In all the discussion of sex and consent — and there’s been a lot of it, and it’s not all recent, and unfortunately it doesn’t change all that much for all that the debate is pretty much constant — a recurring theme is the idea of somehow recording consent and negotiating it in an official context to avoid any confusion. Now, a smartphone app is available to address that. Available for iPhone and Android, the Good2Go app encourages prospective sexual partners to assess consent — electronically — before embarking on their sexual adventures.
And they choose sex every time. My latest in the Guardian:
I talked to Karley from Slutever at Vice about virginity — why the whole idea is harmful and when to “lose” it (although for the record, I don’t even buy that virginity is a real thing). If any kind Feministe reader has some time this afternoon to write up a transcript of the video, that would be much appreciated. Apologies that I am swamped for the next few days and do not have the ability to transcribe right now. And, you know, it’s Vice, so prepare for hefty doses of irony and irreverence (again for the record, I think Karley is awesome and hilarious; it’s just not typical feminist blog fodder).
Everything about this interview is fantastic. The interviewer, the interviewee, the questions, the answers… it is really really really fantastic. [Trigger warning at that link for description of sexual assault].
Is there anything wrong with delaying sexual activity? Certainly not. There are plenty of reasons to do that. If your reason is that “Jesus will think I’m a slut,” of course, that’s problematic. Or is it? Take Fox News abstinence columnist (yes, that’s a thing) Steven Crowder–who is himself abstinent no more. Having patiently and virtuously saved himself for marriage, Crowder now has become an honest-to-God husband, complete with a beautiful, meaningful wedding night full of the best sex he’s had in his entire life. And that makes him better than you.
The lovely Kate Carraway let me weigh in on her advice column this week in response to a question about workplace sex-talk — that is, someone wrote in to complain that they feel their co-workers are judging their sex life. You can read Kate’s response, with a few thoughts from yours truly, here. The summary: Have whatever kind of sex you want, but STFU about sex when you’re at work. Even if your workplace is cool.
Oh man, everything about all of these questions and answers makes me uncomfortable, but especially this one:
Better feminists than I have written entire books on this topic (see The Purity Myth: How America’s Obsession with Virginity Is Hurting Young Women), but damn if this Hairpin interview with a lapsed Christian virgin doesn’t illustrate just how messed up “purity” messages can make young women.
“HH4L is something I believe in. We have the potential — and are building the momentum to — impact the culture at large. Not just Hip Hop culture. I’ve seen myself transformed through this work. I know and believe to my core that we can reach folks with what we do.”
As I mentioned in my last post, I spent a long time without getting a period. Occasionally my doctor prescribed me some progestin to initiate withdrawal bleeding (it’s believed that build up of menstrual tissue without occasional bleeding increases risk…
The other day one of my seven year old daughter’s guinea pigs died and it is the first death my two kids have dealt with up close and they love their guinea pigs, and I do, too, and so it…