Tag Archives: stereotypes

Why Janay Rice stayed

[Trigger warning for domestic violence]

Short answer: We don’t know, and it’s not for us to know or judge. Continue reading

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What Racism Looks Like

As usual, Ta-Nehisi Coates is correct, and cuts right through the standard rhetoric to truth:

In modern America we believe racism to be the property of the uniquely villainous and morally deformed, the ideology of trolls, gorgons and orcs. We believe this even when we are actually being racist. In 1957, neighbors in Levittown, Pa., uniting under the flag of segregation, wrote: “As moral, religious and law-abiding citizens, we feel that we are unprejudiced and undiscriminating in our wish to keep our community a closed community.”

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How not to be a creep

A lot of dudes really flip out in response to the term “creep.” It’s so UNFAIR to call them creeps! The word “creep” is ableist because there are dudes on the autism spectrum who have difficulty socializing and reading social cues and they can’t help being creepy! Etc etc. The take-away seems to be that women just need to tolerate creepy dudes because feeling like your personal safety is being consistently threatened (and running the risk of being told “Well why didn’t you DO something about that creep sooner?” if your personal safety is actually violated) is a small price to pay in the service of not making one dude feel kinda sad. Which is why I really appreciate when dudes who maybe do have problems reading social cues are told they’re being creepy and instead of getting mad at the person telling them that fact, they take steps to change their behavior. Like Ben here, who is interviewed over at the Hairpin in an excellent piece, and who seems like a really interesting and lovely person: Continue reading

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Well hello there

Hello to everybody at Feministe, and thanks Jill for this chance to guest-blog. This is a much bigger gig than the one I usually do over at my place, so I’m understandably a bit nervous. So I’m going to calm … Continue reading

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Arrested by the Fashion Police

Check out these Iranian policewomen: On one hand, these women are pretty badass. On the other, they’re police officers for an authoritarian government in a country rife with human rights violations. So while I think it’s fantastic that these women … Continue reading

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Why You Should Marry a Doormat*

Or, Forbes explains why smart men everywhere** should avoid those nasty career women. 1. You are less likely to get married to her. And I thought that men were marriage-phobic and had to be corralled into the chapel. So wouldn’t … Continue reading

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It responds

(Update: Malibu Stacy pointed out that the Gonzster might be using a Spinal Tap still. I should have known better, even though I’ve never seen the film myself. The quotidian discrimination and harassment a transsexual deals with would be as … Continue reading

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Transsexual Horndog Menace

I got my first real transphobic right-wing troll! Well, not counting that guy who wanted to make sure I told my partners first because they might kill themselves if they accidentally had sex with a transguy. I know it’s naive, … Continue reading

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Have We Learned Nothing From Our Previous Conversations?

Kevin. Kevin! No you didn’t! Are you serious? Don’t tell a woman she has no sense of humor if she responds to a post that isn’t funny. Your post was not funny! It might be real cool that you’re going … Continue reading

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NPM: Yellow Rage

You wanna butter me up like you butter your rice and tie me down to your bed of stereotypes. Via Shannon, this slam poetry duo of two Philly-based, Asian-American women kicks some serious ass. They are sarcastic, righteous, defiant, funny, … Continue reading

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