rapist (and in fact one woman told him he raped her), but also he’s a good dude and doesn’t really know and this is all so messy, and he likes partying and has just come to realize that a little raping is the price of entry to his lifestyle.

Good Men Project editor Joanna Schroeder then actually manages to make the publication decision more indefensible and despicable by publishing her explanation of why the GMP published a rapist’s story. Again, there’s nothing particularly insightful about it. It’s that Joanna thinks that alcohol and drugs cause rape. Partying makes things confusing, she says, and it’s not a rape victim’s fault exactly, but it’s apparently not a rapist’s fault exactly either. Because these things are so confusing and messy and murky! And we must talk about it and figure out why rapist rape!

Good Men Project editor Joanna Schroeder then actually manages to make the publication decision more indefensible and despicable by publishing this, her explanation of why the GMP published a rapist’s story. Again, there’s nothing particularly insightful about it. It’s that Joanna thinks that alcohol and drugs cause rape. Partying makes things confusing, she says, and it’s not a rape victim’s fault exactly, but it’s apparently not a rapist’s fault exactly either. Because these things are so confusing and messy and murky! And we must talk about it and figure out why rapist rape! Continue reading

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Who’s to blame for rape?

Rapists, perhaps? No, silly rabbit, loose women are to blame when someone sexually assaults them. Apparently a sizable portion of the Scottish population believes that women are at least partially to blame for their own rapes if they do things … Continue reading

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Sleeping with the Enemy, Part 1

I’m doing it. And I’ve got a lot to say about it. The background: I’m a queer-identified femme who’s now dating a cisgender man after a decade and a half of dating exclusively women, genderqueers & transmen. As you might … Continue reading

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That’s one way to discredit feminist bloggers

Attribute the words of their commenters to the bloggers themselves. Fox News lies about Feministing I just found this and I’m pissed the fuck off. “iFeminist” Wendy McElroy has written a piece for Fox News, Continuing to Defame the ‘Duke … Continue reading

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Because bitches is crazy

Sexual consent is so annoying. It, like, totally kills the mood. Isn’t sex so much better when you’re just doing whatever you want to your partner, without any regard for their feelings or physical well-being? I mean, if you force … Continue reading

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Score one for the rapists

Well this is good news for sexual assaulters everywhere: A Maryland appellate court has ruled that consent cannot be withdrawn once sex has started. This is an incredibly frightening ruling. It essentially means that once penetration occurs, you have no … Continue reading

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Intimate Partner Violence Looks Like This

It looks like egalia’s daugther. The tactic egalia employs here — outing the man who did this to her baby, naming and shaming him — is one that I first read about in Cunt, by Inga Muscio. Muscio suggests using … Continue reading

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How Do We Stop Rape?

Apparently, rape would totally end if only those irresponsible women would quit binge drinking. I think that my problem with it is this : In Britain right now we have a massive explosion of female binge drinking (aka Minge Drinking) … Continue reading

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More UK Rapists Going Free

The number of rapists being cautioned rather than jailed has more than doubled over the past decade, it emerged today. Home Office figures revealed 40 rapists had been cautioned in 2004 while there were 19 cautions in 1994, the Times … Continue reading

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Doctor, It Hurts When I Do This

The whole of American society’s response to rape, it seems, runs along the lines of the old bad joke in which the patient says “Doctor, it hurts when I do this.” Society’s response: “So don’t do that.” “Don’t go out … Continue reading

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Women Speak on Rape

DED Space discusses what it means when rapists have culture on their side. Echidne of the Snakes takes apart Steve Gilliard’s prescriptive etiquette for women, in other words, his essay on How Not To Get Raped (Echidne later provides an … Continue reading

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